2690. Tradeoffs in Marriage #03


This series intrigues me with the simplicity of marital workability. I hope you ladies will tag me if you think me off-base.

  1. My favorite is this. When she smiles, all must be well with her. If she doesn’t complain, all must be well with him. He reads her symbols and signals to find satisfaction more than he pays attention to her direct words.
  2. He expects her to admire him and his efforts. She expects him to confirm her importance. Her being cherished confirms it like nothing else; it’s superlative.
  3. She can’t, but he can fall in love at first sight and devote himself to her almost immediately. She then looks beyond his devotion expecting to be cherished. IOW, the more she gets the more she wants. Nothing wrong, just her nature. If she’s good enough for something, she’s good enough for more.
  4. Love satisfies her but not him. and so marriage doesn’t depend on love but many other inputs. Specifically, she finds enough satisfaction in her life with him that she keeps him satisfied living with her.
  5. A man’s devotion is the root of his love for her, which is the root of her expectation to be cherished. A woman’s love is the root of his expectation to be admired for who he is and what he does.
  6. She can’t change him although she wishes she could. He will change, however, when he wants to please her more highly than now.
  7. Mutual satisfaction living together outweighs her need to be happy each day and his need to use dominance to get his way.

If wives apply the art of love to verbalizing their complaints, husbands hear that they are worthy and depended upon, not that they are faulty or guilty. It’s worth her time and effort to eliminate blame in the home.

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One response to “2690. Tradeoffs in Marriage #03

  1. My Husband's Wife

    The info posted today is right on target, very true!

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