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2857. Social Suicide


I watched the film ‘Network’ again. “I’m mad as Hell, and I’m not going to take it anymore.” I gotta speak out.

Girls and women commit social suicide in growing numbers. Sworn or propagandized into making men pay for past offenses or to equalize the sexes, women seek reparations. They change themselves into such unattractive creatures that men kiss them off as worthless. Women do it with a mixture of bad relationship practices that convince men: adequate for conquest only.

We all follow our beliefs more than momentary thoughts. What follows below represents what too many women believe and are guided accordingly by their hearts distorted by feminism and adopted into interpersonal relationships.

These are some of the embittered suicide pills that women either swallow or practice and presume to be okay. Nay, even the right thing for them to do, or so they believe.

  1. She doesn’t listen to men about what makes men tick. She relies on what other women think and feminists distort for political purpose.
  2. She chatters endlessly about herself, which blocks a man from selling himself to her as a potential pursuer. Feminist-think endorses full disclosure, which is contrary to building successful relationships.
  3. She dresses like a fugitive from garage sales, but expects men to be interested in her.
  4. She refuses to listen to a man talking about himself; she would rather talk about herself—and she does.
  5. She wears long stringy hair far too late in life; it’s low maintenance and, anyway, men or her man told her twenty years ago they liked it. Actually, it clouds her personality with the message that she’s lost in the past, just too old for a budding relationship.
  6. She spotlights her appearance with low maintenance, comfort over grooming, and disregard for how men may view her. IOW, no way will she pay a price to satisfy men with her appearance, which is strong poison in her suicide ditty-bag of pills.
  7. She refuses to compete with other gals for best appearance, strongest attractiveness. Even though men judge gals that way. It causes many to be hit on for sex by guys they don’t want.
  8. She believes whatever men can do, she can too. Whatever they deserve, she deserves. And, unfortunately, she tries to prove it everyday to herself, if not others.
  9. She bitches about male dominance and still wants to fight it. She gives up her skill and talent to govern relationships successfully, and so she’s not able to build and keep a relationship for very long.
  10. She yields first sex together early in dating and expects him to bond with her as she does with him. Just prior to conquest, he expects that she’s keeper, booty, or disposable. But women don’t know that ahead of time. The shorter the time before conquest, the more likely she’s disposable rather than keeper.
  11. She acts as the seller to convince a man to be her boyfriend or fiancé. It shuts down his interest in selling her on himself and he can sooner get into her pants. Almost guaranteed to become a dumpee as soon as she yields sex first time.
  12. She gets her worldly info from TV, Internet, and pop culture and accepts it as real life. Then she takes up social media habits that turn her personality so self-centered that it distorts her public personality.
  13. She portrays herself as sex object and criticizes men of no interest for hitting on her. It confirms to her that men are no good.
  14. She fails to understand that men believe what they figure out about a woman much more that what she tells them.
  15. She mistakenly thinks that full discovery is the way to open a relationship. In fact, the opposite works best. He describes who and what he is and she just listens, which is the start up of her earning a man’s respect that is the foundation of his love that may develop later.
  16. She eats like a truck driver, lives on huge high caffeine sodas, and sports a pot belly like men. She expects her excess weight will be forgiven by Mr. Next Guy and thus prove that she’s right to forgive herself. It’s a laughable equation that works so seldom, and so she ends up disliking herself every day for life.
  17. She arises each morning with a huge dislike of herself. She feels good until she begins to think what the day will bring and dislike of self swallows the outgoing side of her personality.
  18. She pays any price to claim a boyfriend as hers, even to his mistreating her mentally or physically.
  19. She fails to capitalize on female strengths, such as femininity, mystery, modesty, vanity, and monogamous spirit.
  20. She refuses to recognize this trait in the male nature: A man accepts competition with a woman prior to conquest. He refuses to compete with a woman he has conquered, and so he expects only her cooperation afterward.
  21. She copies masculine habits, which destroys femininity, and which cancels most female qualities that men admire and see as virtues; those that accumulate for her to make her a virtuous woman like a man hopes to marry.
  22. She accepts anger, lets bitterness develop, and otherwise makes herself an unattractive personality that even smiles can’t erase.
  23. She acts as the seller with man as the buyer, which reverses the natural roles that worked for centuries. If he’s not earning her as the seller, she’s in for a short relationship, probably just conquest.
  24. She floats an attitude that men are no good, and so why should she do anything special? Men always get the easy way out, why shouldn’t she?
  25. She wants more control, and so she dresses down to keep uninteresting men from hitting on her.
  26. She falsely believes that men and women are more alike than different in their natures, in their personal makeup, behavior, motivation, and interaction with the opposite sex.
  27. She dislikes herself so intensely that she seeks to pull those around her down to her level, and men pull the easiest because she doesn’t understand the male nature.

A lot of overlap exists in that list, but you get the idea. Men are no better than women make them, and the social suicide above makes worse whatever quality of men women face today.

That’s a lengthy menu of female poisons being injected into the social sphere. Not all women are guilty. Those prone to doing so have one thing in common. They don’t like themselves as a female, as girl or woman. They inflate their egos and help ensure their sanity by practicing the poisonous thoughts listed above.

They dislike themselves as the result of upbringing in families, predominantly those that believe feminist thought and propaganda that men are the enemies of women.

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2855. Sex for Pleasure and Marriage are Mutually Exclusive


Women are giving up on men, because they don’t understand the male nature about sex. Her Highness Elena, gave me an opportunity to summarize why females are so frustrated.

Females learn this the hard way if at all. Sex for pleasure, aka the man’s game, is mutually exclusive with successful married life, aka the woman’s game. Why? Because wives can’t keep husbands home, cheaters are not trustworthy in other matters, and marriages fall apart from lack of mutual likeability.

Elena expressed her frustration this way, “…everything with men is about sex! Everyday I can feel in my heart and head less and less attraction to men knowing all I know now (and I am 22 years old).” You’re right about men, darling, but you’re moving in the wrong direction, and I hope to show you why.

You need to learn more about both sexes and their differences. You are designed and particularly endowed with the skill and talent to find and keep for life your choice of a man. You can find the what, why, and how details described in many different ways throughout this blog. But the angelic essential that makes and holds a couple together comes from the following.

No man is interested, much less motivated, to produce what you expect out of life. Until, that is, you coach, train, teach, motivate, and otherwise convince him you are the best woman for him.

To hold his interest long enough to discover who and what you are and can be in his life, only one thing works. Keep your legs crossed for so long that he discovers not only your virtues, but his respect grows out of your insistence on protecting your sexual assets, and his imagining that all men find you the same.

The longer you refuse to yield, the more of his respect you earn, and a man’s love is founded on respect for a woman. The greater his respect, the more likely he stays with you. The magnetic attractions of female love should be matched by the respect of a man for one woman, or they likely fail as a couple.

Nothing else holds a man’s attention long enough than a female’s refusal to be conquered. Sometimes, however, a man quits chasing early, which in itself is a sign that he was after sex more than her, which means he already had her aimed for dumping soon after their first sex together.

We are put on earth to live as couples. Only women can produce success living together, and your most critical efforts take place before marriage. Marriage isn’t the man’s game, until you teach one man that your way is the best way for both.

After marriage, women are expected to balance the books. You have to acknowledge that he earned frequent and convenient access and is entitled to marital sex at his bidding. He earned it by letting you have your way before marriage.

A personal story. Grace and I were broke for the first 25 of our 59 years. I finally gained control of our spending, and we were never broke after that.

It’s much the same with women. Control your sexual assets such that men are unable to conquer you for first sex together, and you will not be without men chasing you. Admittedly today, men may not chase very long, but it misleads women. If you’re attractive enough in all situations and refuse to yield, you will be chased. Men can’t stand to pass up an opportunity to conquer what appeals to their eyes; it’s up to you to dissuade them from immediate access to your sexual assets.

Except for convenience, men don’t chase women with whom they’ve had sex, only the gals who refuse it the first time. And men more earnestly chase the ones who made other men fail at conquest. Every man competes to beat out buds and other men, and conquest is the most eagerly sought way of earning bragging rights. It’s the male nature at work.

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2854. Men Marry a Virtuous Woman


Quoted from post 2847, “The more unique qualities you display, the harder a guy seeks to get you in bed, because the accumulation of your virtues make you more worthy and unique in his eyes.” Her Highness Miss Green inquired about details.

Unfortunately, you gals don’t get to make your own virtues. You only get to shape the opinion of men that you are what each man wants to marry, a virtuous woman, which is each man’s collective measure of whatever he expects out of his mate. IOW, men don’t need marriage until one woman convinces one man indirectly that he can’t live without her. Thus, men shop around for the accumulation of virtues that mean enough to him, and which meet minimum requirement for him to marry.

By definition, a virtue is a quality of yours that one man admires. Who knows what it is? Until one man makes the call for himself, that is, and probably doesn’t reveal it. It’s part of your collection of qualities that make you stand out as different and, hence, particularly attractive to him. Your virtues roll up into your likeability, which unfortunately for female-think falls far short of love as females wish it.

You have virtues that he doesn’t see all that clearly in others. Virtues make you different from other gals; they are how his eyes see and his judgments make you more worthy of attention and desire to bed you first time. Thus, God and Nature puts you in competition with other gals, whether you like it or not.

Your outer features he may admire such as hair, eyes, mouth, facial expressions, figure, legs, classy dresser, personality that appeals to him, or whatever. Men judge women with their eyes first, and your attractiveness is vital. Dress comfortably and a man sees little or nothing to admire. Dress to the nines and you hold his attention while he scans for virtues.

Over time, he comes to admire your inner qualities such as character strong enough to stand up for yourself, ability to earn his respect, smiling countenance, personal likeability, friendly manner, willingness to listen to him, willingness to trust him, silence about who and what you are, use of modesty to protect yourself, unwillingness to give away your most valuable sexual assets, ability to love without giving away the store, ability to use vanity inoffensively to make yourself look better than others expect, potential to be a wife/mother/friend, virginity or nearness to it, and many other qualities worthy of his admiration.

Closing the gap to marriage is far more than just a man’s appreciation of your virtues. But that’s another story for another time.

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2853. Good Reading for Women


The author of the main site below describes what modern women should do to improve their lives with self and men. I read all three and they are both poignant and clear. She mostly tells women how to handle themselves better dealing with men, while my blog focuses on the natural background of why women should do it. Using both of us, women help themselves fulfill their hopes and dreams, provided, that is, they are willing to become a better person/woman/gf/wife/mother.

All three articles are at the same website, but the following impressed me so much. (I think each requires Ctrl-click.)

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http://damesthatknow.com/2018/01/30/a-tough-love-letter-to-my-19-year-old-self/

 

http://damesthatknow.com/2016/03/30/they-want-you-when-they-cant-have-you/

 

http://damesthatknow.com/2016/09/06/21-complaints-millennial-women-have-about-men-relationships/

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2852. Blame Men if You Want to Sink the Female Ship


Assessing the results in both society and culture, I conclude this. For over five decades women have listened only to women about how to deal with unmarried men and husbands. As the single mindedness continues, feminine attractiveness softens in relationship reflux, female expertise dissolves, and hostility grows. Girls, women, and even moms unwittingly teach the wrong thing for achieving female hopes and dreams. Some men and even fathers unwittingly endorse the political movement we know as Feminism.

Even though love of females arises only out of masculine respect, feminist advocates teach that personal independence and sexual freedom are so important that men’s opinions should be disregarded, which equates respectively to less objective discussion between the sexes, less and less respect, and less and less masculine love of women. Those behaviors are all connected.

If women don’t ration unmarried sex to get their way, they are not able to fulfill female hopes and dreams. Female insistence on independence and sexual freedom as witnessed in America today is mutually exclusive with men helping fulfill female hopes and dreams. Men may marry, but it’s a long way from women getting what they want out of life. The results are all relative and mostly according to how women act.

The availability of plenty unmarried sex appeals to the raw nature of hunter-conquerors, attracts masculine eyes, diverts manly ambitions, stalls and sours the development of devotion to one woman, and discourages men from helping one woman get what she’s after. The proof lies with the multitude of single moms, empty ring fingers, and unattached women in middle and older ages.

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The fallout of masculine-style sexual freedom for females results in the darkest exploitation of females of all ages. They are seduced away from the art of developing compatible togetherness, lasting relationships, and cultivating the teamwork required to harmonize family life. They blame men, which drives men to reject the guilt messages and argue back or retaliate with every intention of winning.

The end result is that unmarried men don’t respect women generally, don’t learn how to exploit the exploitable, and strongly disfavor marriage and permanent relationships. They have been taught by women that devotion to one woman is not needed, morality is not important, sex is paramount, thoughts of marriage are foolish, and divorce means financial strangulation.

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EDITOR’S NOTE. I suggest readers get more involved discussing men and women with men. Forget the Venus and Mars, pop culture, and media stuff. Bury your head directly in questioning someone of the opposite sex. More directness and even cover intimate subjects, but not whether she should or shouldn’t do it first time. Get to know men more deeply about other than sex. Most of all learn how to listen without judgment, argument, or defending females. Learn to accept someone else for who they really are and try to earn mutual respect.

I know, I know! You gals can’t talk about intimate subjects with men not your own; do it anyway, it can be therapeutic if you ease into it with your boundaries well marked out and followed. Present conditions cry for relief, and women won’t change until they find out what the male nature really looks like in a person.

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2848. Man-think about Her “Do You Love Me?”


The male nature—man-think—works like the following when confronted with a woman’s angst about her worthiness to her man.

Every day I figure out more clearly that when a woman asks a man if he loves her, she calls up little but confusion in his mind. Out of that confusion comes a lot of vibes that do not necessarily help a relationship.

She routinely asks, “Do you love me?” without realizing that men just don’t think about love and its meanings the same as women.

  • His mind prevents him from calling it love in his heart. As a man, he can’t do all the things that she does to care for and do in her loving of others. He’s nowhere near the caring person she is, and caring is what her love is all about. It’s not his nature, and so he’s caught in a whirl of confusion trying to deal with his favorite woman, when she asks that question so vital to her own well-being.
  • He wants to answer but he can’t find sincerity. Love as she knows it does not reside in his heart. He knows that, but also knows that she expects it to be there. He doesn’t want to lie, disappoint, or come up short in her eyes. So, he blurts out “of course” and guilt—from the dishonesty within himself—keeps him from going much further to convince her.
  • Trying to be honest, he spouts out whatever is needed to get him clear of the moment. However, sincerity is missing from his response. She senses being somewhat cheated, uncertainty sets in, and she begins to inquire more often. The more often she asks, the worse he feels from inability to be sincere to someone he admires, likes, and appreciates with all his heart.

Now, if she asked ‘do you like me’ she would get several different responses. Probably an excess of affirmatives and, perhaps, more frequent displays of attention, affection, and appreciation. Man-think works well and clearly—easily sincere and honest—when the question is whether someone or something is liked.

Months ago I concluded that love is never enough to hold a couple together as women are prone to believe. I began writing about mutual likeability being the paramount ingredient in a successful relationship. That which I posed above confirms my earlier decisions. Deal with men in likeability rather than love and a woman will find a more accurate path to where she stands with her man.

In short, her just asking a man if he loves her can weaken his dedication to her. How? It weakens his dedication to himself to be honest, which weakens his character, and which undercuts his ability to treat his woman with the highest regard he can muster at any given moment.

To help keep a man honest, sincere, and forthright, never ask him if he loves you. Ask him if he likes you, and—as a woman—you can find out the strength of his sincerity by his actions. In short, for a woman to find the love of a man, she must first be so likeable that he struggles just to be around her. Three little words may satisfy her ears, but his sincerity, honesty, and actions prove his dedication.

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2839. Girls Throw Away the Candy Store — 06: Old School Candy


I’m not naïve enough to believe today’s social and domestic conditions could return to what I describe below. I offer it for the likelihood some woman somewhere will have an “ah ha” moment with the realization she learned something new about the male or female nature.

I don’t know how to convey my new convictions about women and Feminism. It’s too opposite of what modern women believe. We don’t have enough old ladies left to confirm what I describe, but I have to tackle it.

I figured out the highest cost of Feminism; it effectively drowns the female heart—defined as what a woman believes. American women now keep both their personality and female heart inside, let it show only for selfish reasons, and think they—and us men—are somehow better for it. Not! Without more and more female goodness exploding from individual females into everyday functions, society wilts on the vine of too much maleness. We Americans have arrived.

You gals will have trouble here, but please bear with me, and your questions can help clear up some thoughts. I figured out why modern women lose and the females of my younger life were more successful dealing with men, Marriage was current fashion and children were raised by two parents. Almost every man sought a wife.

Feminism reversed the externalizing of the female personality and turned it back internally to question the female heart. In effect, all the blaming of men shut down the external functioning of the female heart.

As the result, the female heart has been lifted out of its well-deserved role and placed on the back burner of society. It means females lost their status as participants equal under the laws of male-female connections in the land of free couples.

However, the female heart when turned outward instead of inward sparkles with feminine personality attributes that make owners feel good about themselves and the well-being spreads to people all around.

Women have two distinctly different female functions that apply here. The female heart has desire to spread the tremendous goodness buried there, and the female personality has the ability to spread it to those around her. Thus, when a woman chooses, her interest and personality operate outside herself and her heart is reflected onto everyone she encounters.

The female heart is full of niceness, gratefulness, kindness, goodness, courtesy, admiration, cleanliness, and many other qualities worthy of male admiration. Displayed in public, those traits are contagious even among men and the knowledge helps men please their mates more effectively.

Nearly everyone absorbs those feminine traits willingly and gratefully, when conscientious females show off just who and what they are in uniquely feminine terms. If they have Christ in their heart or even just Christian beliefs, they shine ever more brightly with self-confidence that rocks the male world.

The American experience showed the rest of the world before the 1960s. The female personality belongs out on the streets of life, grouped harmoniously to handle males, and not hidden within each female.

I admit to some exaggeration for effect, but girls and women used to use their personalities externally and let the world know each was a queen in her own light. They weren’t buried within themselves trying to find a way out by finding a man to whom they could be submissive.

They pushed themselves into mainstream America on the strength of individual personalities extended outward for show, female pleasure of appreciating others, and affirming feedback from males that females knew what they were doing, Men thus bowed to female values, standards, and expectations.

Girls didn’t harbor worries and think boys were necessary. They extended themselves into society as a female team and let the boys and men know they had to earn whatever they got. They moved sex to background mode and showered the social and domestic scenes with the pleasantness, kindness, and goodness of the female heart; their personalities thrived and interacted with anyone, anytime, and always to win whatever situation developed with guys.

IOW, males were respected as long as they stayed inside female lines of acceptability. And women drew those lines clearly and eagerly, so that males knew at all times where they stood. Girls didn’t betray girls, although some stole boyfriends, but it didn’t tear down the female team. Gals were out to make guys toe the female line of acceptable behavior for sex-free kindness, goodness, and pleasantness, amid female personalities very often thrown up in male faces.

My view can be simplified to this. Predominantly, females focused their lives and personalities outside of themselves; they projected themselves affirmatively into the mainstream of life with intent to keep men on the periphery until they earned their own woman. IOW, queens let kings earn their way into the female world. It describes my world as teen boy and young man, although I admit to a small measure of hyperbole.

Females were gratified with their dynamic wifely roles until radicals and political activists convinced them otherwise with feminist propaganda. Politics in a relationship works just like a social disease; it separates male from female.

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NATURAL LAW: She becomes a great wife when she learns to govern husband’s dominance such that he likes and perhaps loves her for it.

 

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