Category Archives: Dear daughter

2530. Push the Envelope

Situation. You are shacked up and your man disregards your concern about marriage. He’s a no-action guy mated up with you. Or perhaps not even shacked up, just sexually active and you need to reach for the stars.

Suggestion. Buy an inexpensive or mock wedding band. Wear it all the time. When he or anyone else questions you about it, state only one of the claims below and perhaps alternate them. Never explain further or complain about him or anything. Just say one or the other without smiling; you can’t and don’t want to confuse your message with smiles:

“I’m embarrassed at what I am doing.” OR, “I feel to guilty about what I am doing.”

Then, quickly change the subject to minimize pressure for more info.

See what happens after a six or so months.


Filed under courtship, Dear daughter, How she wins, marriage

2529. Collectivism versus Individualism

I’m back to Left versus Right, elitist intentions that contradict human experience, deliberate deceivers versus accurate perceivers, failed promises versus successful history.

  • The collective results in being forced to sharing what you earn. —versus— Individualism enables one to keep what they earn.
  • Envy stimulates political pressures against others. — versus— Envy is free thought and therefore freedom.
  • Ambitions are fulfilled in politics, activism, and community organizing. — versus— Ambitions are fulfilled by earning respect, prosperity, and opportunity for wealth.
  • Equality is presented as greatest virtue, but it is never achievable, because it fails to resolve envy, which justifies further political pressures and actions. — versus— The greatest virtue is fairness which is achievable because it can resolve and reduce disputes to mutual respect with measurable results.
  • It results in the condition of poverty that reproduces itself and equalizes misery. — versus— It results in lifting everyone’s boat on the dynamic sea of economic growth.
  • Personal influence is result of who one knows regardless of who else benefits. — versus— Personal influence is result of ability, work ethic, and merit in delivering some service or connection to others.

If not clear let me know. If not simple, you should investigate further. If you disagree, let’s discuss it.

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2528. Tips for Women — III

  1. Think and act morally exemplary, and you’ll influence others to duplicate your character.
  2. Think and act pretty, and you’ll make yourself prettier.
  3. Think and act selfishly, and you’ll be treated childishly.
  4. Think and act sexually, and you’ll attract men for sex exclusively.
  5. Think and act uniquely and modestly feminine, and you’ll attract a husband.
  6. Think and act unselfishly, and you’ll become a helpmate or servant leader.
  7. Think and act with moral conviction, and someone will cherish you.
  8. Think and primp in front of a mirror every day, and you’ll become prettier and value yourself much higher.


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2527. Tips for Women — II

  1. Think and act as men do regarding sex, and the lack of dignity, respect of others, and self-respect will haunt you.
  2. Think and act as undeserving, and you’ll have to get by with little and less.
  3. Think and act desperate or fearful, and you’ll be taken advantage of.
  4. Think and act dignified, and you’ll earn respect.
  5. Think and act feminist, and you’ll attract a man temporarily or perhaps a wuss permanently.
  6. Men DO make passes at lasses who wear glasses. Glasses distract from his looking deep in your eyes while you do that to him first.
  7. Think and act like a good Christian, and you’ll develop a servant’s heart and vice versa.
  8. Think and act like a lady, and you’ll be treated as one. (You may, however, have to teach others what being a lady means and how a man should treat her. Your ladylike actions will guide you in what others should do.)
  9. Think and act like a virgin even if you’re not, and you’ll find that men will compete to make themselves worthy of you.
  10. Think and act lonely, and you’ll doom yourself to stay that way.


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2525. Overweight: New Information

I’ve been surprised by news about hormone imbalances that lead to overeating, overweight, and a number of other bad results that women undergo. It is evidently very common, so I want to steer you toward it. Perhaps I can help identify damaging processes, instead of just citing results.

Miss Gina has sent me a clear and informative comment, so I re-post it as today’s daily article. Anyone else with experience with bio-identical hormone therapy (BHT) is encouraged to comment. Like to get the subject opened up broader and deeper.

It is not a field I want to get involved with, but I do want to introduce it so that you can do your own research. So, I recommend you take Miss Gina’s comment below not for anything more than information without suggestion or advice. She provides good detail for you to initiate research. I get Dr. Lee mentioned below at


Dear Sir Guy,

I can vouch for this from experience and have benefited greatly from bio-identical hormone treatment. Dr. C. W. Randolph, whom I mentioned below, is one of the pioneering doctors in this areas of treatment and is still practicing. Dr. John Lee is another, but is unfortunately deceased. Both have written excellent books filled with medical documentation of their findings. A quick Google search on either would provide much info.

If I could suggest some thoughts about how things can work with this. The hormone imbalance can cause several things that work together to cause weight gain. One, the imbalance can cause one to actually gain weight, even while dieting and exercising appropriately. Excess estrogen is stored in belly fat, and it manufactures more fat cells in a vicious cycle. Two, the imbalance can cause food cravings. Three, it can also prompt fatigue and depression, leading to sluggishness and emotional eating. Four, it can cause bloating–excess weight due to water retention. Five, hormone imbalance can cause inflammation or swelling of the female organs, leading to an undeserved “belly.” Six, all of the above cause more stress, which, if not controlled, throws the hormones even further out of whack. Yes, a pretty unwelcome combination! And men can be affected, too.

Add in the fact that the body uses a couple of hundred hormones, and if one or two are out of whack, others might be, too–cortisol and testosterone, for instance. Also, the reasons for imbalances can vary from person to person. So, getting well can get complicated. It is wise for anyone who thinks this might be affecting them to do a lot of reading and self-evaluation. There are tests that can measure the levels of various hormones, and they can be done by mail.

There are also better and lesser quality bio-identical hormones. I believe that both doctors list the better brands/formulations in their respective books, although Dr. Randolph makes his own, as well (which I used successfully).

The books recommended above suggest additional actions that will help get the hormones straight…some of them are the standard health recommendations of Grandma herself, but now we know why she was right. 😄


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2524. Battleground USA — Men Promote, Women Defend

In a play by Aristophanes in 411 BC, Lysistrata with a secret plan persuades Greek women to withhold all sexual pleasures from husbands until a peace treaty is signed to end the war between Athens and Sparta. The signers of the treaty arrive with full erections.

It is a comedy, but successful theater has to reflect reality even though it need not duplicate it. Withholding sex isn’t the lesson here. It is about women getting together to get their way, because their men won’t respond to womanly needs.

We could argue the point, but I concluded long ago. The Left is successful more from this than any other Leftist program to strip We the People of influence: make men and women enemies. Politically motivate them to compete over insignificant matters, separate their interests, twist moral obligation into sexual pleasure, split family cohesion, popularize unmarried sex, prompt each sex to blame the other, remove the religious support that strengthens marital ties. Feminism did it effectively.

Results: Marriage loses its appeal. The family disintegrates. Children lose a parent. The middle class disappears. Neighborly communities lose their substance. Employees lack backup at home. Peaceful life eludes couples. Female-friendly habits and customs disappear.

The Left shamed women, blamed men, and made obsolete two main realities of life: Women need a man for emotional fulfillment, and men need the right woman to free them to do what they have to do.

Without that man-woman needfulness in theory for those trying—and exemplified by those who have it—people don’t worry much about issues and events that destroy nations. Such as malfeasance in government, micro damage to moral codes that makes morality fade almost without objection, out of order growth of government, unconstitutional shifting of political power, deliberate inflation, cultural decay, loss of freedoms, and the unconstitutional prioritizing of sovereignty of groups and the collective over individuals.

In the man-woman war induced by Feminism, women no longer specialize in their feminine destiny of harmonizing home life, guiding men to do right things, and encouraging masculine ambitions to do good. Feminist-think is so popular that many women think their hearts guide them wrongly, and so they don’t follow their feminine ideals. At least too few do.

A little recognized effect of Feminism is the destruction of Womanhood as an influential entity. Women are no longer unified in protecting female- and family-friendly values and standards. Heal that wound, restore Womanhood, and restoration of America may get underway.

It begs the question. Denied both feminine and Womanhood’s influence, how can women help restore America? I don’t really know how. But I do know that principles work with dedicated people behind them to spread influence, and women know how to do that—just follow the feminine heart with ardent enthusiasm to defend their turf, life, and family.

To paraphrase Tocqueville, core competencies are the work of woman. In traditional America, common sense, truth, self-reliance, femininity, morality, and exceptionalism have been the work of women to protect and sustain them in the home. From whence children and husbands help spread her values, standards, and expectations in society and thus endorse and expand womanly dominance of cultural values. It is how the mother’s hand once rocked the bigger cradle of American life.

Why not rock the nation the same way? The previous post lists 35 core competencies that once made America great. I suggest those and others can be used to foster dialogue without offense, without name calling, without blame, but by causing the cradle to rock once again.

It may be a good place for women to start, because they are great on defense. How they defend core competencies in the home need only be expanded to the nation.

I acknowledge the fruitlessness of this or any man’s plan, just not likely to happen.

But women have a funny twist to their character. Summed up as femininity, it includes feminine mystique, modesty, monogamy, manners, motivation, morality, principled judgments, and surprising ability to get their way about things they judge  to be wrong.

Women are already in the habit of delivering the unexpected routinely, so my plan really is to turn leadership about restoring America over to them. Men are too captivated by the availability of cheap and easy sex, so they are not interested enough. Married men won’t get off their duff for involvement in politics. Only women truly care enough to hold together the most female-friendly society ever created and sustained for three centuries. A restored and feminine Womanhood—that excludes feminist-think—might be enough to restore America.


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2523. Battleground USA — Left Promotes, Right Defends

I suspect some readers may like a reference page to get an update on what’s been happening between the Left and Right. So, I compiled a list of 35 major points at which two sides battle in the background, while all the talking heads hide the fundamental principles the Right needs to support, defend, and initiate a comeback to restore America.

To my view, the list is essential to the proper defense against the Leftist ideology and regulatory state—aka federal government—that is the culprit destroying our nation. There are more, and I’ll post as they become more evident.

The Left has for years been on open attack against everything on the Right. Empowered by the way Congress deliberately writes ambiguous laws, bureaucratic regulation is the main vehicle by which they have already changed our country. Successful in regulatory bits and pieces, the Left is encouraged to finish the job without restraint. It’s up to the Right to stop it.

So, I cite major points from which the Left is attacking the Right’s defense. It is offered for those who may profit mentally. I list political opposites for background, but I can’t make a list very reader friendly. But neither is losing our country very friendly to mainstream Americans.

The LEFT dismantles, the RIGHT is the only hope. No one else guards the values and standards that generated American greatness.


  1. The group comes first vs. Individuals come first
  2. Secular-Humanism vs. Judeo-Christian culture
  3. Rule of Man vs. Rule of Law
  4. Rights come from government vs. Rights come from God
  5. Regulation vs. Freedom
  6. Propaganda vs. Truth
  7. Progressivism vs. Free-market capitalism
  8. Power vs. Principles plus common sense
  9. Popular vote vs. Representative’s vote
  10. Political preference vs. Political principle
  11. Political correctness vs. Freedom of speech
  12. National popular vote vs. Electoral College
  13. Nanny state vs. Self, family, and opportunity
  14. Multiculturalism vs. The Melting Pot and e pluribus unum
  15. Moral relativism vs. Morality based on the Bible.
  16. Materialism vs. Self-reliance
  17. Malpractice vs. Tort reform
  18. Living Constitution vs. Amendment is required
  19. Judicial activism vs. Only Congress legislates
  20. Hate speech vs. Thoughts are not criminal
  21. Government growth vs. Limited government
  22. Government grants freedom vs. Liberty comes from Natural Law.
  23. Government creates jobs vs. Wealth creates jobs.
  24. Globalism vs. Patriotism/Nationalism
  25. Feminism vs. Feminine
  26. Federal mandate vs. Local control
  27. Expand the popular vote nationally vs. State and local power
  28. Equality vs. Fairness
  29. Environmentalism vs. Private property rights
  30. Diversity vs. Merit
  31. Democracy vs. Republic
  32. Competition bad vs. Competition good, balances power
  33. Collectivism vs. Individualism
  34. American faults vs. American exceptionalism
  35. Aggrandize more power vs. Balance power to prevent excesses

I encourage all readers to use their superior gender talent and influence to energize themselves and the men in their lives to turn up the heat to restore what we used to have. I don’t have enough time left to enjoy it, but I’ve done my part with a little more to offer as we go along. Men won’t do it on their own; too many have already been bought off by the Left, or are too busy, or just don’t care. My hope is that women care enough. They are not alone, but they have to recruit others to help.


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