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2575. More Tips for Women — 09

  1. To stimulate interest and help her for life, a woman convinces a man that he can be more of a competitive winner with her as permanent part of his life.
  2. Initially trying to find weakness to get her into bed, a man uncovers strengths and qualities that he admires, aka virtues to him. They can be useful and indicate her ability to support his way of life.
  3. Uncovering her sexual history is a man’s due diligence. He wants to know but non-disclosure is best for her. Disclosure risks it being used against her someday.
  4. Total silence about her sexual history may be best but not always practical. Repeated smiles and light-hearted banter can change the subject and discourage excess interest.
  5. Under certain circumstances, women can change a man’s behavior. Mostly, it takes place before conquest or happens slowly after years of devoted marriage.
  6. Cheap and easy sex causes a man’s respect of a woman to not form, and it opens the door to male aggression, family irresponsibility, and violence against women and children.
  7. Using the virtual virginity strategy prevents a woman being taken for granted before marriage. It keeps boyfriends guessing, and thus adds to her mystery.
  8. When a man senses that a woman finds him attractive, appealing, or of more than friendly interest, his nature tends to take her for granted, e.g., players.
  9. In the face off of two conquerors, her yielding sex stops the growth of her worth to him except for booty sex. If he’s invested little of his time, effort, and money, then she’s worth little to him.
  10. When a woman concludes that men are only after one thing, she ignores or downplays all else she has to offer. It weakens her as candidate for marriage.


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Blog 2571 — Ladies: I’m Out of Order

I recently upgraded software and cannot work with it. WORD 2016 defeats me. I may be offline for quite awhile. Sorry.



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2546. Ten Steps To Win A Man’s Heart — Her Mindset

Now, ladies, in all likelihood you expect some rules in this series. There are five rules but not what you probably think. And this isn’t even step one yet.

1) Make yourself into the good, feminine, and exciting woman a man wants to pursue. Then, calm your infatuation and stay out of his way so he can make himself worthy of you. 2) Keep yourself so attractive and unique relative to other women, especially in his presence, that he would not think of chasing someone else. 3) Remain chaste without explaining yourself, until you fall back on virtual virginity as your strategy. You’re ahead in the game, when he wants you more than sex with you. You will know that when his devotion appears, pleasing himself by pleasing you. 4) Be patient, don’t inquire about his love of you or seek to improve on whatever the relationship evolves into; it’s his game to play, and he does it best by doing what he thinks it takes to keep from losing you. 5) Let the big things like love and affection fall into place naturally. Avoid, prevent, and eliminate the little things such as irritants, nags, pleadings, offenses, and seeds of dispute.

A woman’s  mindset determines her attitude, which governs her behavior in the presence of the man whose heart she hopes to win. Modern women have soured mindsets, which I hope to sweeten in ten steps. (Men are no better off, but this isn’t their story.)

Women have the general picture of winning a man’s heart. However, they have lost or forgotten many of the critical details that make it work to the advantage of girls and women. Much of it will contradict what women have thought for years, because women have too long ignored the congenital nature of both sexes.

Pushed to the brink by undeserved blame, modern men focus on using women for personal satisfaction with sex as major theme—conquest, booty, porn, date rape, wham bam, one-night stands, love ‘em and leave ‘em, dump and go, hook up but look up the next. The inborn nature of men has long been disguised behind the misconception of feminist propaganda and misapplication of blame. Consequently, women have fallen victim of political nonsense that causes breakup of families and burdens women much more than do men.

Fewer and fewer marriages last. Consequently, men get what they want with little obligation, and women are unable to fulfill their girlhood hopes and dreams. Misguided women have detrained men from even wanting to help females achieve their hopes and dreams.

Regrettable, but it accurately portrays America in the hands of men as enemies of women’s expectations and goals in life. The immediate pleasure of sex has been elevated above the better things in life. Which are the deferred pleasures of compatible, comfortable, and companionable relationships with long range marital promise for women and rewarding satisfaction for men as they associate with women and children.

Where is the breakdown? Lack of respect, males for females. First, females don’t doggedly guard their supremely valuable sexual assets. Men would never yield such valuable assets except for a great price, never give it away for little or nothing. Anyone that dumb doesn’t deserve masculine respect. Second, men don’t take well to undeserved blame by feminists.

Lack of respect, females for males. Led by feminist thought, women blame men for the ills of female lives. Blame slaughters respect over time. Both society and the culture are now heavily influenced by mutual lack of respect.

Neither sex seems to realize that the male nature is shaped this way. Men do not love what they can’t or don’t respect. So, no respect by men results in no love of women. No love, no bonding. It is not universal yet, but it is trending that way.

Without the bonding of mutual love, how long can a couple last? A substitute my help—devotion—and it may be easier to achieve, sustain, and uplift a man’s love. I describe later how it originates.

Winning a man’s heart is actually done at this long-running battle. He’s not all that interested in her without first sex together, but she has to change that and inspire him to prioritize her over conquest. It is the foundation of his devotion and love, and the toughest job a woman faces to generate a lifetime marriage.

She governs the way to a man’s heart by making her appearance and behavior attractive to him. No guarantee because so much life remains to be lived. But the successful process eventually motivates him to admirably stride down the middle of the road of marital bliss with her more than sex on his mind. This series describes the complex process of how a woman builds success, how she wins the battle of two conquerors.

Before we proceed, however, heads up, ladies. This is the most important thing you will read in this series. You can change to promote your interest; he cannot or will not change except to facilitate conquest. You cannot purposely and proactively capture a man’s heart. He gives it up to you, because of what he figures out from your attractiveness and actions, what you don’t do with your mouth, and what promise you hold for brightening his current life with convenience, comfort, and frequent sex. Forget virginity although great to have, forget conquest although delaying it will be your greatest battle of the sexes, and forget entrapment. Even if it works now, it will fail you somewhere down the marital road.

Nice, quiet, feminine mystique, female modesty, and monogamous spirit embellished with genuine sincerity enables you best to peacefully hold off his drive for conquest until he is captivated by you as more promising as mate than as conquest. He has to want you more than sex; which is your toughest job. Sex may capture but it does not hold a man; only you can do that.

The woman’s toughest principle to follow is the one from just above, “what you don’t do with your mouth.” Three things: 1) Don’t do fellatio. It reinforces his male dominance, expectations about submitting to his whims, and stops the earning of his respect. And respect is a foundational requirement of masculine love. 2) Don’t do ‘full disclosure’ or endlessly talk about little things, because it dissolves feminine dignity into juvenile pretension. 3) Don’t explain yourself or complain about things that happen or that you don’t like. Keep your opinions to yourself. Opinions that reflect adversely on you are far more numerous and likely to be different from his. The male nature is wired to presume a man’s opinions superior to women. If you sound dumb he’s gone; if you’re right, he’s unimpressed and may take offense that you are smarter than he, and then he’s gone.

Revere your independence. As you can keep him guessing about you, you keep his curiosity up, imagination working, and his interest fired up. The less you say, the more composed, upbeat, encouraging but mysterious you remain all the time. It improves the odds his appreciation will grow of who and what you are beyond what sex brings into his life. His appreciation has to grow although your attractiveness jumpstarts it, and you have to sustain it.

Forget using the words, “I love you.” You can say it, but it gains you little. The words impress and make you feel good but not him; he doesn’t base his decisions on what you say, and so the words provide you no advantage for selling yourself—unless he’s about to bail out because he thinks you have no interest in him. But, just say it once or twice; it’s easy to overdo and make you look desperate. In fact, not using that phrase generates highly desirable mystery in you. (OTOH, if he easily spouts it out, red flag, as he’s likely being disingenuous or lying to facilitate conquest.)

The one most fearful of losing the other usually loses in the long run. So, show no fear about losing him; if he threatens, hold the door open, call his bluff. If he leaves, you are blessed by finding it out then rather than later.

Also, until he actually convinces himself that he loves you—a lengthy process—he takes having to say it on your pressure or request as deep commitment or perhaps obligation to marry. A man is reluctant to take that step until he is certain. That can take months or even years, which makes devotion to you an easier accomplishment than gaining his love (explained later).

His process that wins his heart for you eventually motivates him to admirably stride down the middle of the road of marital bliss. No guarantee of what follows because so much life remains to be lived.

Step 01 is next.


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2540 — Submissive #07a —Neck Leadership or Rank Structure?

This expands #15 in previous article with another option to wife’s leadership as neck of the family.

Separate roles/domains with sufficient authority attached makes for smoother family sailing. Both spouses learn to please each other by submitting to the one previously designated as ‘ultimate’ authority for routine matters. This rank structure defines roles and how they work relative to each other.

By  mutual agreement, each adult fills two roles. Husband reports to God, the source of his authority to lead his family. Wife reports to husband. Mother reports to wife. Father reports to mother. And children report to both, but primarily their mother.

Yes, mother reports to herself. Wife has broader and deeper responsibilities than mother. To rank mother above wife is to effectively rank children above husband, which is destructive to family harmony and even solidarity. Wife has responsibility to keep husband uplifted above children and against her own motherly tendency to put children first.

Yes, father reports to mother, and kids have only one boss. She’s far better positioned and qualified to lead the domain of child care, provide developmental guidance and assistance, and generate ambitions to be adults rather than teenagers. Fathers are far better qualified to roast in the limelight of mother turning offspring into children of which father can be proud. Fathers contribute best to child-raising with indirect leadership by example that mothers can highlight as admirable examples to duplicate as adults.

Don’t interpret it to mean fathers should be disengaged. Just subject to mother being the sweeter and more acceptable boss with kids. Mom takes all disagreements with father from in front of the children to deal with husband as his wife. It forces children to draw conclusions from what happens next.

Mom always appears to have won—even if she hasn’t—and dad never seems to have lost and vice versa. But wife/mom functions anew if she lost to husband and sells the children on buy-in her husband expects to see. Thus, children see love in action resolving parental disputes that involve them. They more easily imagine that mom will win behind closed doors. And each time mom reappears as if she most likely won whatever the ‘battle’. Whether she actually won representing the children or not, her ‘warrior’ courage to face off with dad reinforces their allegiance to her, aka the primary leader of their lives.

And you say, what if dad doesn’t like something about mom’s mothering? Then husband takes it up with his wife, who is responsible to him. He tells her the WHAT of the matter, and wife as mother determines the HOW she will carry it out. And you say, I never heard of such a thing. And I say, effective leadership is based largely on many principles. These three pertain here: 1) Loyalty and trust starts at the top and works downward or it isn’t worth much. 2) Telling someone WHAT to do within their domain of responsibility is to signal belief that they are qualified and trusted to do the right thing. 3) OTOH, to also tell them HOW to fulfill their responsibility is a direct sign they are considered unqualified and distrusted. To distrust someone is to cause them to question their respect for the sender, which in turn also generates distrust.

When and if distrust and its counterpart disrespect appear between wives and husbands, it does not get conveyed to the children. That children see on trust and respect is critical to the raising of good children.

When wife thinks she has everything under control because she’s the neck and he’s the head of family, she misses out on so many ways of working out disputes. Cooperation does not emerge from one high boss and tweaker beneath. It arises out of mutually respectful working relationships where who does what, when, and where depends on who is responsible and must answer for the results. If one does not have the authority to judge and decide what needs to be done, they cannot in good conscience and good leadership be held accountable.

As for me, the neck analogy may work, but I favor the rank structure where everyone knows that for which they are responsible, can be held accountable, and children have only one boss. It is leadership within a partnership instead of being a partnership without firm leadership principles for guidance.

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2532. Submission #01: The Introduction

The last of this series was completed two years ago. It’s time for a repeat and hopefully something new. We have new readers on board. So, let’s start at the top. We view life from outer space. God designs, Nature endows, and hormones energize two different sexes. One is dominant but the other superior. Respectively, the immovable object faces the irresistible force, male gender versus female gender. It’s the historical and highly traditional battle of the sexes.

Expecting women to submit flips the superior sex on its head. Not only that, it makes women mad just thinking about it, even when they hear it in church. Unfortunately, that causes some women to lose their female balance, to blame the men in their lives. Regardless of how pastors explain it, there’s plenty of hope always available in the feminine boodle bag of options.

Since the Holy Bible favors men on the subject, women don’t seem to have a full hand of cards to play. Ahhhhh! But they do. In fact, they hold the superior hand. They have patience, skill, hardheadedness, grateful heart, free will, and abundant opportunities to play. Men have stubbornness, self-respect, hardheartedness, ego, and competitive determination to defend only one position, that she must submit. Advantage: wives. Abundant opportunities can smother one position even though well-defended.

The advantage comes from this. When push comes to shove, submission means only one thing to men. It’s their handicap. Not handicapped, women are blessed from birth for this particular battle. They are by nature cooperative and even submissive when in their best interest. Their nature thus provides advantage that enables them to outsmart, outwit, and out-maneuver dominant males. Consequently, submission isn’t a yes or no battle. Women make a game of ‘maybe’ out of it that convinces their man that he has won.

The feminine submissive spirit, often seen by men as unrespectable, is quite capable of conquering a man’s insistence that she submit as he and other men conceive it.



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2521. Request for Help

I copied from Excel to Word 2007. I cannot get rid of several hidden but connected boxes around the text. My search has proven fruitless. Anyone know how? It delays my next post until at least Saturday, as I have to leave town until then. Thanks.



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2415. PROVERBS — Singles 09

  1. To have a boyfriend women give up femininity, modesty, high moral standards, and other female strengths. Thus, they become expendable.
  2. The harder she is to conquer, the more trophy-like she appears to him. A ‘trophy’ is not who she is but who he perceives as a promise for his life.
  3. The less trustful his character, the more intense he is to learn her sexual past.
  4. The longer and justifiably a woman holds out for marriage before first sex together, the more admiration and lasting respect she earns from him.
  5. Men seek to marry a virtuous woman. Each quality a man detects, confirms, and admires is a virtue to him. With enough time, more grows into virtuous.
  6. The longer she puts off having first sex with him, the greater her worthiness to be his wife for life—his perception. Resistance suggests loyalty and other men failed.
  7. The more neat, clean, modest, feminine, and chaste she appears, the more unique and possibly extraordinary she appeals to a man.
  8. The sexes have opposing and competing strains of A.D.D. Women suffer from Affection Deficit Men from Affection Delivery Disorder.
  9. As a man probes for information about her sexual history, the wiser woman refuses, rejects, and if necessary calls it improper and none of his business.
  10. These are masculine expressions of affection: opening her car door, seating her at table, repairing broken things, and especially bringing home the bacon.


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