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2285. Shyness Helps Uncover His Character

Her Highness Peach Blossoms, in a delightfully honest expression includes this, “I question why I can’t seem to go beyond the initial attraction with a couple of seemingly Mr. GoodEnoughs. Modesty, attractiveness, being restrained doesn’t seem to stir men to do more.”

Her Highness That Horse is Dead agrees, “It sounds like you and I are of a similar pattern. I’m introverted and shy and so I always thought that my efforts to show a man my interest (while maintaining modesty and restraint) were perceived loud and clear. What I’ve come to realize, however, is that my idea of “loud and clear” may be like an iceberg to a man ….”

In both cases, I conclude this. The guys grow bored because they aren’t challenged. Gals don’t ask questions, never put men on the defensive from which they can rise to the challenge and recover, apparently ‘win’, and thus add merit to their opinionated sense of great worth to the gals. Ask more questions and the guys will pay more attention and enjoy more encounters that are hopefully dates.

Gals should remember this, braggarts grow bored listening to themselves tell different gals the same stories. If gals ain’t unique, vaginas are all the same.

Neither gal mentioned above stresses her uniqueness and guys lose interest. Others have similar problems and I think I’ve finally identified a solution. You ladies keep too much to yourselves just when the occasion calls for the opposite. You let guys drag on and on about their accomplishments and promise of worthiness to you—aimed at getting you in bed of course—while you entertain yourself as being the object of each guy’s apparent attention and hopefully affection. Sorry, men don’t work like that.

Modern women use a weak strategy aimed at benefiting guys and causing disadvantage for ladies. I propose something else.

As a smart date you let the guy talk about himself, which is superbly wise, but you go too far. You are entitled in all dates to mention a few subjects to help you identify both his character and his worthiness to you for future dates. If you do as I advise below, he will also make a much faster and easier assessment of your worth to him and vice versa. What I propose below is designed to keep him on your side until you decide he is or isn’t Mr. Good Enough.

Women need a new strategy in order to put all men in their proper place in the hierarchy of the genders. All that men tell you is self-serving and—of necessity because of both masculine adolescence and women’s eagerness to believe—half of it is crap. I propose such a new strategy and hope to describe it simple enough to be easily adopted.

Major female interest. Any successful relationship requires, and every relationship expert is capable of putting her man off balance from time to time. That’s not when he’s most vulnerable because he may get honked off. But it’s when he’s more easily read for what and who he is and could possibly mean to her.

Purpose. With just a smidgen of determination, shy ladies can overcome hesitancy, enlarge their courage, and gain a wealth of knowledge about a man merely by asking specially designed questions. Doing so provides a better eval of his worth to her; it enables her to indirectly expose character traits that remain purposely obscured or hidden when he does all the talking.

Method. She now and again asks specific questions that neither disturb the flow of conversations nor upset his apple cart. She patiently and pleasantly just inquires about his past, personality, habits, and opinions. She challenges him to describe himself in ways that inform her rather than keep himself focused on what he thinks are impressive about himself.

Pay attention, ladies. Your challenges to him make you unique. Oh, he may not like you for it, but you need to be unique from other women for his thoughts to ever turn toward marriage.

Questions you may ask. (Numbered for easy reference.)

  1. So far in life, what’s your greatest achievement? What are you proudest of?
  2. So far, what’s your biggest mistake? What are you least proud of?
  3. Where did you get your work ethic? (If he doesn’t understand the term, he doesn’t understand the role of work in his life, so dump him soon.)
  4. How did you earn spending money in your teens?
  5. How did you work your way through college?
  6. Are you still in touch with your teen/college friends? Do you assemble regularly? Would you like to?
  7. Have you ever had a girl as best friend? From kindergarten to college. No love or anything, just a friend? What made her so valuable to you?
  8. How would your family have responded if you had gotten a girl in trouble in high school?
  9. Were you able to save money in your teens? Buy your own car?
  10. What roles do you inherit as a survivor if your parents die suddenly? Siblings? Estate settlement? Inheritance?
  11. If you could have any car in the world, which would you choose? Why?
  12. If you could live anywhere in the world, where and why?
  13. Ever consider entering politics? If so, where would you aim your main effort?
  14. Who do you love most? Your mom or dad? Why?
  15. Nothing personal and I just mean in an academic sense, but who taught you how to love someone?
  16. No details please, but if you have been dumped, whose fault was it? Not why, just who?
  17. Did your grannie play a part in your upbringing? Influence you much?
  18. What or who has influenced you the most in life?
  19. If you were God, what would you fix?
  20. Do you live up to something or someone bigger than yourself?
  21. What do you think is the most important or dynamic trait of a gentleman?
  22. If all men were gentlemen, what would women be like?
  23. If all women were ladies, what would men be like?
  24. What and why were your best and worst subjects (not teachers) in school?
  25. Who and why were your best teachers in school?
  26. What’s the most vital ingredient to raise a good child.
  27. Do you agree or disagree? Children should be raised to be good adults more than to be good children.
  28. If you had to do school over again, how would you do differently.
  29. Imagine yourself as a military man; how would you feel?
  30. Would you rather be a cop or a soldier?
  31. Thinking of the military, what service would you most likely join?
  32. Would you rather be a father or grandfather?
  33. If you were very rich, how would you point your life? In what direction?
  34. What is more important? How much money you have or how much control you have over it?
  35. When and how are you the most valuable to yourself?
  36. What would you do if an ex ratted to friends that you lack sexual ability?
  37. Not how many you want or don’t want, but what’s the max number of kids you think you’re capable of raising? Not financially but emotionally.
  38. While growing up, do you think you learned how to father children?
  39. While growing up, did you observe by example or have a role model for how to husband a wife?
  40. What does loving someone mean to you?
  41. How do you handle yourself when you have to deal with people who appear to be much smarter than you? How about dumber?
  42. How much crap are you willing to take from a boss? At what point does your integrity refuse to take more?
  43. If you married, what would you consider normal if your wife cheated on you?
  44. If you married, what would you consider normal if you cheated on your wife?
  45. Whose your favorite hero or role model in life?

And you ladies invariably respond with this. “But I could never say such things.”

And I say, then find some other questions that you can ask. Your relationship success from time to time will depend on your ability to put him—apparently very innocently—on the defensive and enabling him to talk his way away from whatever made you want to change the subject.

You don’t have to use all 45 of those questions to uncover the character of a man of interest. But you need to use some or others of your own choosing. Without your uncovering his character to your examination, three shortcomings arrive unhindered into every relationship: a) You won’t be unique enough for his learning to respect and like you enough for deep love to develop. b) You won’t truly know the man you marry. c) You will find marital misery long before marital happiness.

Attention, ladies. I know you will strongly object and eagerly withdraw from what I just wrote. It’s too big a change for anyone to adopt out of the black and white of so much info. Accept the spirit and test out parts of it for yourself. See if you don’t get more affirmation from guys than previously. I write from the ideal, you need to convert it to whatever is practical for you and you alone.


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2284. My Mistake about a Man’s Love: Recovery II

Thanks to all you well-wishers out there. You encouraged me. Still not restored to full health but I’m getting off the meds for a day or so to complete this project. The meds paralyze my mind against thoughts that should be connected.

Keep this in mind. In everyday conversation, man-chat, I have never heard a man say “I love her” about a woman. At his wedding or formal event he might say it but only because the situation seems to make it appropriate. Men just don’t think or talk in the same terms as women, especially using the term love.

I shall summarize a man’s love in five parts: Him, her, sex, conquest, and problems.

  1. A man finds a woman very likeable. He enjoys her company and wants to spend much time with her. The more time with her, the more likeable she becomes. He decides to be loyal to her exclusively, either to help drive away competitors, convince her of his sincerity, or convince him of his dedication. He’s not in love yet, just testing the situation to see what develops. It has to be mutual and obvious to him. He can commit to himself of being in love if and when he becomes convinced that she finds him extremely likeable and she’s loyal to him exclusively. He withholds his judgment until that time, because he’s always vulnerable of being made a fool and no man ever lets a woman make a fool of him—at least that intention floods the male psyche.
  2. Women are prone to misinterpreting a man’s intentions. He’s not in love just because she’s likeable and he’s loyal. She should read that as no more than her potential to win him for marriage. He’s not in love until she reciprocates with his being extremely likeable and her being exclusively loyal to him. In effect, when he’s in love that way, he’s also likely to be devoted to her. Consequently, their marriage depends on her: First, she has to be likeable enough for him to be loyal to her and, second, she has to find him likeable enough that she can be loyal to him. (See also article 2180, He Walks Himself to the Altar.)
  3. After conquest occurs, sex becomes part of her likeability and, by consequence, part of his likeability. It fits or doesn’t fit in with other likeable and unlikeable features that continue to govern how likeable and loyal they are to each other. Poor sex can weaken her likeability and his love. The reverse is also true, but women have the upper hand. (See point 5 below.)
  4. Lead up to conquest is the critical issue. His natural spirit to conquer a sexually attractive women is his main driver. It dominates his thoughts and intentions. Insufficient time for his respect to develop leads to her being shortchanged after yielding. Keeping him satisfied with her refusals takes feminine mystery, guile, humor, persistence, patience, and much risk-taking to keep her likeability growing instead of diminishing. Some appropriate time to yield exists for every couple, but who knows when and where. The only sure thing is that the longer she prevails, the greater his respect; the greater his respect, the more intense his love is capable of developing.
  5. Problems.
  • Women have a natural tendency to read what’s not there in men. It’s actually a blessing because it enables them to apply pressure that motivates men in ways that they try to avoid because they can’t see blessings right before their eyes. IOW, if women lacked the tendency, marriage would be far more rare. The problem is that some women get far too eager to see manly love where none exists. For example, they prove a guy extremely likeable before the guy finds that in her.
  • Yes, that’s right. If she shows her love first, the guy doesn’t have to find her all that likeable. He can coast and eventually get what he wants. She tries harder and harder to gain his love until she gives sex as last resort. His decision is made for him: She may be a keeper but he hasn’t invested much to get her; she’s booty which gives him a neat convenience, or she’s dumped because she wasn’t all that likeable in the first place. It all began when she failed to make herself likeable to him in such a way that he wanted to spend a lot of time with her just for who she is rather than sex she has to offer.
  • This isn’t so much a problem as advice. The primary job of keeping a man’s love is twofold and relatively easy for a relationship expert. a) She does whatever it takes to read her man and keep herself both respected and likeable in his eyes. b) She does whatever it takes to find her man likeable in her eyes. Both are required to gain his devotion and she shouldn’t marry without that.

WADWMUFGAO, we all do what makes us feel good about ourselves. Women feel good when they express their love freely in both words and actions. Men feel good when they do things that please themselves for pleasing their woman. Her love is outgoing; his love is subtle. Her love is expressed externally; his love is expressed internally.


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2282. My Mistake about a Man’s Love: Recovery I

Post 2266 described the essentials of masculine love as it begins at birth before sexual interest and sexual ability develop. I described it wrapped in simplicity this way. a) He finds her likeable and wants to be with her. b) For insurance against competitors, he makes himself loyal to her. She sees that as his being in love, but it’s not quite. c) He convinces himself that she finds him extremely likeable. d) He confirms to himself that she’s loyal to him exclusively. e) He gently slips into the role of being devoted to her, which is the version of his love that she needs before accepting his proposal.

However, I also wrote, “I bypass the consequences of conquest as it may or may not affect the following.” Then, I was diverted and promptly forgot to finish the job. I offer this more complete series as recovery.

I choose to start over and summarize both the characteristics and essentials for successful sexual involvement in masculine love. I cover it in six phases: birth, boyhood, puberty, before conquest, after conquest, and after marriage.

BIRTH brings forth the ‘four-leg’ foundation required for a man’s love to be sufficiently rewarding that he bonds with someone. That foundation—mutual likeability and mutual loyalty—is required throughout life for manly bonding with others.

Of course the definition of likeability spreads and impacts every interpersonal factor between two people. More later about how both sexes benefit.

BOYHOOD brings forth the ‘four-leg’ foundation but in reverse. Parents through both actions and words convince sons that they are very likeable and that parents are loyal to boyhood interests. Sons respond by finding parents equally likeable and aim their loyalty toward parents more than someone else. Thus, a boy’s ability to love and the intensity of it develops to the extent that parental actions primarily and words secondarily confirm son’s likeability. (Girls seem to regard words as more affirming but they are sensitive to actions contrary to words.)

PUBERTY brings forth the reversal of a boy’s bonding sequence. In a months-long conversion of intentions, boys swing away from bonding as done in childhood. Developing rapidly and changing hormonally, they become far more independent and somewhat skilled at interpreting and shaping human relations to match their taste and intention. Claiming greater independence, they shift to bonding with whomever they find likeable and to whom they can be loyal. When ‘whomever’ reciprocates likeability and loyalty, newly bonded friends spread their wings and share feedback  with whatever arrangement they can develop through ever riskier adventures that bring both success and failure. They self-teach by taking advantage of girls without letting the girls know they are learning from the girls. (As girls go, so goes teen life and so goes society when they become adults.)

Simultaneously, the hunter-conqueror role develops and gains ever more importance throughout the teen years. The maturing boy becomes fascinated with sex and mission oriented toward conquests. He spreads his wings and interests to discover how to conquer girls. Through success and failure he develops a skill level that impacts his self-respect for later life.

Before conquest, after conquest, and after marriage follow at 2283 next.


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2281. Garden of Eden

This is a partial summary of how it all began.

I use the Garden of Eden as a function of faith and the simplest way to say that what follows below had to either start somewhere or morph out of the randomness of Nature. In either event, the genders are primordially motivated by the differences below.

  1. The genders are designed to be compatible as mates but both have to cooperate to offset the results of too much gender and individual competition.
  2. Equality was never intended; fairness generates success of compatibility.
  3. One gender is dominant and, in effect, the immovable object. The other is superior and, in effect, the irresistible force.
  4. Men lack it, but women are endowed with relationship expertise to enable the physically weaker to manage the physically stronger, balance diverse gender interests, and preserve compatibility.
  5. The female gender is designed to earn happiness, which women accomplish after years of finding gratitude in life and others. Thus, women live for the long-range benefits; they earn their rewards late in life for having developed their own matriarchal family. (The hand that rocks the cradle rules the world per William Ross Wallace’s poem.)
  6. The male gender is designed to earn satisfaction, which men achieve primarily at their jobs. Thus, men live with a short-range orientation to expand their patriarchal influence.
  7. The female gender is endowed with strong desire to be good, which women confirm and achieve by doing good.
  8. Males are born capable of doing good, but they lack incentive until energized by females in their lives. By doing good, they become good and much more satisfying to the women in their lives.
  9. Within both genders, each individual’s uniquely developed personality and self-identification includes the spirit to compete to get their way. Relationship experts are endowed with special wisdom to compensate and thereby produce harmony in relationships, home, and family.
  10. Men are hunter-conquerors with eyes as their primary sensor and peripheral vision designed to detect motion.
  11. Women are essentially prey with ears as their primary sensor and peripheral hearing that enables them to evaluate other voices nearby.
  12. Males tend to believe what they see and put little credence in words unsupported by actions. Women tend to believe what they hear unless what they see discredits it.
  13. The female gender protects itself against the male gender with hard-headedness before being conquered and soft-heartedness after that.
  14. The male gender wields hard-headedness and hard-heartedness until a woman or old age make them more mellow.
  15. Female love is emotion-based and both clouded for men and crowded with the risk of unreturned love.
  16. Male love is logic- and reason-based on mutual likeability and mutual loyalty, foreign to female understanding, and with risk removed during development. If risk arises later from lack of his woman’s loyal support (and even short of sexual fidelity) to him, a man’s love weakens and may fade away.
  17. Self-love convinces women they deserve to be loved by men. Self-respect convinces men they deserve to be respected by women. Her love of him rather than his love of her keeps her attached to a man. His love depends on mutual likeability and mutual loyalty and her actions to repeatedly confirm it.
  18. Individuals of both genders are primarily motivated by self-interest. The effect is WADWMUFGAO. We all do what makes us feel good about ourselves, which means that love isn’t real except as it makes individuals feel good when they show love for another, which is easy and normal for women but requires devotion for men to display it.
  19. His words of love impress her but her actions to show her love of him program her heart and convince her that she loves him.
  20. Her words of love make her feel good but he doesn’t need her love in order to love her, just to confirm no reason to be suspicious of her loyal support of his interest and ambition.
  21. A man’s love develops out of his self-interest to possess a particular woman as his partner, mate, or wife depending on what she requires.
  22. The primal need of a woman is confirmation of her self-importance, which she earns by making herself important to others. She depends on others to help fulfill her need.
  23. The primal need of a man is confirmation of his significance, which he achieves by earning satisfaction through his accomplishments and ambitions. Other people are not essential to fulfill those needs.
  24. The female gender recognizes the need of morality and religion to promote female interests. Men don’t recognize such a need except as woman or women are persuadable enough to change masculine interest.
  25. Women are pretty; men are handy. Both are convicted of it for themselves and the other gender.
  26. The female gender lives under heavy pressure of guilt, and women find relief by dealing pleasantly with others. Men accept only self-induced guilt and act to relieve it or forget it; they don’t carry guilt as baggage or as reason to deal pleasantly with others.
  27. Both genders are attracted to sexual encounters by the lure of orgasm, which is not the most important part of sex for either sex.

Thus, God designs, Nature arranges and endows genetically, and hormones energize the sexes very differently for action and life.


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2280. Compatibility Axioms #921-930

921. It’s self-fulfilling: A wife blames husband for his faults. Accused men defend themselves by disproving the evidence presented. Debate amplifies his faults into failures in her eyes. He gets worse. [306]

922. Women abandon femininity, modesty, high moral standards, and other female strengths just to have a boyfriend they can’t keep simply because of what they abandoned. [306]

923. When a man senses that a woman finds him attractive, his nature tends to take her for granted. Using the virtual virginity strategy prevents her being taken for granted before marriage. Ensuring that his devotion goes beyond mere commitment minimizes her being taken for granted after marriage. [308]

924. A man dumps his wife of many years for a trophy. He seeks to start over and build a new kind of marriage. He seeks a new sense of significance, which he lost with his ex. He now knows how to do it and can raise a new child. Especially with a mother young enough to provide most of the care and submit to his dominance more pleasantly and less challengingly. [308]

925. The longer she puts off having sex with him, the greater her worthiness to be his wife for life—as he sees it. Men will deny that, of course, but her refusals in spite of his maximum effort register as greater respect for her deep inside him. [308]

926. Men escape being parented when they leave their childhood home. They won’t accept it by a wife and especially not in front of others. [308]

927. Men take a relationship for granted. It just is; it needs no maintenance. Four ‘switches’ determine its health and whether he loves her or not. She’s loyal to him or not. He’s likeable to her or not. He’s loyal to her or not. She’s likeable to him or not. [308]

928. People respect those who are different, unique, and powerful within themselves. Her power thrust in his face offends, however, whereas well-controlled internal strength is admired and considered a virtue.  [311]

929. Hook up but no call? Shack up but no joy? Married but no peace? Then she better change herself, because men don’t or won’t. [311]

930. Women are the relationship experts, men go along and expect a smooth and maintenance-free ride. [311]


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2279. Heart and Mind of the Married Trophy Hunter

As men are born—that is, strictly according to their heart and nature—a younger beauty conquered in middle age provides significance that calms the waters of the mid-life crisis. It’s such a life-fulfilling event that his personal history becomes a ‘former life’ detached from his life with trophy.

The lure of such a conquest is strong in every man’s heart and—given good opportunity—overpowers his loyalty to his previous investment of self in past life. To defeat the urge requires good character, strong will, and a wife that understands what keeps her husband satisfied with her.

Wife faces two threats.

An ever-present threat is opportunity for husband to do very little except rationalize cheating and departure. He need only relax and let his secretary or other female fall in love with him. Most men have a ring in their nose for that sort of thing. Few men qualify in the eyes of younger females, but many women are willing to lower their standards just to have a man. Stealing husbands is just part of the game of female competition when morality and love-based religion are weak or missing.

The most realistic threat to wife is husband’s desire to escape his present relationship manifested by loss of love, which can develop over time in one or two ways or both.

a) He detects that he’s much less or no longer likeable to her. Their interests, goals, and perhaps personalities may clash. She no longer relies on him as before. He’s no longer fun, pleasure, and comfort to her. Loss of her likeability of him brings her loyalty into question, can squelch his love, and sooner or later can silence his interest in her. Being fearful of the insignificance caused if he’s fool enough to stay long enough to be dumped, he grows wary of keeping their relationship intact. His caution and perhaps scouting for other options makes him even less likeable to her and the relationship twists, slumps, and deteriorates further.

b) Her likeability deteriorates in his eyes. As the direct result, his loyalty to her weakens, his love fades, and he finds it ever more difficult to find satisfaction in their life together. Escape is a good option if opportunity arises. Escape may be required if she becomes too unlikeable.

The issue boils down to this. If she understands her man well enough, she has the ability to prevent the misery that trophy beauties or loss of husband’s love can bring into a wife’s life.

Inherent in her superior gender, wife has the adaptability and survivability to read red flag symptoms and take appropriate action to lower those flags. The place to start is always keep in mind their mutual likeability. Loss of any of that is the time to take action to fix it, which means wives need to learn what mutual likeability is and looks like.

Here are two tests for each lady reading this, married or unmarried. You need to have analyzed yourself in these ways so that your boodle bag of knowledge of your man isn’t empty. You have something to work with.

A. What about you makes him like and appreciate you? Don’t think love, affection, and assurances as you know it. Think of how he listens to you, why he accepts your suggestions and decisions, why he laughs easily with you, what he does to please you, and how without even thinking about it he enjoys being in your company (even if both are silent).

What about you causes all that? It summarizes like this. You’re likeable when he likes himself being around and associating with you. His loyalty derives from your likeability, which makes you very valuable to his life. He doesn’t want to lose you so he focuses on being loyal, which to him is the major way he expresses his love. I repeat the last and most important clause, ‘which to him is the major way he expresses his love’. Loyalty through big but scattered actions rather than the female way of expressing emotional connections through words and small attentions.

This is a natural consequence: What he doesn’t like about you, he magnifies into not liking himself for putting up with it; he expects you to be more easily appreciated. But being a man, he accepts you as you are and doesn’t expect you to change. You have to read the tea leaves and change yourself according to what you divine will work for you. You need to exploit that old relationship expertise with which God endows the superior gender.

B. What makes him likeable to you? Looks, style, masculinity, clean humor, work ethic, sense of responsibility, attire, easy to love, easy to like, decent language, morality, religious beliefs, personal neatness, gravitas, sense of purpose, achievements, ambitions, family loyalty, reputation, kindness, character, integrity, pleasant attitude, willing to show affection, good upbringing, … ? To like him for those and other things and then to quit on one or many makes him see that he’s less likeable in your eyes, which makes him conclude that your loyalty may have weakened. If so, his love weakens.

This is my favorite quote for a woman finding her man to be extremely likeable. She cites what more than anything else is important to a man.

In the movie Ziegfeld Follies, after losing his future in the market crash of 1929, Florenz Ziegfeld proposes to Billie Burke: “Nothing I can give you except my love.” She responds, “That isn’t enough. I’d expect part of your ambition, half of your trouble, 2/3 of your worries, and all of your respect.” (I figure more Hollywood than true, but it makes a great example.)

If a woman can honestly live out such an arrangement, any man will read it that he’s likeable to her. He sees all he needs to have faith that he’s likeable and she’s also loyal until he sees her weaken or wane.

The title and introduction captured your attention. As the article developed it became obvious to me that the worth of it lies in the two tests given in the bottom half. Every woman needs to develop both interest and skill to read themselves and their man along the four entangled lines of a man’s love: her likeability and his consequent loyalty, and his likeability and her obvious loyalty.

All your days will shine better when you can read men along those four ingredients of every man’s love.


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2278. CAUSES and EFFECTS — Group 05

  1. Celebrity worship is female love to a fault. Wanting terribly to love someone, they lack a proper person. Girls go ga-ga over pop stars for lack of boyfriend and it’s exciting to them. Women worship celebrities for lack of having no one available or worthy enough of absorbing all their love.
  2. A woman’s worshipful admiration of celebrities demeans her self-respect and makes her individualism and independence dissolve in the eyes of others. Using unknowns as role models reveals her lack of respect of friends and family as worthy role models. (Those closest to her think they’re good enough and wish she could see it, but she doesn’t.)
  3. Progressive is the political umbrella under which Marxists, communists, socialists, fascists, anti-constitutionalists, anti-American liberals, and New World Order advocates hunker down, rely on propaganda to disguise their ideologies, and work together to hide their intentions from the people. Conspiracies abound, nothing happens accidentally, ideological differences arise only behind closed doors, those with power to act are never wrong, and one step back is okay if it follows two steps forward. Also, alert the public to what’s coming so that by the time it arrives, it’s old news, the media can ignore it, and public anger has lost its heat.
  4. Masculine appreciation of the female gender and a man’s love of a woman begins with self-respect that enables respect of someone else. Feminine appreciation of the male gender and a woman’s love of a man begins with her self-love that enables her to share it with someone else. (We can’t share or give what we don’t have in our hearts.)
  5. The subject is political correctness. Without constitution-based authority, people resent being told how they must act. They find ways to resist the expectations of people who evidently don’t respect them in the first place. A predominant majority of people accept and eventually find reason to conform to laws and social norms when they are free to choose. They are motivated to satisfy others because they are respected and trusted to live by their conscience. It used to be the standard American way, when mutual respect birthed mutual trust.


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