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212. Virtual Virginity #12

© Unmarried sex causes couples to over-commit and under-connect.

© Until she yields sex, her value goes up increasingly to each man chasing her. People instinctively value highly what they cannot have.

© Everybody makes mistakes. Recovery is everything, and virtual virginity provides it for past sexual mistakes.

© Avoiding life as an ex comes easier to the woman that elevates and honors her sexual assets above marriage.  

© Refusing to have unmarried sex forces a man to prove himself worthy of her and capable of fulfilling her expectations for home and family. Else, he’s after sex and not her.

© Scoring with a hard-to-get woman elevates a man’s sense of significance, but it’s more ego than conviction.

© The woman that a man respects and honors adds to his convicted sense of significance, whether they are sex partners or not.

© Refusing to have sex with an attractive man requires strength of character to keep from turning him off. Hard-headed feminine gentleness helps.

© A woman’s biggest challenge is to keep from being eager or desperate to have a boyfriend, dates, sex, or whatever else she thinks she has to have for the short term.

[More about virtual virginity appears in posts 198, 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, 44, and 25. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following.]



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93. Sex and the fickle girl—Part II

When a woman initiates sex, the man’s sense of importance turns to temporary luck. Men value women more highly when she makes him feel significant. Luck pushes him to try again—elsewhere.

Wives thrive on their man’s devotion, but then they take advantage of it. They belittle and nag him to get better, sacrifice more for her, pay more attention to her, or provide more affection. Instead, her pressures cause his devotion to weaken, his interest to spread outside the home, and his commitment to ultimately fade perhaps altogether.

Women capture a man most successfully when they make him capture her. Easily captured game is easily caught and released. Difficult-to-capture game becomes manly trophies. Men have a hunting nature.

Women ignore old school female virtue in favor of new school ‘anything goes’. The Marrying Man loses interest in marrying and focuses on women for sex.

A.D.D. revisited — Women as the relationship experts are well equipped to accept, adjust, or compensate for a man’s Affection Delivery Disorder. Instead, however, most women focus on themselves. Those surveyed complain most about their man’s lack of showing affection—thus admitting their primary shortcoming to be female Affection Deficit Disorder and their inability to handle it. [See post #3 for more on A.D.D.]

♣ Modern women refuse to pay a man’s price for husbanding and fathering. So, husbands evade personal, family, and relationship responsibilities in favor of guy things and adventures unfriendly to or exclusive of their wife.

♣ The excitement of a new boyfriend distorts a female’s thinking. She’s so excited that she looks at today and forgets all the tomorrows. The female nature best deals with the future, the male nature best deals with the present.  

♣ One poor strategy causes women to lose the war of the sexes. She thinks sex will capture a man, her romancing will confirm him as the right man, and her love will hold him.

[More fickleness at post #34.] 


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65. The 2-year glitch, 7-year itch, 20-year switch

NOTE: This article re-published without change as #2251.


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In her recent book, Female Chauvinist Pigs—Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, Ariel Levy describes the latest in extreme female behavior. Young women ‘seal’ their friendship with men friends by providing sex. Such behavior disqualifies them for a stable marriage, because their fiancé or husband would have too many unanswerable questions.

Does she expect to keep sealed friends once she commits to a man? Can and will she dump them for him? Or, is he expected to welcome them as her other friends? How big is her need for male friends?

Since sex bonds women, how intensely was her bonding with her friend or friends? Can she escape or just toss her bonds away?

Does ‘sealing’ mean only once? Do the friends expect more? Can she resist or even want to? Can they?

Does she really expect to screw a friend once, call it quits, and expect him to honor her expectations?

How many friends did she seal? Will she continue the practice after marriage? What about new friends? Both theirs and hers that she may make at her job or elsewhere.

How deep or broad are the friendships she sealed or seals? Any emotional connections beyond friendship? Does friendship have the same meaning for her as for him?

Who is a friend? Anyone close to him? His buddies? Have they been sealed? Which ones?

Will she seal their newly developed friends too? Can she call them friends without doing so?

What does he think about it? How does he accept her old friends? Can he befriend her friends if he doesn’t know? What if he does know? How does she expect him to handle it—as if it never happened?

What about his old friends that become friends with her? Does she feel an obligation with them too? If they know that she sealed with others, won’t they expect the same? Won’t that adversely affect their family of friends?

What about her friends that she did not seal with? What are their reactions? Friendlier or unfriendlier?

When he encounters her friends, he will suspect whether he knows she sealed or not. Won’t he, in effect, feel cuckolded or at least suspect it upon encountering her every male friend?

Did they do it before or after our marriage? If she sealed once, she’s always suspect. Friends and acquaintances come in all colors and shades. How can he know? Tell the difference? Trusting her is not possible.

How can she be believed as faithful, when she parts with sex for less than love but to strengthen or solidify a continuing friendship? Isn’t sealing the essence of casual sex and disdain for the man she might want to marry?

Can he seal with his female friends? Is he free to roam among friends to explore what’s available? How about his developing new female friends? Can he seal too. Old female friends?

Where does it end? Not likely in a lasting relationship.   


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44. Virtual Virginity #1

Virtual virginity means acting like a virgin committed to saving herself for her husband.

Abstinence holds men off. Chastity keeps men interested. Virginity—real, virtual, or imagined—attracts the Marrying Man.

The more restrained a woman’s sexual activity, the easier to earn a man’s respect upon which his love can be built. (Coming soon: A post about the toxins of disclosing her sexual history.)

Playing ‘hard-to-get’ empowers a woman to dominate a courtship. She can separate a man’s actions as devotion to her alone from his words of commitment that may be hollow to enable conquest. She can shape their relationship to keep brightening her future. She can force a long sex-free courtship to better assess his character and value as husband and potential father.

Once she yields, however, his nature and character—or lack of character—take hold. He assumes the dominant role as conqueror’s right.


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13. Is commitment enough?

Commitment comes in words and depends on faith by the listener. Devotion can be seen in actions that make both words and faith unnecessary.

Commitment confirms one’s intentions about the future, which may only be what the listener wants to hear.

Commitments fall apart easily, but devotion is often killed by the receiver of it.

Inspired by politics, Feminism, and the popularity of harshly judging men, modern wives run a tab on husband’s inadequacies, weaknesses, and failures. She pays the price as her self-fulfilling prophecy fulfills to kill his commitment or weaken his devotion.

Women seek commitment with a man, even as they turn away another man devoted to them. In short, women want a man that turns them on early in life, but later they want something else. They marry, divorce, and finally end up with a high school chum that used to adore or even worship them.

Life 101 teaches young girls how to discriminate between the respect, value, and expectations of real life commitment and devotion. But, modern girls cut class.



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