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300. Female Fortitude—116 through 127


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide theme or summary of previous posts. The numbers match the source.

116.       Being feminine makes a woman very unique, which maximizes her value to men.  

117.       Women that have matured beyond adolescence know intuitively NOT to disclose their sexual history to their man.

118.       If she makes it easy for him to know her, she makes it hard for him to keep her. Mystery captivates.

120.       In the end, the way women dress and groom themselves shapes the real world for all of us.

121.       Knowing his woman’s sexual history lowers her value to him.

122.       Except maybe for political correctioneers, men are not into non-judgmentalism about their woman’s sexual history.

123.       The feminist spirit makes women ‘stand up inside’ just thinking about a man or men. It’s toxic for a relationship.

124.       Women offer sex to find love that does not bond. Men offer love that does not bond to find sex.

125.       Conquest is a relationship-changing event for a man.

126.       Women can’t rule the rooster, unless they empower him to rule the roost.

127.       To men, relationships require no management. But women insist otherwise. At what cost?

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 295, 290, 285, 280, 275, 270, 265, 260, 255, 250, 245, 240, 234, 228, 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

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229. Sex and the fickle girl—Part 10


♀ Women can access sexual relations at whatever speed, frequency, and convenience they desire. Men can’t. So who wins when women adopt masculine-style sexual freedom? Who loses as enabled men flit blossom-to-blossom?

♀ If she can’t risk being dumped to slow his inevitable conquest, she’s highly vulnerable to being dumped later.

♀ Modern women rely on sex, hope, and loving affection to bond their future with a man. But short relationships show it doesn’t work very well.

♀ Women don’t just want men to bond. They want a husband as bond servant to help with housekeeping, child care, constant togetherness.

♀ Women dress their young daughters like hookers and allow adolescent girls to dress likewise—even in church. Pastors stew in near silence. The Marrying Man looks for someone else. Respectable fathers shake their head in exasperation.

♀ Women are not hunters by nature. Yet, some abandon the female persona, hunt with erotic attire, and offer sex with little obligation. When they fail to enjoy life as men do, ennui and depression set in.

♀ Women expect to kiss a frog into prince hood. Men expect their woman to elevate them from prince to king. Modern women fail to provide this second ‘promotion’.

 

[More about sex and fickle females appears in posts 216, 201, 184, 170, 160, 148, 137, 93, and 34. Scroll down or search by the number followed by a dot and space.]

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224. Newlywed Bonding #1 —Intro


Marriages deteriorate more easily and become temporary, than they solidify and become permanent. Deterioration requires little else than inattention, sloppiness, carelessness.  

Solidifying a marriage requires a lot of shared goals and planning to sustain mutual respect. Making the process habitual in the early years produces desired results later. (Grace and I didn’t get the shortcomings of our early marriage straightened out until our third decade together.)

First impressions last, and early marriage sets the stage for whatever follows. Jointly built successes bond a couple. Failures, weaknesses, and even good intentions do not bond and can smother love to death.

Consequently, newlywed success depends on preventing relationship harm. That’s where forming good habits comes in. It requires mutual devotion—not just commitment—to build new habits that stamp out premarital bad habits that lead to deterioration.

This Newlywed Bonding series covers four beneficial habits that chase bad habits away:

1.     Virtue as relationship glue

2.     Money as relationship slave

3.     Separate but equal as teamwork

4.     Custom as dispute avoidance

The first good habit will appear in a few days. The Table of Contents at the top lists many subjects pertaining to living successfully with someone of the opposite sex.

NOTE: A nice and classy young lady, Tricia, inspired this series of posts. I pray her pending marriage matches her public pleasantness, charm, and sense of responsibility.

 

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207. The high cost of cheap sex — Part 10


♦ Sex is the man’s game. Real, honest, and tough conquests are touchdowns. Return engagements score extra points. Easy or casual conquests score as field goals. Females determine the rules and officiate, but men always win; they keep the score.  

♦ Relationships crumble as so much unmarried sex cheapens fidelity, breeds unfaithfulness, and threatens each marriage. Yet, men are blamed for lack of character facing all those easily spread legs.

♦ Eroticism inspires rapid turnover of females among men. Female sexual freedom inspires men and boys to try harder for the bigger, the better, the more erotic scores. Women and immature girls reap sad, lonely, and sometimes unbearable consequences.

♦ After a one-night stand, he doesn’t call. He claims he loves her, but he doesn’t. He pledges his commitment, but it fades. Except when teamed with a man proven to be devoted to her more than to sex, copulation just leads to more easily getting dumped.

♦ Sex attracts, but it does not bond. The higher a single woman elevates sexual freedom in her priorities, whether real or symbolic, the less likely she will find a man to spend the rest of his life with her.  

[More about high costs of cheap sex appears in posts 190, 171, 161, 149, 138, 99, 84, 39, and 2. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following.]

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186. Female Fortitude — 17 through 25


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide themes or summarize posts. The paragraph numbers match the posts.

17.      A mature woman can cope with her man’s sharp tongue much easier than he can with hers.

18.      When words are enough to conquer, that and little else is what men will offer.

19.      Female soft-headedness: She wants her own man so badly that she signs up with almost any male offer.

21.      Com-mit-ment counts as three little words. So does, “What’s for dinner?”

22.      Some women tear down manliness and masculinity to get what women want. Other women uplift manliness and masculinity to get what women want.

23.      Feminism divides and alienates men and women. Femininity breathes harmony into male-female relationships.

24.      Women marry expecting their man to change, but he doesn’t. Men marry expecting their wife not to change, but she does.

25.      Virtual virginity buys time to earn a man’s devotion, which bonds more tightly than commitment.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 176 and 182.]

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154. Chaste courtship works—Part 5


Before their first sex together, without trying, women condition a man’s thinking about who dominates whom, when, how, and what’s tolerable. They both learn how much she can weaken, suppress, manhandle, or overrule his dominance—or collapse as easy prey from lack of purpose and character.

If she conquers him for marriage before sex, it signals that devotion to her governs his commitment. It also diminishes both his dominating and conquering spirits. This doesn’t guarantee faithfulness, but it provides much safer alternatives for her than sex before marriage.

Sex does not bond men, but the opportunity for conquest conquers his attention and holds it tightly until a woman gives in. This facet of his nature helps virtual virginity work for her.

This puts the courtship agenda in her hands: (1) Her hard-headedness prevails over both her soft-heartedness and his hard-headed and hard-hearted persistence for sex. (2) She tests and retests him to be the potential right man for life together. (3) She continues to reject sexual relations at least until number two is proven and engagement or preferably marriage follows.

♂♀ The curse of modern adolescence is this. Girls too highly value boys and having a boyfriend. More so, in fact, than they value feminine, modest, moral, female-empowering, and self-protective behaviors. When boys butt their hormone-soaked heads up against the brick wall of ardent feminine values, it teaches girls the well-hidden truths about the male nature and how to avoid future life as some guy’s ex.

[More about chaste courtships appear in posts 143, 108, 107, and 100. Scrolling down works and so does searching by the number with a dot and space following.]

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143. Chaste courtship works—Part 4


Using sex to capture a boyfriend is easy. Sex infatuates boys, but it does not bond men. Thus, unmarried sex paves the road to ex-girlfriend, -lover, -live in, or -wife.

Women have no greater direct influence on their own personal world than when they refuse to provide unmarried sex. Yielding weakens her influence and enhances his dominating spirit.

Women have two major windows in which they can change their man: A long courtship before they first have sex and in middle age after Nature softens his heart. Both, however, require patience, indirectness, and feminine charm.

Women reject a long chaste courtship. They prefer the joys of sex over opportunity to makeover a man into Right Man. This forces her to seek to change him after marriage, a sure-fire way to push him toward other arms.

Women want to change their man after marriage but find that they can’t. The male nature resists her pressures to change, except as a woman delays his premarital conquest to stimulate change.

A long sex-free courtship resolves uncertainty about a man’s character and potential for successful marriage. Most men reveal their true character but not their entire Self, when facing a woman’s hard-headed and continuing delays for their first sex together. But, women are in charge of courtship only as long as it remains platonic.

A simple test of a man’s devotion: He honors her needs and wants ahead of his own. If, however, he continually pleases her at the expense of his manly dreams, she will lose respect for him and he will eventually become dumper or dumpee. 

[More about the merits of chaste courtships appear in post 108, 107, and 100. Scroll down or search by the number.]

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