2687. Wisdom from Miss Gina

NOTE: It seems men in at least one big city have a new standard. Lady Aidos reports “It’s been astonishing to me how many men walk away after I refuse sex *on a second date*. It’s been the majority [after dozens of dates, NOV-APR].” Miss Gina offers appropriate self-help.



Dear Lady Aidos,

I understand your comment that being rejected can be draining. But consider a slightly different perspective. Try going into the date with an open but educated mind about the male nature…you already understand what is likely to happen, so you have your shields up…while giving him a small window of opportunity to prove himself. It is ok to be a bit cool and aloof toward the gentleman…remember how so many men go crazy over women who are downright mean–they represent a challenge. (I don’t recommend meanness, but a little impatience with or skepticism of a man can trigger his challenge reflex.) If you watch romantic movies from the 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s, (early 60’s too), the women are often good examples. [Guy says: Movie lists are available at posts 2039, 1369, 1242, 1224, and 541.] *You* are the one in the driver’s seat, and *you* are screening through many unworthy men. Most will move on, which is what makes them unworthy of you–*not* you unworthy of them. You only have to find one. Just this small change in perspective can make it easier on you and make you more attractive at the same time.

Miss Gina


Filed under courtship, feminine, How she wins, old school

9 responses to “2687. Wisdom from Miss Gina

  1. prettybeans

    Lovely Lady Gina! A little ‘feistiness’ and ‘sass’ goes a long way. It sort of shows that you know what you bring to the table and that you are not afraid to eat alone as it were..

    Meanwhile Sir Guy, isn’t it your birthday tomorrow? May I be the first to wish you a very very happy birthday. It’s your birthday but methinks that you are truly the gift that keeps on giving and you have been most generous in sharing your knowledge with us. A man is never more handsome than when he’s so selfless

    God bless you Sir

    Your Highness Prettybeans,
    It’s the prettiest of gals who cannot accept masculine modesty (if there is such a thing).

    • Miss Gina

      It’s an honor to have thoughts featured here. 😀

      Happy Birthday, Sir Guy. You are making a difference that makes ripples through the generations. I’m already training my 8-year-old great-nieces because of this blog.

      Best regards

  2. Ash

    Golden advice, couldn’t agree more.

  3. My Husband's Wife

    I always love hearing from Miss Gina! To Lady Aidos: So impressed by your ability to follow your feminine nature while dating in our modern free-sex culture. I know it’s not easy at all! Thanks for being one who raises the bar by sticking to your principles.

  4. 1jarofclay

    Exactly! He should be the one worried about whether you will choose him, not the other way around! You should feel confident and have fun most of the time. Turn the tables on men, ladies!


  5. msarianne

    Great, great advice Lady Gina! Kudos to you and thank you Sir Guy for giving it is own space for future access.
    A warm and loving Happy Birthday to a true gentleman that is never more handsome than when he generously and lovingly guides us ladies to becomig our best selves.
    Love ❤

  6. Happy birthday Sir Guy. May your day be as blessed as you make mine.

  7. Meow Meow

    Happy Birthday gallant Sir.

  8. Femme

    Happy birthday Sir Guy,
    and just wanted to add that as Miss Gina above I have been using this blog’s content to educate the next generation.
    My teenage son asked me when the best time to have sex was and I knew exactly what to say.
    My upbringing was mostly secular so I find your blog really useful in such moments.
    Thank you.

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