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2007. Female Blessings at Birth — 01-03

I hope to take the default attitudes for a test drive, to purify them with more analysis by more people. I request that readers either confirm or deny each item below with or without comment. To make it easier, I’m only posting three at a time.

Just reply to this article and identify each item by its number and indicate true/false. Accept each default as true to begin with. I will rewrite or delete as results of your analyses justify it.

True means that a default item is part of female nature that women inherit at birth. False means that the item is missing completely from your heart or something you learned during life. If you learned an item during your life, try as best you can to determine if you actually learned it or just confirmed what already existed in your heart. [If learned or foreign to you, label the item False.]

  1. I am a great kisser and can be a good lay with proper respect, attention, and intimacy. [Editor: It assumes that females are created to participate successfully in the process of living compatibly with a man.]
  2. I am fearful of a very few things, most of which have to do with safety and health. I acknowledge that fear can paralyze, and so I work continuously to avoid unnecessary fear. [Editor: It assumes that most female fears are learned during life. Women are born almost fearless except for their bodies and survivability.]
  3. My spirit soars when I encourage rather than demand that husband fulfill his family responsibility. [Editor: It assumes that the universal soaring of the encouragement spirit in girlhood hopes and dreams indicates that it’s inborn.]

Example for responses: “1-T (comments if given)” works okay to reflect your opinion of true to item 1.

Thank you for your opinions.




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1965. Compatibility Axioms #351-360

NOTE: I report only on social and domestic relations and not legal, political, or economic arrangements wrought by Feminism.
351. Feminism is the philosophy of envy of men, the creed of anger at men, and the gospel of politics-first over men. Its inherent virtue equalizes female unhappiness for those living with a man.
352. Feminist doctrine: Don’t listen to what men have to say about the female sex. They’re jealous, biased, and besides that they are the enemy. [127]
353. Feminists blame character flaws for men that cheat. Women who cheat, however, are not flawed; they are justified by the inequities of patriarchy.
354. Without non-prostitute women to provide sex to married men, lack of opportunity pressures husbands to remain physically faithful whether they like it or not. [127]
355. Feminists insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. Equality to feminists means they get their way. The process of seeking it, however, weakens mutual devotion. Being impossible to mutually achieve, the drive for equality both causes and sustains friction in a relationship. [127]
356. Feminists listen only to women about both men and Feminism. They ignore its impact on the male nature and blame men for not acting as women say they should, would, or could. [127]
357. Feminists convince females to abandon old school maturity-before-sex in favor of new school sex-before-maturity. Men get what they want most. Women gain sexual freedom, but they lose much of their natural ability to hold onto a mate. [127]
358. Feminism teaches women to rationalize a superior role for females, celebrate their independence from men, and compete against their man. It justifies a self-centered competitive rather than an us-centered cooperative spirit. Filling such a role belittles a man’s sense of significance, the loss of which is his greatest fear and especially with his mate. [127]
359. Feminists actively honor sexual freedom. Men relish the proliferation of uncommitted sex, but the Marrying Man seeks something very different. [127]
360. Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and feel relieved at the consequent watering down of family responsibility. [127]


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1958. Compatibility Axioms #312-320


312. Over time, the feminist spirit in the home shows up as female self-absorption, disrespect or ridicule of masculine traits, and an in-your-face attitude. Men learn quickly that other choices are available elsewhere. [123]
313. The feminist spirit makes women ‘stand up inside’ just thinking about a man or men. Outcomes dilute mutual respect and make unconditional respect (e.g., chivalry) practically non-existent between the genders, which is toxic for relationships.  [123]
314. Feminist-inspired women justify female sexual freedom to copy men’s independence. The practice across society tremendously weakens a father’s influence raising daughters and discredits him as morality teacher for sons. [123]
315. Feminists blame character flaws for men that cheat. But without women to provide sex to married men, natural pressures mount for husbands to remain faithful whether they like it or not. Thus, other women destroy wives’ ability to maintain compatible marriages. (I don’t alibi for men but highlight how the masculine nature requires feminine influence to make habitual the honoring of vows.) [129]
316. Feminists insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. The best intentions to equalize workload weaken mutual devotion. The male nature thrives on fairness and rejects equality as both friction-causing and impossible to achieve. [129]
317. Feminists listen only to women about men. They ignore its impact on the male nature and blame men for not acting as women say they should, would, or could. It makes men more defiant, argumentative, and hostile.   [129]
318. Feminists move females away from old school maturity-before-sex in favor of new school sex-before-maturity. Men win, women gain sexual freedom but lose the ability to hold onto one man.  [129]
319. Feminism teaches women to rationalize a superior role for females, celebrate their independence from men, and compete against their man. It justifies a self-centered competitive rather than us-centered cooperative spirit. [129]
320. Feminists actively honor sexual freedom. Men relish the proliferation of uncommitted sex, but the Marrying Man seeks something very different. [129]
321. Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and welcome the consequent watering down of family responsibility. [129]

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1826. Sex Difference Redux—Part 74: Women are Born, Men are Made

The child becomes the adult. Girls are born with natural tendencies that boys lack. Boys and even adult men require development by females if they are to measure up to womanly expectations. For example:

  1. Girls learn right, wrong, and obedience more easily and younger than boys learn it from mothers, fathers, teachers, and preachers.
  2. Girls slip easily into acting civilized, but boys must be calmed and taught.
  3. Girls ease smoothly into family life by anticipating what’s needed and what’s coming. Boys have to be taught to respect others’ interests by honoring their standards and expectations.
  4. Girls socialize more easily and depend on others for guidance and help. Boys care little for socializing except with buddies, until they finally bend under social norms and pressure from girls and adults.
  5. Girls unconditionally respect others regardless of sex. Boys respect males much more readily than females. They usually must be taught to respect authority-figure females such as mothers, grannies, and teachers.
  6. Girls can easily respect others before others earn it. Boys tend to challenge others first and then respect them after they earn it.
  7. Girls anticipate and become obedient quickly, especially when father cherishes their preciousness. Boys learn through experience and fathers are the most effective at defining lessons that should be learned.
  8. Girls accept and honor parental lessons much more easily and younger than boys. Weaknesses and inconsistencies of parental leadership confuse boys and manifest as masculine immaturity in the teens and adulthood.
  9. Girls inherit this dilemma. Boys are born with little or no understanding or acceptance of the promises held for men by domestic home life. Nor about how women view and expect domestic home life to proceed. Men are no more capable of idealizing home life up to womanly standards, or even adjusting to it, than what they witness growing up. Not that they are incapable but their sense of dominance must be harnessed just to consider wifely options, druthers, and expectations. (It makes virtual virginity so valuable when trying to capture and hold manly attention.)
  10. Girls have to earn the respect of boys. Prepubescent boys learn by being taught to respect sisters and authority figures. After puberty, teen girls earn masculine respect according to how well they protect sexual assets against the desire of boys. Rejection displeases boys and repeated refusals teach that limits exist in spite of boyish smooth talk and girlish dreams of eternal love. Continual frustration starts the process of boys learning of love for one woman. It’s the best way that girls tame boys to think in terms of monogamous love and family responsibility. (Having sex immediately gratifies two teens; deferring
    sex gratifies the sisterhood by teaching boys they can’t always have their way and must earn a woman’s heart.)

Wives inherit the final burden of getting husbands to see value in their home. Harmonizing family relationships and sustaining husband’s castle image does it best. Women are born with the ability but men are not.

The sexes differ greatly from birth. Females are in charge of building monogamous compatibility, because they gain the most from it. Mothers inculcate, teen girls tame, single women train, and wives domesticate males to live up to womanly expectations. Men who don’t receive such development end up doing something other than what women expect and appreciate.


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1393. Father’s Unconditional Love

The personal care and love of children is alien to the male nature. It’s an acquired behavior with three likely sources: It’s taught in childhood, exhibited to be more attractive to women, learned through pride about what his seed produced, and more likely all of the above. It makes conditional whatever love arises for children in a father’s heart.

However, just as with the rest of us, the self-fulfilling prophecy works to turn the love of some fathers into unconditional love. For it to happen, men learn certain things that come naturally to females:

  • Mothers during upbringing soften sons’ natural hard-heartedness. Boys learn that they can feel better about themselves when they care more than just passively for people who can do nothing for them. They are taught, best by example, to live within this cardinal principle: Others below them in life’s ‘pecking order’ deserve the unconditional respect that they expect from people higher in the pecking order. (That principle is the foundation upon which boys and men learn they can feel better about themselves by caring for others. Such ‘tenderizing’ of male hard-heartedness occurs mostly in toddlerhood and ends with puberty. They learn through adolescent experience how to balance their natural hard-headedness with their learned behavior of caring about others.)
  • Boys learn and as men they accept biblical commands about loving others and cultural expectations that fathers care for and love their offspring. They understand it to be very helpful in raising children successful to both themselves and the world in which they live.
  • To avoid anticipated censure, many fathers honor cultural values about family responsibility. They learn from their own fathers, taught best by example, to step to the plate and swing for the fences in providing and protecting their family. Children, whether bio or adopted, are automatically assumed to be the weakest members and in greatest need of respect for who they are and not just for what they do. Oftentimes children enjoy greater respect than their mothers, but it’s a reflection of her having not earned or lost respect of their father, and the parents have consequently moved into some competitive and unstable relationship.

With those preconditions, a father’s love shown conditionally over time may not stay conditional. The natural self-fulfilling prophecy phenomenon works through his caring and loving actions to program his subconscious, and unconditional love arises in his heart. The more devoted he shows and dedicatedly proves his conditional love, the sooner it morphs into the unconditional kind that enables him to disregard all the conditions that previously limit his love.


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1253. Caught in Trap of Her Making

If a woman doesn’t provide sex after one or a few dates, modern men tend to send her back to the recycling pool. They blame her ‘hang ups,’ and she interprets it as guilt. Not always slowly either, she comes to think that men are right. She will succeed better if she yields soon or at least sooner. Thus, she sets the trap for herself.

Her loneliness, angst, or desperation triggers the trap. She falls victim to infatuation, lust, or romantic love but they are short lived. The magnet of her sexual assets inevitably weakens. Men dump her but its worse. Her psyche takes terrible hits. She did but he didn’t bond as she hoped he would. She springs the leaks of a thousand guilts.

Millions of women fall for that two-pointed scam perpetrated by advocates of masculine-style sexual freedom. Men don’t complain. They’re compensated. They play around in the field of lust, infatuation, and romantic love. Then, when they tire of one woman, they dump her at the cleaners for a press job, guilt reinforcement, and pick up by another guy.

Dominance of cultural values thus shifts from females to males, from relationship stability to instability, from other-centeredness to self-centeredness, from family responsibility to player mentality, from female-friendly to male-friendly standards and expectations. All brought on by abandonment of No Sex without Marriage as a predominant cultural imperative.

Now enthused to almost exclusively pursue sex, men are more eager when its easily available and more deliberate when women ration sex with high standards for yielding. When a man must spend many more dates with a woman to get her into bed, it forces him to pay attention to her other attributes so essential for his respect and love. He is not so easily freed up to hunt and conquer someone else. When Womanhood fails to uphold higher standards, men do whatever makes their job, life, and relationships simpler and easier. And each woman feels trapped in a web of convenience that favors men.


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907. Gender Differences Revisited — Group Z

♫      Guilt rises in her mind much more readily and easily than in his.

♫      He says: “These things can be a little better.” She presumes he means: “These things can be perfect,” or “You screwed up again.”

♫      Women thrive with intermixing and multi-tasking. Men thrive on dividing life into work time and leisure/family/friend/play time.

♫      Men compete with men naturally but avoid competing with women. The female psyche mystifies, and men are not comfortable trying to outwit it. Women follow their strengths too, but their blessings are bundled around cooperation more than competition.

♫      Men respect, favor, and thrive on producing things in life and dealing with challenges. Women respect, favor, and thrive on the processes of life and dealing with people.

♫      The female inclined to be dependent lives more easily on faith. The more independent nature of men pushes them toward action and evidence more easily than faith.

♫      She persuades him indirectly. He judges her indirectly.

♫      Men primarily honor authority figures they fear or respect; it’s their competitive world in action. Women primarily honor authorities and institutions that call for faith and trust, such as God, government, education, and organizations built to deal in compassion; it’s their cooperative world in action.

♫      Men allow beauty to do whatever beauty can lead to. Women promote beauty for all it can produce.

♫      Women lack this drive: Men with a strong sense of family responsibility, even when jobless, have an urge in the morning to go someplace outside the home. It’s a reassuring habit and can ease doubts he may have about his significance.

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