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120. Choices determine life


First, the way we dress plays a major role in how we behave. People judge behavior. Therefore, our attire and grooming generate judgments about us, and people act on those judgments when they deal with us.

Second, we are who we associate with. So, dressing like our peers catalogues us. It breeds stereotypes. As mother so correctly stated, “Birds of a feather flock together.”

Third, dressing up improves part of one’s appearance, so it brings self-gratitude, which brings happiness with oneself, which improves the picture one has of oneself, which breeds self-confidence and greater ability to deal successfully with others.

Fourth, when women dress up they make my world prettier. Of course, women respond that they care little about brightening this man’s world, but I’m not the only man out there. If women don’t want to light up the world men live in, men are released to uglify in their own style. In the end, the way women dress and groom themselves shapes the real world for all of us.   

A WOMAN DRESSES AND GROOMS HERSELF:

©      For comfort to please herself.

©      With class to show her self-confidence.

©      Prettily to feel good about herself.

©      Distinctly to attract a man’s attention.

©      Sloppily if she just doesn’t care.

 ©      As a hottie to avoid being called a nottie.

©      Femininely if she wants respect and recognition for who she is.

©      Professionally if she works proudly in her job.

©      Masculinely if she’s bitch or butch.

 ©      Gaudily if she’s weak at reading other people or insensitive to or disdainful of their judgments.

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116. The essence of being feminine


Femininity maximizes a woman’s value to herself as a person. It uplifts her self-worth, enlarges her self-image, and broadens her self-interest. Acting feminine teaches her to like herself as girl, female, woman, mother, grandmother.

Being feminine makes a woman very unique, which maximizes her value to men.  

 Women gravitate naturally to being feminine. Individuals live and learn how to exploit their femaleness so as to deal successfully with men. They also learn by sharing experiences.

The feminine concept refreshes and reinforces itself, as mothers impart to daughters the blessings of having a man and pitfalls of not being able to capture and hold one.

Whereas Feminism encourages girls to ignore motherly teachings about boys, Femininity encourages girls to listen and duplicate mother’s and even grandmother’s experience. This enables each generation to improve on its ability to tame and harness male dominance for fulfilling female dreams.

In the end, being conditioned by Femininity in three phases of life as boy, single, and married, men respect the opposite sex more than they respect their own gender. So do women.

The resulting cultural institution of unconditional respect provides the deepest foundation for a man’s conditional respect for one woman. From his respect, his love arises.

One woman summarizes the essence of being feminine. She refreshingly claims that it adds color to a man’s black and white world.*

* Thanks for the color-B&W analogy to an unknown woman cited in Keys to the Kingdom by Alison A. Armstrong, PAX Programs, Inc. Sherman Oaks, CA , p.151.

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