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2135. Compatibility Axioms #621-630


621. Blame neutralizes or kills compatibility. She is unhappy with her man and blames him. He doesn’t understand her; things aren’t that bad. She’s just ungrateful for him, it appears unjustified, and he after all is a good man doing his best. If she explains it, he disagrees. What else is he supposed to do? Blaming him tampers with his sense of significance, his greatest fear especially when his woman questions it. As his self-defense attitude tells him, he’s challenged as a man and determines to produce results different and perhaps opposite to what she wants. [217]

622. Over time men seek improvements in their lives. They keep trying to better these main objectives: Frequent and convenient sex; meals easier to fix; comfortable recovery from daily work; sex partner that reflects credit on him. A man does it until satisfied with himself. Or compensated with a satisfying alternative such as a good and attractive wife. [217]

623. Her outside appearance attracts a man, her internal qualities hold him. [219]

624. Men seek to marry a virtuous woman, one they find so virtuous as to be fascinating. She’s only as virtuous as a man admires her qualities including appearance, traits, and achievements. So, her rewards associating with men come mostly from being admired for qualities superior to those of other women. Marital inclinations start with one man’s admiration of one woman that exceeds admiration of others. [219]

625. Loneliness and marriage are incompatible. Loneliness comes from too much self-centeredness that lacks self-importance. Sincere giving of herself to others and finding gratitude outside herself increases self-importance and drives out loneliness. [219]

626. What she thinks about most, she gets. If it’s unhappiness, she turns unhappy. If it’s pleasure, she turns toward that. If it’s loneliness, she migrates toward more of it. If its suspicion of his cheating, he’s driven toward it. (The subconscious mind takes each of us toward what we think about the most, whether good or bad, desired or undesired, liked or hated, feared or coveted.) [219]

627. Everything for which she can be grateful adds to her happiness. [219]

628. Modest attire, feminine mystique, moral restraint, monogamous spirit, and proud breast display make gaining access to sex with her appear as a major challenge. He sees that much more togetherness will be required for him to score than with women who dress suggestively or erotically. Except for the ultimate challenge of conquest, challenges are better motivators of men than sex. [220]

629. Feminine mystique stimulates the male mind to slow his charge to conquer, else he may miss out. [220]

630. Modest attire stimulates the male mind to slow its boldness, else he might offend her and lose out. [220]

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2008. Female Blessings at Birth — 04-06


Second group to review.

I take the default attitudes for a test drive, to purify them with more analysis by more people. I request readers either confirm or deny each numbered item below with or without comment. To make it easier, I’m only posting three at a time.

Just reply to this article and identify each item by its number and indicate true/false. Accept each default as true to begin with. I will rewrite or delete as results of your analyses justify it.

True means that a default item is part of female nature that women inherit at birth. False means that the item is missing completely from your heart or something you learned during life. If you learned an item during your life, try as best you can to determine if you actually learned it or just confirmed what already existed in your heart. [If learned or foreign to you, label the item False.]

  1. I have enough pride and self-sufficiency to envy no one except for their character and integrity. [Editor: It assumes that belief in oneself must be inborn or else women would lack strength to face guilt which they have in numbers and fears which they have in-depth.]
  2. Recognizing that I have self-control and sufficient composure, I find gratefulness in not showing jealousy of any woman until I see clear evidence that she poses a threat to my marriage. [Editor: Self-gratitude for self-control and composure strengthens a woman as the relationship expert. The stronger the self-gratitude, the greater her expertise, whereas jealousy adds nothing of benefit. Born with the ability to be the relationship expert means she has contributing talents, such as self-control and composure. Born with the ability to get jealous, however, does not mean born to be jealous.]
  3. I am a pretty woman. However, I’m also grateful that I have to prove it to myself daily in order to reinforce my personal strength and morale. [Editor: All women are born knowing in their heart that they are pretty. Yet, not being perfect, they need frequent reminders both from self and others. The better and more frequent the reminders, the greater is their self-gratitude. Thus, the tap-root of female happiness lies with conviction of her prettiness. And nothing adds more to her prettiness than time spent before a big mirror fixing up and talking to her best friend, her mirrored image. It’s also her greatest and perhaps only accurate expression of personal independence.]

Example for responses: “1-T (comments if given)” works okay to reflect your opinion of true to item 1.

Thank you for your opinions.

 

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129. Dark Side of Feminism—Part 08


  • A feminist creed: Don’t listen to what men have to say about the female sex. It’s understated, and men are the enemy.
  • Feminists blame character flaws for men that cheat. But without women to provide sex to married men, pressures mount for husbands to remain faithful whether they like it or not.
  • Feminists insist on equal sharing of housekeeping and childcare responsibilities. The best intentions to equalize workload weakens mutual devotion, because sustaining equality is both friction-causing and impossible to achieve.
  • Feminists listen only to women about Feminism. They ignore its impact on the male nature and blame men for not acting as women say they should, would, or could.  
  • Feminists move females away from old school maturity-before-sex in favor of new school sex-before-maturity. Men win, women gain sexual freedom and lose the ability to hold onto one man.  
  • Feminism teaches women to rationalize a superior role for females, celebrate their independence from men, and compete against their man. This justifies a self-centered competitive rather than an us-centered cooperative spirit. Filling such a role belittles a man’s sense of significance, the loss of which is his greatest fear with any woman.
  • Feminists actively honor sexual freedom. Men relish the proliferation of uncommitted sex, but the Marrying Man seeks something very different.
  • Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and welcome the consequent watering down of family responsibility.

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107. Chaste courtship works—Part 2


NOTE: Thanks to Suzanne for triggering this post. She put a big smile on my face, and I love it when pretty women do that. AGM

Of course, it’s not fair. Women that insist on fairness and equality dealing with a man will spend a lot of time trying to recycle as an ex.

Previous posts at this blog are full of the dynamics about the whats, whys, hows, and consequences of dealing with the opposite sex. Vital issues that undergird success can be summarized.

  • She must respect him above all else for who and what he is and does. Nagging, fault-finding, and indifference do the opposite.
  • She must be grateful for who and what he is and does. Affection and love do not register as gratitude.
  • His ego and sense of significance are the same. Demeaning his ego weakens his significance, which is his greatest fear, especially insignificance in his woman’s eyes.
  • A man expects to succeed at husbanding and fathering. Her rewards convince him of his success. The lack of rewards convinces him to move on. 
  • And rewards for her are?????? Few for the short-term. For the long-term, her indispensability for home and family. In the interim, whatever she negotiated or learned to negotiate during courtship. For example, his displays and words of affection, techniques for romance, living up to her expectations.

It takes a lengthy courtship for her to find out if she can make these things happen with the man she’s considering. And to uncover whether it’s worth her effort.

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88. Words that wound


Ω  A woman kisses a frog. He turns into her prince. They marry. Then, she neuters him with words that wound his spirit for any kind of life with her. Then she can’t stand him, because he becomes more like what she calls him. Also, he can’t stand himself being with her.

Ω Women know how to kiss. They also know how to neuter a man. They treat their supposed prince in such ways that his sense of significance disappears.

Ω Insignificance is a man’s greatest fear. Emanating from his woman, it kills her future with him.

Ω Feminism-inspired females have in just a few decades invoked a macro self-fulfilling prophecy. They called the male sex inadequate for meeting the expectations of women. Behold, men became exactly that.

Ω When women call men inadequate, men read manly insignificance into it. This breeds masculine significance, but it’s the kind that leads to incivility, abuse, and violence. 

Ω Men do whatever women require in order for men to have convenient and frequent access to sex. Women provide what men want but offset it with supervision and criticism. Women don’t get what they want—which is usually a lasting relationship with the man of their choice.  

Ω Women are in charge of sexual activity, but men get most of the benefits. With convenient and frequent sex provided with little or no obligation, men shape their lives around more exciting things than one wordy woman hell-bent to pop his ego bubble.

 

 

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76. Her mushy thinking—Part 3


She provides easy sex before marriage. She gives away what she doesn’t have to. After marriage she withholds sex. For example, retaliating for her hurts, she displeases him deliberately. Whatever the reason, withholding herself weakens his sense of significance with her.

She elevates children to adult status, which demotes husband to subordinate status and moves him toward insignificance—his greatest fear.

She assertively rejects this advice gem of politics and negotiation: ‘Don’t complain, don’t explain’. Instead, she unloads with everything bothering her as it bothers her. Little discretion comes across as nagging.

She gives birth at all ages without father’s presence or commitment to help. She sacrifices her child’s father-balanced future on the altar of her female ego.

She tries to take more than she gives when negotiating some issue of greater importance to husband than to her. He may deserve such treatment, and she may win the battle. But their future together dims.

She makes maintaining her imperial nest more important than retaining her man.

She reverses this model and wonders why she loses: In dating and courtship women are buyers and men sellers. Men prove their worth in order to earn her. In marriage, women are sellers and men buyers. She proves her worth in order to keep him.

She admires celebrities or others more than her husband. Admittedly, for other reasons than how she judges him, but he still comes up short. It contaminates her wifely mind for permanency.

She vocalizes jealousy of her man’s job, hobby, or recreation. She thus primes his abandonment pump. He may be totally in the wrong. But her drumbeat hardens more than weakens his determination. As the relationship expert, she has other options, but her mushy thinking thwarts her.

She expects that he will respond to stimulants just as she does. For example, guilt motivates her to do something to relieve it. Men largely ignore guilt trips placed on them and easily handle guilt they lay on themselves.

She would rather be friends with her kids than essential to her man.

She favors her kids over his. If she can’t treat all kids alike, her blending of families will not be very successful. If she can’t trust her kids to the care and admonition of her husband, she married the wrong man.  

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66. Hard-hearted Hannah


A woman easily kills her relationship when she exhibits female weaknesses that harden her heart for cooperation and soften her head into competing with her man. Weaknesses follow:

♥ Facetiousness prompted by fear of being wrong.

♥ Hatefulness prompted by dislike of herself.

♥ Selfishness never untaught to her in childhood.

♥ Busyness pursuing her personal rather than their agenda.

♥ Fussiness inspired by desire for perfection.

♥ Bitchiness that flows from envy, jealousy, and similar emotions related to others.

♥ Fearsome brought on by mistakes that she thinks might be repeated endlessly. 

Quarrelsomeness that emerges from her desire to drive their bus.

♥ Untidiness, the nesting merits of which she was never taught in childhood.

♥  Loneliness imagined when he’s not alongside her.

♥ Lonesomeness caused by husband’s absence at work.

♥ Moodiness that flows from inability to control events to her satisfaction.

♥ Carelessness prompted by weak sense of responsibility.

♥ Sloppiness that reflects badly on husband to his friends and competitors.

♥ Phoniness energized by fear of her true character being found out.

♥ Political correctness brought on by sense of being victimized.

♥ Unfaithfulness that boils in oil her man’s sense of significance.

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