This model complements the previous post (#420) and works to raise kids and keep husband playing first fiddle.
Husband and kids register and travel first class in a woman’s heart. But, in her mind, she sees and treats them very differently as only a good wife-mother can.
The kids continually see that husband and wife live and travel in first class. They enjoy unearned high status, unearned rights, unearned privileges, unearned gratifications, unearned powers, and private time together. They need not explain or defend their authority. Their adult world holds many benefits, as mystified kids view it.
Adult privileges and powers are purposely, I say again, purposely limited in coach, where kids live and travel. They should be challenged continually to earn greater status, rights, privileges, gratifications, powers, and private time.
Well-raised children aspire to become adults. They expect to earn enough to pay the fare, and then become eligible for first class life with a mate.
However, if treated as adults in childhood, elevated to first class as children, they aspire to just be grown up. As adults they continue to act immaturely, because they learned as kids that that’s good enough.
Consequently, two good reasons exist for this model. First, it keeps husband from playing second fiddle, which enhances his sense of importance, which welds his sense of significance unto his family.
Second, it prevents elevating kids to adult status, stature, and unearned respect. This makes them more eager to learn how to become an adult, instead of becoming convinced they already know how.