2855. Sex for Pleasure and Marriage are Mutually Exclusive


Women are giving up on men, because they don’t understand the male nature about sex. Her Highness Elena, gave me an opportunity to summarize why females are so frustrated.

Females learn this the hard way if at all. Sex for pleasure, aka the man’s game, is mutually exclusive with successful married life, aka the woman’s game. Why? Because wives can’t keep husbands home, cheaters are not trustworthy in other matters, and marriages fall apart from lack of mutual likeability.

Elena expressed her frustration this way, “…everything with men is about sex! Everyday I can feel in my heart and head less and less attraction to men knowing all I know now (and I am 22 years old).” You’re right about men, darling, but you’re moving in the wrong direction, and I hope to show you why.

You need to learn more about both sexes and their differences. You are designed and particularly endowed with the skill and talent to find and keep for life your choice of a man. You can find the what, why, and how details described in many different ways throughout this blog. But the angelic essential that makes and holds a couple together comes from the following.

No man is interested, much less motivated, to produce what you expect out of life. Until, that is, you coach, train, teach, motivate, and otherwise convince him you are the best woman for him.

To hold his interest long enough to discover who and what you are and can be in his life, only one thing works. Keep your legs crossed for so long that he discovers not only your virtues, but his respect grows out of your insistence on protecting your sexual assets, and his imagining that all men find you the same.

The longer you refuse to yield, the more of his respect you earn, and a man’s love is founded on respect for a woman. The greater his respect, the more likely he stays with you. The magnetic attractions of female love should be matched by the respect of a man for one woman, or they likely fail as a couple.

Nothing else holds a man’s attention long enough than a female’s refusal to be conquered. Sometimes, however, a man quits chasing early, which in itself is a sign that he was after sex more than her, which means he already had her aimed for dumping soon after their first sex together.

We are put on earth to live as couples. Only women can produce success living together, and your most critical efforts take place before marriage. Marriage isn’t the man’s game, until you teach one man that your way is the best way for both.

After marriage, women are expected to balance the books. You have to acknowledge that he earned frequent and convenient access and is entitled to marital sex at his bidding. He earned it by letting you have your way before marriage.

A personal story. Grace and I were broke for the first 25 of our 59 years. I finally gained control of our spending, and we were never broke after that.

It’s much the same with women. Control your sexual assets such that men are unable to conquer you for first sex together, and you will not be without men chasing you. Admittedly today, men may not chase very long, but it misleads women. If you’re attractive enough in all situations and refuse to yield, you will be chased. Men can’t stand to pass up an opportunity to conquer what appeals to their eyes; it’s up to you to dissuade them from immediate access to your sexual assets.

Except for convenience, men don’t chase women with whom they’ve had sex, only the gals who refuse it the first time. And men more earnestly chase the ones who made other men fail at conquest. Every man competes to beat out buds and other men, and conquest is the most eagerly sought way of earning bragging rights. It’s the male nature at work.

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10 responses to “2855. Sex for Pleasure and Marriage are Mutually Exclusive

  1. Nothing else holds a man’s attention long enough than a female’s refusal to be conquered. – This I wholeheartedly agree with!

  2. elena

    “Every man competes to beat out buds and other men, and conquest is the most eagerly sought way of earning bragging rights. It’s the male nature at work.”

    But knowing all this clearly, I now see no attraction in them, I know it sounds sad but it doesn’t interest me anymore, it’s not worth it. I have no desire to get married anymore, there’s literally no point. I’ll make myself more happy just living my life alone with family, friends, and future adopted children if I want a family in the future.

    Since I have this mindset for a few years now, I’ve had marriage proposal from men I never even dated, just because I guard my sexual assets while being the most attractive I can be in my eyes, I am a happy woman in everyday life with a good family and circle of close friends. But I refuse each of them simply as their way of thinking and being clearly doesn’t attract me anymore. I see no value in it.

    Your Highness Elana, Elana, Elana,

    I plead. Don’t be like that. You’re perfectly situated in mind and heart for a man to prove himself Mr. Good Enough. You’ll see some signs, but you have to give many guys the opportunity. As you stand by your standards of what you want and what you won’t tolerate, most will screen themselves out of your life.

    Then, one day whey you’re dressed particularly attractive, a young man will face off with you with every intention of pleasing you. Then, pay attention, give him more time with you. He’ll try harder to please you just to hold your attention on him. He’ll brag, show tremendous interest in you, and seek to find what pleases you. Give him room to operate, encourage his pleasant behavior.

    It may take weeks or months, but he will figure out for himself that he likes to please you because it makes him feel good. When that happens, Elana, he’s becoming devoted to you. It’s the second foundation to his love, the first being that you listened to him rather than told him all about yourself.

    A guy believes what he figures out much more than what he’s told. So, your silence about yourself in the early days is the first root of his respect for you.

    Please don’t give up. You have more than most so keep a clear head. Be patient, a woman’s success in life depends on it.

    Guy

  3. lolita

    “Except for convenience, men don’t chase women with whom they’ve had sex, only the gals who refuse it the first time. And men more earnestly chase the ones who made other men fail at conquest.”

    What could make a man SINCERELY chase a woman with whom he had already have sex ? And make him have the respect he didn’t felt before for her ?

    Your Highness Lolita,

    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

    It takes a strategy that women have trouble grasping the fundamentals. It is described extensively in the series Virtual Virginity listed in CONTENT page.

    Just swear off sex, period. Let the guy know he’s welcome except for that. He will argue, and you have to stand by your guns. You’re swearing off because you want to obey and follow God, the Bible, moral imperatives, parents’ expectations, or whatever reason you come up with that puts you in the position of becoming a better person. No man can out-argue a women set upon making herself a better person/gf/wife/granny.

    Guy

  4. Margaux

    Hello Sir Guy,

    How to regain respect from your father when you lost your virginity before marriage and it didn’t lead to a relationship after (he dumped me) ? It’s hard enough for me in itself but I feel my parents and siblings talk diferently to me, I don’t know what to do, I’m the best daughter I can be to them but I feel something is off. I thought it would get better with time but it’s been a few years now and something is still off !

    All the little intentions and kindness everybody had for me, they give it now to my little sister. I feel in their voice disrespect for me, it makes me suicidal thinking my family doesn’t respect and love me anymore. I regreted my mistake and didn’t do it again but still it’s not the same, they don’t protect me.

    An exemple : before it happened they never used swear words in front of me and if someoe kissed on TV they put their hand in front of my eyes, now they have vulgar conversations in front of me and it shocks me but they don’t care, it makes me really inconfortable but it feels like they think now I can hear and see everything shocking it doesn’t matter anymore, it hurts me and shocks me.

    Your Highness Margaux,

    Welcome aboard. It’s a great day when another pretty woman joins us on this cruise to WhatWomenNeverHear.

    Did father and family know that you lost your virginity? If not, it’s mostly your guilt, imagination, and fact that you’ve grown up more in their eyes. If he or family actually know, it’s another matter.

    To re-earn father’s respect, live more closely up to what he expects out of you. Be silent when he’s talking, LISTEN CLOSELY, never interrupt, and never argue with him. Please him whether he pleases you or not. Time will make it work for you.

    Guy

    • Margaux

      Yes they know I lost it that’s why they act like that it’s not in my head as my friends saw a difference too

      Your Highness Margaux,
      Forgive them and forgive yourself. To re-earn father’s respect, live more closely up to what he expects out of you. Be silent when he’s talking, LISTEN CLOSELY, never interrupt, and never argue with him. Please him whether he pleases you or not. Time will make it work for you. Others will follow his spirit.
      Guy

      • msarianne

        Lady Margaux,
        I hope you will consider Sir Guy’s advice as I believe he is very wise. This is great advice.

        If you handle yourself very feminine and innocent your family will come to see you as that once again. At this time they may be disappointed about what happened and so they act this way. You change and then they will change. Have faith and patience.

  5. Kristi

    Femme,
    From my understanding of Sir Guy’s writing men will always have the drive to conquer women. The issue comes into women enforcing their standards collectively to harness their inclinations in a female-friendly manner and raising young men to respect women. Men’s nature has not changed and will not change.
    You handled the situation with great feminine tact and wisdom. Please do not conclude that all men are going to act that way! There will always be individuals who do not act in accordance with those standards. Male nature can be acted out in numerous ways and that one instance is just one of many expressions.

    • Femme

      May I ask why my comment was removed, Sir Guy?

      Your Highness Femme,
      I don’t recall but I do it only when a comment departs the blog theme. If you can resend, I can reconsider.
      Guy

    • Femme

      Dear Kristy,
      Thank you for your reply.
      “Please do not conclude that all men are going to act that way!” – that’s what I’ve been incluned to think, after a few encounters, that these days men may marry but it’s really no guarantee for them being faithful to their wives or other women being “safe”.
      I kind of don’t know how to behave sometimes, without the man getting weird ideas…I know women who are very flirty and outgoing and yet don’t get those kinds of proposals.
      I guess I decided to put my armour on just in case.

      • Kristy

        Femme,
        I understand the feeling of not knowing how to act around men. Cultivating your hobbies in a social setting helped me find like minded people. Then you at least have a topic to chat about. Also I am learning that it is okay to actively listen and keep the conversation going by asking questions. The right person will value a quiet demeanor.

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