2722. Born Different but Compatible — 01

God gave humans His marching orders for life on earth as expressed in Genesis 2:24: “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife; and they shall be one flesh.” [KJV]

One flesh requires a lot of smooth compatibility. Jesus legitimized love as strategic glue for women. They capitalize on it by sharing their love as Jesus preached. OTOH, how do individuals find loving compatibility when both sexes are born with free will to get their way associating with others? God provided the method, but do Christians study the methodology too little and, consequently, lose their moral compass to devil-inspired details?

God’s method begins with His plan for both sexes, which looks like this. Each individual is sufficiently able to be compatible with a mate. Individuals strive continuously to get their way. Both sexes are endowed with free will, and individuals fight to get their way until each decides or is pressured to do otherwise. He made men dominant by nature and women superior to the extent they use their relationship expertise to get their way. (Incidentally, women are only the superior sex so long as they do not try to convince men of that fact; dominance prevents acceptance of anything stronger. Feminism torpedoes the best interests of womanhood by claiming superiority for women.)

God’s method continues at birth, as each child is the product of His design, Nature’s genetic endowment, and hormonal energizing. The differences are numerous and mostly for another time and place; e.g. she’s born pretty and he’s born handy; she fears abandonment and he fears insignificance.

Couples mate best when a virtuous woman pleases some man enough that he figures he can live better by living with her. After that, she only has to keep him satisfied with himself in his marriage. More soon.


Filed under courtship, Dear daughter, feminine, marriage, sex differences

3 responses to “2722. Born Different but Compatible — 01

  1. liliksa

    How can we apply the virtual virginity etc… when we are in an arranged marriage ?

    I live in a country where we don’t date.
    I will see my husband only once before marriage and we are supposed to have sex the first night of our marriage so the second time we see each other.
    It’s impossible for me to change him before yielding !

    Can you tell me how can I deal with this situation please? How can I make him respect me because I’m lost 😦

    Your Highness Liliksa,

    Great question. I respond with no knowledge about how other things are handled in your culture. But I suggest this.

    • Remain especially feminine in his presence. Let him see a woman that appears different than he’s used to seeing. Don’t try to stop his sexual activity. Yield because you have to, but let him know quietly that you’re disappointed in being handled other than softly and delicately.

    • Exploit your modesty. Keep to yourself in the bed, bathroom, and clothed as much as possible.

    • Let him know that you really appreciate his performance at handling you gently, delicately, and being intimate with you (holding and caressing and especially after intercourse). Accomplish that and you both will enjoy lovemaking much more.

    • If he expects what you’re reluctant to give, stand up for your modesty and sensibility. Don’t just quietly accept what you don’t deserve.

    • Confirm what he does that you like. Try to sweet talk him to forego what he wants when he goes against your feminine and very different spirit.

    • Never complain about him or explain yourself. Your silence about him together with his lack of knowing your motivation will earn respect over time.

    • In lovemaking, if he hurts you, flinch to let him know it without complaining. To complain is to criticize his lovemaking ability, which will push him toward more dominance and his not caring as much about you.

    • The object is to earn his respect so that he will morph later into the man you can call Mr. Right.

    You’ve given me a tough task, but I hope it results in your earning his respect.


  2. Cocoa

    “Couples mate best when a virtuous woman pleases some man enough that he figures he can live better by living with her. After that, she only has to keep him satisfied with himself in his marriage.”

    And here is the summary of all!

  3. Mary Wumths

    Please explain further what you mean by she only has to keep him satisfied with himself after marriage. What are some specific examples of how a man is satisfied with himself and what does the wife need to do to help foster that.
    Thanks Sir Guy!

    Your Highness Mary Wumths,

    A woman knows when her man is dissatisfied. Her best recourse is to follow this model that overarches their lives together.

    If he’s satisfied with who she is, what she does, and living with her, then he’s satisfied with his marriage. It confirms that his proposal was the right thing to do, which confirms that his decision was right to choose to live with her rather than by himself. All of that satisfies him that his present life is the right one, and it fulfills a man’s mission in life to keep himself satisfied with himself.

    Only you can figure out the details of keeping him satisfied with you and living together.


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