2850. Gotta Change My Mind Again


For some months or years I’ve been calling the female the superior sex. It’s close but not accurate enough. Hereafter, I will call it the governing gender.  Governance within relationships, couples, and marriages is more functional, easier for women to grasp the meaning and men to accept, and less argumentative than is ‘superior’. Guy is my name, clarity is my game.

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Natural Law: Females capture and keep a man with everything else but sex; success is far more who she is and what she does than what she has or was. So females waste time, waste feminine effort, mislead men, and relinquish the driver’s seat when they attract with sex or program themselves to be sexy.

 

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Filed under courtship, Culture & Politics, Dear daughter, Fickle female, How she loses, Sociology 101

7 responses to “2850. Gotta Change My Mind Again

  1. My Husband's Wife

    I like this new term “governance” and believe it’s less likely to cause controversy than “superior.” Also, in today’s culture where men are consistently put down, this helps negate the negative connotation of “superiority”—meaning women are better than men touted by the feminists. Both sexes have equal value as humans, but are not equal in their abilities and roles in life. I like the differentiation in helping explain to others.

  2. Anonymous Wife

    Sir Guy,

    I more and more questions as I read your posts daily…I hope it is ok to post here even though they aren’t directly relevant.

    1) I have been thinking a bit more about my struggle with gratitude for self.
    You write extensively about reinforcing self-gratitude daily, in front of the mirror, with the list of female blessings. I understand the concept but I struggle with the application. It is easier to see the best in others, but I am not sure why. Why is this? Why don’t I feel inspired when I think about the things I do well? Or am I asking the wrong question- maybe I am looking to feel inspired when I should be looking for a different result after “mirror time” or verbally expressing self gratitude.

    2) Is there a way someone can “act” like she has self gratitude in a fake-it-till-ya-make-it way?

    3) Another topic completely but related to this blog:
    I saw a picture going around facebook (I’m sure many saw) of a page from a Home Econ book from the 1950s. It had an article printed in 1955 in Good Housekeeping about how a “good wife” should act (I posted it below). I’m sure you can imagine the mockery and comments it got from modern day readers, which is to be expected, but there was one thing that stuck out to me. Someone posted that in the 1950s many women were unhappy and drank a lot of alcohol and took drugs to “calm their nerves” in order to fit this image of the “perfect housewife” when inside they were actually suffering. Is this the case? Were many women pressured to fit this image and unable to keep up? I wonder if that is why women were persuaded by feminism and didn’t want to keep trying to improve themselves but rather use the modern concept of “self acceptance” in order to escape the pressure of “never being good enough” etc. Not my personal feelings, just wondering.

    Anyways I thought the article was lovely, even though I must work nearly full time so I can’t do all these things but to whoever can, more power to her:

    From Good Housekeeping 1955
    1.) Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs.

    2.) Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

    3.) Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your makeup, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

    4.) Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

    5.) Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

    6.) Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

    7.) Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes.

    8.) Children are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

    9.) Be happy to see him. Free him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him.

    10.) You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first — remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

    11.) Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

    12.) Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order and tranquility where you husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

    13.) Don’t greet him with complaints and problems.

    14.) Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

    15.) Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

    16.) Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

    17.) Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment of integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

    18.) A good wife always knows her place.

    Your Highness Anonymous Wife,

    1) Pay no attention to how others think and act. Find ways to share your gratefulness with them. Action reshapes the heart.
    2) Recall memories and share with others. Talking is action, where the heart is concerned.
    3) I well remember the Good Housekeeping article. It was published during the early days of Women’s Liberation to counter the leftist propaganda being spread by radical feminazis. Back when most women still believed that American prosperity and good husbands were making society more female friendly, and it was bringing females and children a much brighter future. Back when feminazis began making enemies of men and women by downgrading housewives.

    The middle class, including Blacks, expanded in the Teens and Twenties, slowed in the Thirties, began to boom in WWII, shot upward in the late Forties, and began to boom in the Fifties. Then along came radical feminists.

    Guy

    • msarianne

      Lady Anonymous Wife,
      That is a great list!
      I highly doubt that a husband that is treated with such care and respect would stay out all night. He would have to be a total cad.

  3. I love your list and Clarity name

  4. CartieB

    Guy,

    I was really looking forward to your plan here “I propose dating and courtship should follow the plan above.” When you’re ready, I’m sure you’ll deliver!

    In the meantime, what are your thoughts on telling perspective Mr GoodEnough(s) you enjoy going to church because you believe in God. In some ways I feel like it’s the equivalent of telling a guy you’re waiting until marriage to have sex. When such subject is broached and the guy disappears was it because he was only after the girl for sex and not because she destroyed his hope? Lastly, how should ladies answer questions from perspective Mr GoodEnough(s) who ask “Do you want to get married? Do you want to have kids?”

    Many thanks!

    Your Highness CartieB,

    1st para: Not sure about what you refer. I posted that plan at 2847.

    2nd para: Equivalent to you doesn’t mean equivalent to a guy. Continue to promote church and God, as it helps you protect your sexual assets.

    It could be she destroyed his hope.

    Answer all his questions honestly but don’t explain further. Just answer and let him figure you out.

    Guy

    • Cocoa

      Dear CartieB, subject to sir Guy correction. I believe you should tell him exactly how you feel about these two questions. For example, if you are not sure yet tell him that. If yes then tell him yes that’s the plan. Or if not then tell him no not on my mind actually. Same with the kids question. Be nice, short and sharp and change the subject straight away – like, I had an exciting day at work today let me tell you what happened….

  5. Cocoa

    “Guy is my name, clarity is my game.” Hahahahaha, I am laughing so hard right now. Men are never more handsome than when they make a sad girl laugh 😀.

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