The male self-development game plan looks like this. Boys are little men, and they live primarily in the present. They only need a place to flop, eat, throw their things, and prepare to fight tomorrow’s dragons. They want and continually seek the freedom to think and act as an independent individual. Everyone else can take care of himself, including girls/women as perceived by boys/men. Unless, that is, a female has something better and offers to share.
Motivated by need to admire themselves, males tackle obstructions and seek to overcome when Nature or something else stands in their way. They admire themselves in hard scrabble mental and physical romps competing with males in order to win advantage and dominate the shaping of human events, earning respect, and enhancing reputations. It’s a never ending process. They are energized by need to admire themselves, which they repeat until satisfied they have done well enough. Out of the quality and quantity of satisfactions earned, a proud sense of significance arises.
Satisfying themselves at play, work, or whatever else they feel responsible for, they achieve what needs to be done. Then they quit, go home in order to admire themselves with R&R and reap the recognition their mother or mate has in store to daily confirm their significance. They have done their part to confirm it and are ready—although they don’t need it—for mother’s or mate’s recognition and reinforcement.
A man’s greatest fear is insignificance. It’s devastating and may be the prelude to departure when claimed by mate to whom he’s devoted. It often comes with loss of job and zero prospects for employment (and mates find it almost impossible to help overcome it).
Males do little planning about the future; they figure they can handle whatever comes and so preparation is unnecessary. Compared to women, that is—next.