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1980. Compatibility Axioms #410-420


411. Using sex to capture a boyfriend is easy. Sex infatuates boys, but it does not bond men. Thus, unmarried sex paves the road to ex-girlfriend, -lover, -live in, or -wife. [143]
412. Women have no greater direct influence on their own personal world than when they refuse to provide unmarried sex. Yielding weakens their influence and determination and it enhances the guys’ dominating spirits. [143]
413. Women have two major windows in which they can by design change their man: A long courtship before they first have sex and years later in marriage after Nature softens his heart. Both periods, however, require patience, indirectness, and feminine charm. [143]
414. Women reject a long and chaste courtship. They prefer the joys of sex—or to have a boyfriend. They bypass the opportunity to make sure he’s Mr. Good Enough with potential for Mr. Right after a couple of decades of marriage. Taking the road of sex instead of opportunity, she feels greater pressure to ‘fix his faults’ soon after they marry, It’s a sure-fire way to push him toward other arms. [143]
415. Women want to change their man after marriage but find that they can’t. The male nature resists her pressures to change, except as a woman delays his premarital conquest and stimulates him to more deliberately earn her. As he explores her for weaknesses that may lead them to bed, he uncovers and admires other qualities. Admired qualities become virtues, which morph into fascination that holds his interest in her. [143]
416. A long sex-free courtship resolves uncertainty about a man’s character and potential for successful marriage. Most men reveal their true character when facing a woman’s hard-headed and continuing delays for their first sex together. But, women are in charge of courtship only as long as it remains platonic (although men easily yield wedding prep control). [143]
417. A simple test of a man’s devotion: With his actions, he honors her interest ahead of his own. If, however, he continually pleases her at the expense of his manly dreams or obligations, she will lose respect for him and he will eventually become dumper or dumpee. [143]
418. Spill her guts and end up in ruts. Her status regarding virginity and details about her love life are personal and, if known to her man, will likely be used against her sometime, someplace, somehow when she least expects it. [145]
419. Knowing her sexual history, suspicion sprouts from her man’s imagination when future troubles plague their relationship. She may not even recognize it, because the questions and consequences arise in his mind. As Einstein said: Imagination is greater than knowledge. [145]
420. Husband may run into one of her former love interests. What to do? How to avoid? Will he know for sure? How was their sex? What does the other guy think about the woman he passed on to husband? Is she still interested in the ex? Competitors want to know such things. [145]

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145. Her sexual history—Part 05


Spill her guts and end up in ruts. Her status regarding virginity and details about her love life are personal and, if known to her man, will likely be used against her sometime, someplace, somehow when she least expects it.

It’s a seed that sprouts as her man’s suspicion or discontent when future doubts arise and troubles plague their relationship. She may not even recognize it, because the questions and consequences arise in his mind. As Einstein said: Imagination is greater than knowledge.

·         Husband may run into one of her former love interests. What to do? How to avoid? Will he know for sure? What does the other guy think about the woman he passed on to husband? Competitors want to know such things.

·         Will they resume after running into each other sometime in the future? The other guy had her number before, will he again? How far can hubby trust her, when her ex shows up again in their life? How much trust when suspicions arise?

·         Husband may forgive, but he can’t forget. Feminists claim that women need no forgiveness for previous love and sex interests. But, to men, it’s not love that counts. It’s her screwing other men, his competitors, and who knows when she may do it again?

Her sexual history is best kept as secret or as undetailed as possible.

 

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122. Her sexual history?—Part 04


♂ Except maybe for political correctioneers, men are not into non-judgmentalism about their woman’s sexual history. Even if he insists or discloses his own ex-girlfriends, she should not reciprocate.

♂ A man can hardly help but judge his woman harshly about her unmarried sexual history. It’s the male nature, although men feign disinterest or deny it so as to discover more.

♂ His respect and her unmarried sexual activity works like a zero-sum game. Highest respect equates with her virginity. Little respect equates with her promiscuity and can be anticipated as proportional to her looseness—as he perceives it.

♂ Men keep probing for details, and her only safe route lies with silence even about platonic boyfriends. Every detail makes a heavier-than-usual bundle for the final straws that break his marital back.

♂ If he honors her silence on this issue, his respect is doubtless deep and abiding—the kind that lasts and lasts and undergirds his bonding love.

♂ When jealousy triggers a man’s anger, he too easily focuses on his woman’s sex life before him. This costs her respect when she needs it most. Her past promiscuity and even platonic relationships amplify her problems—if he knows about them.

♂ Total silence is her best protection, but that’s impractical. She needs light-hearted banter to disclose the absolute least possible as he probes for information.

♂ A woman needs to master the art of dominating this issue during courtship in anticipation of what will follow naturally: A conqueror’s right to ‘ownership’ of their sexual agenda includes full-disclosure of her past. Once he’s had her, he seeks to measure himself against his competition—that is, other men. Who, when, and how went before and may return, or he may face some day?

 

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66. Hard-hearted Hannah


A woman easily kills her relationship when she exhibits female weaknesses that harden her heart for cooperation and soften her head into competing with her man. Weaknesses follow:

♥ Facetiousness prompted by fear of being wrong.

♥ Hatefulness prompted by dislike of herself.

♥ Selfishness never untaught to her in childhood.

♥ Busyness pursuing her personal rather than their agenda.

♥ Fussiness inspired by desire for perfection.

♥ Bitchiness that flows from envy, jealousy, and similar emotions related to others.

♥ Fearsomeness brought on by mistakes or failures that she thinks might be repeated endlessly. 

Quarrelsomeness that emerges from her desire to drive their bus.

♥ Untidiness, the nesting merits of which she was never taught in childhood.

 Loneliness imagined when he’s not alongside her.

♥ Lonesomeness caused by husband’s absence at work.

♥ Moodiness that flows from her inability to control events in her life to her satisfaction.

♥ Carelessness prompted by weak sense of responsibility.

♥ Sloppiness that reflects badly on husband to his friends and competitors.

♥ Phoniness energized by fear of her true character being found out.

♥ Political correctness brought on by sense of being victimized.

♥ Unfaithfulness that boils in oil her man’s sense of significance.

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