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517. The ABCs with C-words about Sex

 Sex either enables or disables the compatible merging of the male and female natures into a successful relationship. Not coitus but the before and after expectations. Sex differences make the difference.

COMPETITION—The Male Strength

Men are made to compete with men. (Disregard table and fun games here.)

Except when trying to conquer her, a man avoids hard-headed competition with a woman. Women too easily outtalk or outsmart men seeking to conquer them. So, men conclude, it’s best to avoid competition on other matters. The prospects of conquest warrant head-to-head mind games, but nothing else.

Men don’t want a woman to think he can’t hack whatever comes up, so losing mind battles reveals incapacity. It can too easily demo some bit of insignificance, which he fears.

Pushy male dominance is a surefire way to avoid competing with her, so he uses it to stop discussion, squash dissent, and avoid loss of face. It’s his nature, not the woman. (Male subordinates of female bosses often favor indifference rather than compete to win a point or advise her.)  

After conquest, he expects sex to be cooperative and not competitive. Why not? Her nature favors the former over the latter. But that’s not the whole story.

COOPERATION—The Female Strength

Men do whatever women require in order for men to have frequent and convenient access to sex. When Womanhood speaks, men pay attention. If a woman sets standards and high expectations, a man will step up, elevate his effort, and smooth his attitude—but only before conquest.

Beyond that turning point, he expects routine access to sex with her; it was the target of his natural conquering spirit. Conqueror’s rights are an intrinsic primal urge, hardwired and hormonal. Consequently, he can’t stop his expectations; she certainly can but at risk of losing him.

A man will not long play games or otherwise compete for sex with a woman he has conquered. If she persistently uses sex to get her way, he will rebel quietly, privately, noisily, or physically. Whichever way he chooses, he won’t tolerate it very long and soon seeks another woman.

It’s especially true in marriage. He paid the ultimate price to have frequent and convenient access. When she starts to pull back or shy away, his competitive spirit energizes him, because she challenges his conqueror’s right. So, he pushes for and expects easier access or unlimited sex to prove that he’s right. This makes her resent, resist, rebel, and retaliate in order to restore her self-respect. He pushes harder, she does too, and they start living separate lives under the same roof, or worse. 

Compatibility has one switch for sex. They compete before conquest. They cooperate after.



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134. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 9

Modern women drive their man away. They adopt and follow feminist values about and expectations for dealing with men. The effect is that women cooperate with each other for moral support and compete with their man for dominance. In other words, they try to pressure the masculine Nature to change. 

Competitive spirit and pressures push women to act more like men—♫ I can do anything he can do better.

♂♀ If he can provide and protect a family, she can too—so he lets her do it alone.

♂♀ If he can flout his masculinity in revelry, she can join as one of the guys—and he treats her no better than just another guy.

♂♀ If he can act financially irresponsible, she can too—and even spend faster.

♂♀ If he can endanger family solidarity, she can too—and seek revenge by cheating on him.

In the process, she acts like a man. This makes her think like a man. Or, vice versa. And this transmutes into loss of the female genius every couple needs to build longevity together.To avoid mental conflict, they abandon natural female traits. This further weakens influence with a man. Romantic love fades faster, marital vows shrink in importance, and men get itchy to make another go of it with someone else.

The culprit is the feminist challenge to male dominance, the hormone hurricane that separates the sexes. The challenge requires outside help in the form of politics and public pressure to help prove women right and men wrong. Thus, Feminism leads women away from their natural strengths, relationship genius, and ability to identify a good man, screen until he’s Mr. Good Enough, and upgrade him after years of marriage into the Right Man.

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129. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 08

  • A feminist creed: Don’t listen to what men have to say about the female sex. It’s understated, and men are the enemy.
  • Feminists blame character flaws for men that cheat. But without women to provide sex to married men, pressures mount for husbands to remain faithful whether they like it or not.
  • Feminists insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. The best intentions to equalize workload weakens mutual devotion, because sustaining equality is both friction-causing and impossible to achieve.
  • Feminists listen only to women about Feminism. They ignore its impact on the male nature and blame men for not acting as women say they should, would, or could.  
  • Feminists move females away from old school maturity-before-sex in favor of new school sex-before-maturity. Men win, women gain sexual freedom and lose the ability to hold onto one man.  
  • Feminism teaches women to rationalize a superior role for females, celebrate their independence from men, and compete against their man. This justifies a self-centered competitive rather than an us-centered cooperative spirit. Filling such a role belittles a man’s sense of significance, the loss of which is his greatest fear with any woman.
  • Feminists actively honor sexual freedom. Men relish the proliferation of uncommitted sex, but the Marrying Man seeks something very different.
  • Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and welcome the consequent watering down of family responsibility.

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109. Women, where art thou?

Women can be anything they want, but they have two distinct strengths that work against them, unless they know how to focus those strengths for dealing with a man.

Women are born hard-headed. This means they possess all the logic and reasoning power needed to inject virtue in themselves and impose moral standards on their immediate environment. They have what it takes to impose the female will whenever appropriate and wherever needed.

But, sometimes they get soft-headed associating with members of the opposite sex. They give up their strength, and when it happens their man takes advantage. She can’t hold her own, so she loses.

Women are also born soft-hearted. This side of her nature strengthens her with empathy. It provides natural skills for encouraging, nurturing, and nursing mental wounds.

But, sometimes women get hard-hearted. They grow selfish, self-centered, and often vengeful to make others pay for offenses to their female ego. They grow short on empathy, nurturing, encouraging others, and nursing the hurts of others.

The women most successful dealing with a man assertively emphasize their hard-headedness before marriage. After marriage, when keeping their man is most important, they emphasize their soft-heartedness and push their hard-headedness into the background.

This works on a very simple natural principle: Her soft-heartedness does not challenge or compete with her man. Her hard-headedness does, and when she lets it loose, he resents, resists, and often retaliates.


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103. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 6

We have heard for years that men are irresponsible, inadequate, and dysfunctional at helping fulfill female dreams. This post looks closer at it.

  • Women are not ignorant about men, but much of what they know is wrong. Consequently, their natural relationship expertise weakens. Anticipating the behavior of men becomes error-filled, and women make too many mistakes dealing with their man.
  •  Dominant people get more so when challenged. In the modern home men grow frustrated and angry. Their dominance strengthens, and it fertilizes their natural reluctance to stay long with one woman.
  • The end result of masculine-style sexual freedom for women is this: Men become more adroit at sexual hit and run, and women gain more experience living life as ex-girlfriend, -lover, -live in, -wife.
  • The more that females exploit their youth, beauty, and sexual assets to attract men, the more easily and certainly men will be lured away from their present girlfriend, lover, live in, wife.
  • To follow social trends for greater sexual freedom, women drop the old school importance of fidelity to please their man. Females pursuing equal rights in unfaithfulness merely redouble the masculine effort to maintain inequality.
  • Modern women compete with their man, and they usually lose. Women are endowed with a cooperative spirit, men with a competitive one. Men know the difference, guard their turf aggressively, and not just assertively.
  • To loosen their conscience as governor of the soul, women discard Judeo-Christian morality. They give up old school respectability that civilizes and domesticates males. They live by new school moral relativism that breeds abuse and violence of men and women against others.
  • To loosen up moral values, feminists several decades ago killed the social construct of the Lady. The death of gentlemanly respect and courtesies followed soon thereafter. Now, women bitch that men don’t act gentlemanly.  
  • Wives blame husbands for female miseries and fail to consider what she may have contributed. Feminists defend her as ‘inexperienced’.
  • Women insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. The best intentions to equalize workload weakens mutual devotion, because sustaining equality is both impossible and friction-causing.



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Young women compete more and more with males to do what men do. For example, they took up cigar smoking a few years ago. Seeing their older sisters unsuccessful at outdoing men in the males’ game, the next generation tries harder and always with something new.

In her recent book, Female Chauvinist Pigs—Women and the Rise of Raunch Culture, Ariel Levy describes the leading edge of post-modern feminist behavior. To be more like men, women have to enjoy looking at naked females.

So, they try to outdo men at being entertained by erotic female behavior. They applaud, hoot, and holler as other females pole dance, strip, and otherwise entertain men.

Their retro thinking has moved young women backwards in maturity to mimicking teen boys. It generates lots of sex and extra disrespect for the uniqueness of female judgments.

[Initial RAUNCH is at post #55.]

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66. Hard-hearted Hannah

A woman easily kills her relationship when she exhibits female weaknesses that harden her heart for cooperation and soften her head into competing with her man. Weaknesses follow:

♥ Facetiousness prompted by fear of being wrong.

♥ Hatefulness prompted by dislike of herself.

♥ Selfishness never untaught to her in childhood.

♥ Busyness pursuing her personal rather than their agenda.

♥ Fussiness inspired by desire for perfection.

♥ Bitchiness that flows from envy, jealousy, and similar emotions related to others.

♥ Fearsome brought on by mistakes that she thinks might be repeated endlessly. 

Quarrelsomeness that emerges from her desire to drive their bus.

♥ Untidiness, the nesting merits of which she was never taught in childhood.

♥  Loneliness imagined when he’s not alongside her.

♥ Lonesomeness caused by husband’s absence at work.

♥ Moodiness that flows from inability to control events to her satisfaction.

♥ Carelessness prompted by weak sense of responsibility.

♥ Sloppiness that reflects badly on husband to his friends and competitors.

♥ Phoniness energized by fear of her true character being found out.

♥ Political correctness brought on by sense of being victimized.

♥ Unfaithfulness that boils in oil her man’s sense of significance.


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