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1781. Sex Difference Redux—Part 35: Female Dominance


Dominance means for someone to get their way and differs greatly between men and women. Male dominance is intermittently used, because men presume it to be unnecessary in order for them to get their way. To the extent a husband doesn’t impose his dominance, his wife perceives mini-voids and opportunities to expand her influence—and it’s a primal urge.

Male dominance is instinctive, well recognized, and focused on the present. With little or no conscious thought behind it, however, femininity easily outwits it, grows its own counterpoints, and smooths the harsh edges from it. In the natural course of events, female dominance yields to male dominance in the present so women get their way in the future.

Female dominance operates in background. It is reasoned, designed, reinforced, and proved daily in reality. Strategically, female dominance relies on indirectness, patience, negotiation, and cooperation and avoids direct competition with a man. Men don’t easily recognize the subliminal influence of female dominance, except when they see it in other couples and much later in their own married lives. On the other hand, the essence of a man’s devotion is his willingness to accept her dominance of things of vital importance to her.

Femininity counters masculinity with uniquely female logic, reason, gender influence, multiple agendas, deeper feelings, personal persuasiveness, parlaying the present for the future, and whatever else women individually and collectively use or can create to get their way.

Seldom acknowledged, women naturally rush to get their way whenever they find their man may be acquiescent. Wives almost never abandon their primal urge to brighten their future by improving their husbands. The only real obstruction is resistance in the form of male dominance, which is why women work hard to avoid their husband imposing it. She can eventually get her way if she honors his dominance today. That, incidentally, paves the road of his devotion.

The balance of dominance within a couple shifts later in life as the ratio of hormones changes for both sexes. The level of estrogen-to-testosterone falls as women pass through mid-life. They become more assertive and even aggressive, which enables them more easily to get their way. At about the same time in life, the level of estrogen-to-testosterone rises as testosterone decreases in men. It lowers masculine desire to get their way, and men acquiesce more easily to their women’s desire to lead.

Feminism set out to conquer male dominance. Men were offended and became irritated, moved out of the limelight, and privately reinforced their sub-culture insistence that males dominate females. Our foremothers knew how to make male dominance tolerable and less offensive. But modern women let feminist politics intrude their relationships, and for the past few decades male dominance has come out of the closet into which our foremothers had stuffed it—not stuffed completely but smoothly enough that devotion to wives and children became common.

The rest isn’t history so much as female misery. Men rise to leadership roles early in life, and women later. We now see many highly attractive, assertive, and even aggressive middle-age women finding that they have no man with whom to enjoy getting their way more easily, no man to lead through the fun, fulfillment, and ravages of aging. It’s slow to happen, but women have begun to realize that feminists taught women to overpower rather than use male dominance to help fulfill female hopes and dreams.

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217. Do women know jack about Jack? — Part 13


♂ Women try to be more like men, while men want women to be more female, feminine, and fancy.

♂ If he were as good as she expects, he would have chosen another woman.

♂ If his commitment—whether true or disingenuous—is enough for her to yield, his devotion will likely never grow to her satisfaction.

♂ If husband expects wife to dress seductively in public, he wants other men to admire him more than her. This reveals self-centeredness, and when aging makes her less youthful or attractive, she will be expendable—emotionally if not physically. 

♂ If she chases a man or men, then she appears desperate and disposable.

♂ If she is unhappy with him, he sees it like this: Her ingratitude appears unjustified, because he is a good man doing his best. If he thinks otherwise, he does not care about her unhappiness and probably looks elsewhere already.

♂ Over time men seek improvements on certain things until they are satisfied or otherwise compensated. These are the main drivers: Frequent and convenient sex; meals prepared for them; comfortable hut or better; disposable sex partners, or an attractive wife, that reflect credit on him to his male friends and competitors.

[More jack about Jack appears in posts 202, 185, 172, 162, 153, 142, 135, 132, 114, 97, 91, and 7. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

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202. Do women know jack about Jack? —Part 12


Men highly value female virtue. The promise of eventual conquest adds honor to his manly persona and significance.

If husband expects wife to dress seductively in public, he wants other men to admire him for having her. This reveals his self-centeredness, and when aging makes her less youthful or attractive, she will be expendable—emotionally if not physically. 

If he were as good as she expects, he would have chosen another woman and bypassed her.

If his commitment—whether true or disingenuous—is enough for her to yield, his devotion will likely never grow to her later satisfaction.

If she chases a man or men, then to the man and men she’s desperate and disposable.

If she is unhappy with him, he sees it like this: Her ingratitude appears unjustified, because he is a good man doing his best. If he thinks otherwise, he does not care about her unhappiness and probably looks elsewhere already.

When men have to make arrangements for their own meals, whatever woman they are with becomes more expendable.

A man enjoys looking at an attractive, pleasant looking female. When his woman looks sloppy and uncaring, he’s bored into looking for something more attractive.

[More jack about Jack appears in posts 185, 172, 162, 153, 142, 135, 132, 114, 97, 91, and 7. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

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155. Bright side of Femininity—Part 3


Women age most gracefully and charmingly when they intensify their natural femaleness early in life. Duplicating the male persona ages women prematurely and leaves them with little grace and charm for their elder years.

♀ Women are naturally well-equipped with a cooperative spirit, indirectness, nurture-power, soft-heartedness, and natural but unoffending hard-headedness. These strengths help balance their man’s dominance. Each successful balancing event reinforces her efforts, strengthens her influence, and enlarges his respect.

Extraordinary women arise from this model to hold the respect of men for life: She makes herself pretty, modestly independent, and attractive to men. However, she automatically tests any man she encounters for a relationship to prove himself worthy of her association—this applies to all men, not just her man.

♀ Femininity in early life captures a man’s attention. Femininity practiced ardently over the years gradually empowers her as family matriarch in later life.

♀ Femininity best improves a woman’s lot in life by inspiring a man to adopt her family and domestic values, her hopes and dreams. But this calls for indirectness, charm, and patience while uplifting his sense of significance by showing gratitude for and dependence on who he is and what he does.

Whether done by one or many women, feminine values and standards upheld strongly and persistently against unmarried sex go far toward reducing male dominance, aggressiveness, and violence. (First principle of masculine behavior: Men do whatever women require in order to have frequent and convenient access to sex. Second principle: Men even marry if that’s required.)

[More about the bright side appears at posts 87 and 69.]

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138. The high cost of cheap sex—05


The more sex partners a woman takes up with, the less she learns positive and affirming things about men and how to keep one as her own.

 Having many sex partners hardens the emotions and softens the thinking of women, especially vis-à-vis the opposite sex.

Natural female beauty attracts sex partners, but it fades with both his conquest and her aging. The cheaper his conquest, the sooner the fading begins.

Older women pass down lessons learned. Modern girls ignore their elders, their immaturity expands, and the behavior of boys and men worsens with each generation.

Over time, delaying a man’s conquest pushes him to expose his real character, reveal her true role in his life, and correct whatever of his faults that displease her. Round heels remove the pressures on him.

Female adoption of masculine-style sexual freedom generates cheap sex for men. This arouses,  encourages, and lures the male conquering spirit outside the home. Wives suffer the unintended consequences.

The popularity of masculine-style sexual freedom misleads women into playing the man’s game, which devalues the woman’s game of marriage and weakens or destroys fatherly help raising children.

Promiscuous behavior hardens a woman’s heart, softens her natural hard-headedness, and makes her easy prey for selfish or manipulative men. With girls, the damage is both worse and imprints for life.

The promiscuous woman experiences too few tough decisions that mold the character required to promote her self-interest to the fullest with one man.

Promiscuous women eventually learn that uninvolved sex leaves her empty.

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99. The high cost of cheap sex—04


Meaningless sex eventually leaves women feeling empty. Promiscuity compounds to weaken their self-worth and lower their self-image.

♀ Promiscuity reinforces to women that men are only after sex. Chastity teaches women that men are more interesting than that.  

 ♂ Promiscuity teaches men that women are playthings and easily dominated, or if not, dumped. Chastity teaches men that women have respectable value and are not easily bamboozled.  

♂ ♀ Girls teach boys the requirements and finer details of dealing with females. When they don’t, boys experience sex life as set by their hurricane of hormones, which carries them into an impulsive, women-are-cheap adult life.

♂ Easy-to-come-by sex stifles a man’s interest in helping fulfill one woman’s dreams. So much action, so little time.

♀ ♂ A major feminist hero claims women now aspire to be sluts and self-actualized sex kittens. This by-product of feminist theory evolved without input from men respectful of the female sex, such as fathers. Of course men love the concept. They say little, while backing away from monogamy, marriage, and domestic responsibility.

♂ After early passion wilts between mates, men do not stay long or dependably with women they conquered as pushovers. Round heels especially turn off the Marrying Man.

♀ Sexual freedom pits females against one another for mates, boyfriends, husbands, lovers. Just a half-century ago men competed for females, and women were honored as a unique gender.

♂ With so much unmarried sex available in society, men are enticed to comparison shop their wife against the young and more ideal. Even late night TV shows in the bedroom work against wife by stimulating husband’s imagination.

♀ Plentiful sexual activity by girls and young women, combined with masculine promotion of it, now makes aging females obsolete before their time.

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