I purposely exaggerate with the title above, but just a little. Women too easily talk their way out of a man’s interest. It should be the motto of every single woman meeting and hoping to team up with a man.
I love it when a pretty woman inspires a daily article such as this one. At post 2713 Her Highness Etu asked me, “Sir Guy how can …” and she goes on to describe her concerns as a single conservative traditional girl. I break up and quote her lament and then address each section.
“Sir Guy how can a single conservative traditional girl get across to guys that she’s not a feminist…”
Keep your mouth shut. Act, dress, and talk more feminine. Don’t try to convince anyone of anything. It’s none of their business. You are who you are. They will eventually judge you separately and regardless of the connections you have or don’t have with feminism. Don’t convey who and what you are — magnify your mystery and make them earn that information. Mystery is very attractive to men. Keep smiling for no apparent reason, for it also adds mystery.
Learn to live with pregnant pauses, stalls in conversation, and the discomfort that women suffer when they can’t or shouldn’t talk. It’s a skill, so learn it. The one who can put up with silence is the one who manages the convo. The object is to make him talk while you listen.
“that she would rather be a wife/mother than a drone in the working world where she is now?”
Keep your mouth shut and duplicate the above. Also, act more monogamous, less flirty, more modest, less interested in what men do as men rather than mates, and even refuse to do or even talk about man-things that would offend a housewife/mother.
When a man seeks to talk about sex, change the subject to marriage. Each time he tries, you politely and indirectly let him know his subject isn’t appropriate for you at this time and place. You will be able to separate those after sex from those after you, which is the toughest job women have dealing with a man for a life together.
Keep more to yourself (not shy) by changing subjects to get away from too easily revealing yourself. Be hard to get, both in sex and everything else. Be nice, pleasant, smiling, and encouraging. Be slow to fulfill what he’s after but not to the point of losing his interest or offending him. Just make men earn whatever they learn about you.
“It’s like no matter how many good conversations I have with conservative guys about politics and beliefs….”
Keep your mouth shut. Don’t talk about politics with men; act so innocent they do all the talking and you just nod your head that they know what they talk about. Men respect a woman that listens well to them. It doesn’t begin with it, but a man’s love won’t develop without respect for her.
“there is still this sense of intimidation maybe because of my professional job. I am low on the totem pole but to those outside the realm it may seem impressive….,
Keep her mouth shut. Protect the details of your life that you think may work against you. Full disclosure is one of the greatest frauds that feminists inflicted on women. Loss of mystery means reduction in her attractiveness.
“and I like these salt of the earth guys who typically don’t have an advanced degree but a strong work ethic.”
A good screening question is this: ‘Where did you learn your work ethic?’ His response, if any, should be very informative about how his character developed—or didn’t.
Learn to bait and fish such guys out of the pool, whether they are good enough for you or not. It’s good practice. Keep them talking about themselves, and you will learn how to identify the ones you are looking for.
When you try hard, go out of your way, and proactively work to get a man, you appear desperate and men don’t respect desperate. Also, you reduce yourself to sex target only and his interest in you as possible mate falls. Trying to compensate by offering sex pushes you further behind because of the male nature and how men change after first sex together, i.e., conquest.
The successful woman sends no signs that she’s eager to match up with any guy. Her attractiveness got his attention. Her mystery holds his interest. She has to determine if he’s after her or just after sex. So, sit down, shut up, listen, and wait for the man good enough to court you out of the pool full of desperate women.
A man’s devotion starts to develop as he seeks to please you, and devotion is the first leg of a man’s love. After you learn how to get a man to produce what pleases you, you can discretely and more skillfully disclose who you are and what you think.
I leave you with this. The longer a man pursues and pleases a woman in order to uncover her weaknesses so he can bed her the first time, the more qualities he accidentally discovers that he can admire. Each is a virtue, and men seek to marry a virtuous woman.