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2528. Tips for Women — III

  1. Think and act morally exemplary, and you’ll influence others to duplicate your character.
  2. Think and act pretty, and you’ll make yourself prettier.
  3. Think and act selfishly, and you’ll be treated childishly.
  4. Think and act sexually, and you’ll attract men for sex exclusively.
  5. Think and act uniquely and modestly feminine, and you’ll attract a husband.
  6. Think and act unselfishly, and you’ll become a helpmate or servant leader.
  7. Think and act with moral conviction, and someone will cherish you.
  8. Think and primp in front of a mirror every day, and you’ll become prettier and value yourself much higher.


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2527. Tips for Women — II

  1. Think and act as men do regarding sex, and the lack of dignity, respect of others, and self-respect will haunt you.
  2. Think and act as undeserving, and you’ll have to get by with little and less.
  3. Think and act desperate or fearful, and you’ll be taken advantage of.
  4. Think and act dignified, and you’ll earn respect.
  5. Think and act feminist, and you’ll attract a man temporarily or perhaps a wuss permanently.
  6. Men DO make passes at lasses who wear glasses. Glasses distract from his looking deep in your eyes while you do that to him first.
  7. Think and act like a good Christian, and you’ll develop a servant’s heart and vice versa.
  8. Think and act like a lady, and you’ll be treated as one. (You may, however, have to teach others what being a lady means and how a man should treat her. Your ladylike actions will guide you in what others should do.)
  9. Think and act like a virgin even if you’re not, and you’ll find that men will compete to make themselves worthy of you.
  10. Think and act lonely, and you’ll doom yourself to stay that way.


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2525. Overweight: New Information

I’ve been surprised by news about hormone imbalances that lead to overeating, overweight, and a number of other bad results that women undergo. It is evidently very common, so I want to steer you toward it. Perhaps I can help identify damaging processes, instead of just citing results.

Miss Gina has sent me a clear and informative comment, so I re-post it as today’s daily article. Anyone else with experience with bio-identical hormone therapy (BHT) is encouraged to comment. Like to get the subject opened up broader and deeper.

It is not a field I want to get involved with, but I do want to introduce it so that you can do your own research. So, I recommend you take Miss Gina’s comment below not for anything more than information without suggestion or advice. She provides good detail for you to initiate research. I get Dr. Lee mentioned below at


Dear Sir Guy,

I can vouch for this from experience and have benefited greatly from bio-identical hormone treatment. Dr. C. W. Randolph, whom I mentioned below, is one of the pioneering doctors in this areas of treatment and is still practicing. Dr. John Lee is another, but is unfortunately deceased. Both have written excellent books filled with medical documentation of their findings. A quick Google search on either would provide much info.

If I could suggest some thoughts about how things can work with this. The hormone imbalance can cause several things that work together to cause weight gain. One, the imbalance can cause one to actually gain weight, even while dieting and exercising appropriately. Excess estrogen is stored in belly fat, and it manufactures more fat cells in a vicious cycle. Two, the imbalance can cause food cravings. Three, it can also prompt fatigue and depression, leading to sluggishness and emotional eating. Four, it can cause bloating–excess weight due to water retention. Five, hormone imbalance can cause inflammation or swelling of the female organs, leading to an undeserved “belly.” Six, all of the above cause more stress, which, if not controlled, throws the hormones even further out of whack. Yes, a pretty unwelcome combination! And men can be affected, too.

Add in the fact that the body uses a couple of hundred hormones, and if one or two are out of whack, others might be, too–cortisol and testosterone, for instance. Also, the reasons for imbalances can vary from person to person. So, getting well can get complicated. It is wise for anyone who thinks this might be affecting them to do a lot of reading and self-evaluation. There are tests that can measure the levels of various hormones, and they can be done by mail.

There are also better and lesser quality bio-identical hormones. I believe that both doctors list the better brands/formulations in their respective books, although Dr. Randolph makes his own, as well (which I used successfully).

The books recommended above suggest additional actions that will help get the hormones straight…some of them are the standard health recommendations of Grandma herself, but now we know why she was right. 😄


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2514 — Her Boulevard of Hopes and Dreams

This is a story of a boy and girl called Mike and Anne. They someday will be adults of interest to each other. Will they be compatible enough to marry and stay together? The odds favor that outcome, if their self-development is guided by parents who provide the leadership to produce the following results.

About the time puberty begins its development process, Anne dreams of what her life will be like years ahead of her current age. Hopes and dreams merge into deep desire and immature conviction that it will be happen much as she imagines—shining knight and all. Boys dream of accomplishments, but it’s her dreams that govern marital life.

The sexes are born this way. She has plenty self-love but lacks self-respect. He has plenty self-respect but lacks self-love. They both have to learn how to give what they lack for two reasons: 1) Marital success depends on the glue of mutual likeability and loyalty, which depends upon mutual sharing of sincere and believable love and respect. 2) Since one cannot give what one does not possess, it has to be learned. Otherwise, her showing sufficient respect and his showing sufficient love just isn’t going to happen (although some feel pressured to fake it).

However tough for parents to impose the immature practices described below, it is essential for the marital success of their children. It works as action and reaction between under-developed personalities. Parents teach the practice but kids have to perform the actions, which are critical to shaping personalities for marital success.

In her book The Nurture Assumption, Judith Rich Harris shows that the personalities of children arise more from peer contact than parental influence. I offer the following also as bold justification for large families. Numerous brothers and sisters are so easy to guide this way, and generally turn into mates more easy to get along with.

The Learning Process Works This Way

I write as if they are raised together, but Anne and Mike are associating with others in two different families.

Anne is taught and subjected to the process of showing love for boys just for being boys until it becomes habitual. Mike is taught and subjected to the process of showing respect for girls just for being girls also until habitual. They are taught to exploit their respective strengths on behalf of the other. She specializes in spreading love, he in spreading respect. (Affirmative, you’re right. It is the reverse of what each expects as spouses.)

Not depending on words either, but showing it with actions. Not always, but Anne’s smiles can be sufficient action, because males accept female smiles as encouragement. Mike, however, must actually be more deliberate. Before puberty, the actions of both program their respective hearts for life—Mike with self-love, and Anne with self-respect. It happens this way.

Anne’s actions show love for all boys, and it registers with boys as girly love, which they reject as unwanted. Mike does not need love from girls. Nevertheless, he can’t ignore it, and so he learns to accept it as something akin to respect. He instinctively knows that he at least deserves near-respect from girls. Anne confirms it routinely.

Frequently shown a lot of Anne’s love over the course of a decade before puberty, he learns to think there is more than meets the eye. Her love showers him with her gratefulness for who he is and what he does, which makes her important to him and deserving of his recognition and attention. He concludes, probably not consciously however, that perhaps girls deserve more than respect. So affection begins to develop, and he begins to show it, and his further actions develop affection in his heart, the seed of self-love.

His inborn hard-hearted nature begins to mellow in one particular slice, that of his opinion of girls, which makes his heart receptive to the idea that he is important to girls, which fertilizes the seed of self-love. The seed grows roots until puberty as he receives more girlish attention and affection.

The longer and stronger Mike receives such loving attention from girls and learns to be grateful for them and spread his affection in return, the greater becomes his potential to someday love Anne longer and stronger.

Mike’s actions—necessarily enforced by mother until habitual—shows respect for all girls, which registers with girls as boyish affection. Anne does not need love from boys, she has plenty within herself. So, Anne looks for understanding and perceives that showing her love is respectable. Frequently transposing between her love and a boy’s respect, Anne learns that respectability can be used to get her way, even to represent and defend herself. Her use of self-respect fertilizes more of it, and thereby grows and strengthens as she receives frequent signs that signify greater respect from boys. It encourages her to depend more on self-respect to more easily get her way. Realizing that displaying self-respect pays off, she grows to depend upon it as useful.  Wallah! She has self-respect, which can help her keep Mike after they marry.

The longer and stronger Anne receives such respect from boys, the greater her self-respect grows and underwrites her potential to respect Mike longer and stronger later in life. Thus, lessons learned before puberty determine life after it.

One cannot share what they do not have. Raised with the blessings described above, the more self-love Mike earns before puberty, the more love he can share with his wife, Anne. The more self-respect Anne earns before puberty, the more respect she can show husband, Mike. Whether sharing is proportional or not, adult women should think of it that way. Just the thought of proportionality reinforces the idea that nothing is ever equal, and fairness is good enough to prevent disuse and dispute.

Taught and reinforced from toddlerhood to puberty, Mike’s lesson lights one side with love, and with respect she lights the other side of her boulevard of hopes and dreams. Their marriage sparkles with mutual likeability and loyalty as it passes under the rainbow of her girlhood hopes and dreams.


P.S. I expect ALL mothers to proclaim they can’t do it because making girls love boys will carry into the teens. I say, not so. A girl’s self-respect plus the hormonal hurricane that arrives with puberty will have the opposite effect. Think of it this way. What do girls who get into teen trouble have in common? Lack of self-respect I consider the most critical, but I await the challenge to dispute it with you.


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2513. Journey to Feminine — Group 19

Men and women possess these dynamic motivational forces that trace back to when they were born. You are likely to get confused, so let me familiarize you with the major terms: be good, do good, do better, be better.

Both sexes are born to be better, to improve themselves in their self-development, but with men it means independently and without reference to others. Men can be better without doing good; they can do bad or even evil, and they need only call it better for them.

Women OTOH lack that freedom. Also born to be good, it pressures them to do good, which makes them better. They cannot sit around and claim to be a better person by doing nothing. They are instinctively inspired to prove they are good, and that action confirms both their goodness and self-improvement.

Men lack those dual and primal interconnections of self-development. They are, however, born capable to do good. But they lack the motivational energy to be good in the process of making themselves better aka improving their abilities. Until, that is, they are prompted or pressured by someone else, usually a woman they respect.

Consequently, women are not as self-centered as are men. They parlay their importance greatly by inducing men to do good, which diverts a man from doing less bad or evil. Thus, he becomes better, which confirms her as being good, which elevates her self-importance as his partner and his appreciation of her worth.

It is an instinctive reaction. Great satisfaction arises in a wife’s mind when she gets her man to do good things. She makes possible bad and evil thoughts vaporize, which makes him become a better man to himself by feeding his psyche with thoughts favorable to others. He becomes better simply by allowing her to guide him to do good things. It takes his enormous respect of her to allow it. Contrary to what she thinks, it is not her love, but his respect of her as living and productive example of a good woman. She confirms that he choose correctly, which is extremely satisfying to a man.

Men thrive on a woman’s goodness, and when she also adds other feminine traits, he can lose himself in her. It’s what women expect and want to see, but they have to know where to start, which is intensifying her feminine side. To be womanly earns a man’s respect; to also  be feminine earns his love.


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2512. Feminism Dragged Out of the Closet

Taking a couple of days off. Found something that may keep you occupied.  Truth catches up in the most unusual  ways, but it always emerges.


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2511. Miscellany

The highly feminine woman is very unique to male eyes. She’s not fully understandable but mysterious in ways that are acceptable to husband’s expectations. His acceptance of her relationship effectiveness—he can’t figure how she does it—provides her with the independence she needs to deliver a pleasant life for hubby and herself.

Rush Limbaugh coined the feminazi term to describe the dozen or so radicals that birthed Feminism out of the Women’s Liberation political movement. We need a pleasant and catchy term to identify feminine women who seek to throw off the shroud of Feminism. Any ideas?

I have an idea for engaged women. Befriend your future mother-in-law. Surround her son with a mutually supportive friendship that keeps her on your side. Put him in the middle and it will pay off later. You will be surprised how friendly she will be if you conquer her opinion that you’re not good enough for her son. If you’re a future mother-in-law, do that with your future daughter-in-law. Your son is “lost,” so make the most of it. There are mutual benefits when women take a tag-team approach to make a better man of a son and husband.

It poisons manly commitment to women. Feminism is the philosophy of envy of men, the creed of anger at men, and the gospel of politics-first over men. It blames men for female shortcomings. Then it alibis for female inability to civilize, tame, and domesticate men into female-friendly mates and fathers. Men don’t accept blame; they resist, resent, and retaliate with disrespect of women generally. Sexual freedom for females was devised to compensate, but that too does not work. Sex neither bonds nor keeps a man. Consequently, Feminism brought nothing more than inexhaustible sex to men, which hugely reduces the marrying pool. Men find little virtue in women easy to conquer; moreover, where’s the challenge with her? They find no virtue in promiscuous women; moreover, where’s the competition with men?

OTOH, Femininity is the philosophy of mutual attraction, the creed of mutual fidelity, and gospel of mutual devotion. Its inherent virtue encourages men to suppress their aggressiveness, prove themselves worthy of a woman, act responsibly as husband and father, and otherwise make use of themselves on behalf of women and children.

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