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2857. Social Suicide


I watched the film ‘Network’ again. “I’m mad as Hell, and I’m not going to take it anymore.” I gotta speak out.

Girls and women commit social suicide in growing numbers. Sworn or propagandized into making men pay for past offenses or to equalize the sexes, women seek reparations. They change themselves into such unattractive creatures that men kiss them off as worthless. Women do it with a mixture of bad relationship practices that convince men: adequate for conquest only.

We all follow our beliefs more than momentary thoughts. What follows below represents what too many women believe and are guided accordingly by their hearts distorted by feminism and adopted into interpersonal relationships.

These are some of the embittered suicide pills that women either swallow or practice and presume to be okay. Nay, even the right thing for them to do, or so they believe.

  1. She doesn’t listen to men about what makes men tick. She relies on what other women think and feminists distort for political purpose.
  2. She chatters endlessly about herself, which blocks a man from selling himself to her as a potential pursuer. Feminist-think endorses full disclosure, which is contrary to building successful relationships.
  3. She dresses like a fugitive from garage sales, but expects men to be interested in her.
  4. She refuses to listen to a man talking about himself; she would rather talk about herself—and she does.
  5. She wears long stringy hair far too late in life; it’s low maintenance and, anyway, men or her man told her twenty years ago they liked it. Actually, it clouds her personality with the message that she’s lost in the past, just too old for a budding relationship.
  6. She spotlights her appearance with low maintenance, comfort over grooming, and disregard for how men may view her. IOW, no way will she pay a price to satisfy men with her appearance, which is strong poison in her suicide ditty-bag of pills.
  7. She refuses to compete with other gals for best appearance, strongest attractiveness. Even though men judge gals that way. It causes many to be hit on for sex by guys they don’t want.
  8. She believes whatever men can do, she can too. Whatever they deserve, she deserves. And, unfortunately, she tries to prove it everyday to herself, if not others.
  9. She bitches about male dominance and still wants to fight it. She gives up her skill and talent to govern relationships successfully, and so she’s not able to build and keep a relationship for very long.
  10. She yields first sex together early in dating and expects him to bond with her as she does with him. Just prior to conquest, he expects that she’s keeper, booty, or disposable. But women don’t know that ahead of time. The shorter the time before conquest, the more likely she’s disposable rather than keeper.
  11. She acts as the seller to convince a man to be her boyfriend or fiancé. It shuts down his interest in selling her on himself and he can sooner get into her pants. Almost guaranteed to become a dumpee as soon as she yields sex first time.
  12. She gets her worldly info from TV, Internet, and pop culture and accepts it as real life. Then she takes up social media habits that turn her personality so self-centered that it distorts her public personality.
  13. She portrays herself as sex object and criticizes men of no interest for hitting on her. It confirms to her that men are no good.
  14. She fails to understand that men believe what they figure out about a woman much more that what she tells them.
  15. She mistakenly thinks that full discovery is the way to open a relationship. In fact, the opposite works best. He describes who and what he is and she just listens, which is the start up of her earning a man’s respect that is the foundation of his love that may develop later.
  16. She eats like a truck driver, lives on huge high caffeine sodas, and sports a pot belly like men. She expects her excess weight will be forgiven by Mr. Next Guy and thus prove that she’s right to forgive herself. It’s a laughable equation that works so seldom, and so she ends up disliking herself every day for life.
  17. She arises each morning with a huge dislike of herself. She feels good until she begins to think what the day will bring and dislike of self swallows the outgoing side of her personality.
  18. She pays any price to claim a boyfriend as hers, even to his mistreating her mentally or physically.
  19. She fails to capitalize on female strengths, such as femininity, mystery, modesty, vanity, and monogamous spirit.
  20. She refuses to recognize this trait in the male nature: A man accepts competition with a woman prior to conquest. He refuses to compete with a woman he has conquered, and so he expects only her cooperation afterward.
  21. She copies masculine habits, which destroys femininity, and which cancels most female qualities that men admire and see as virtues; those that accumulate for her to make her a virtuous woman like a man hopes to marry.
  22. She accepts anger, lets bitterness develop, and otherwise makes herself an unattractive personality that even smiles can’t erase.
  23. She acts as the seller with man as the buyer, which reverses the natural roles that worked for centuries. If he’s not earning her as the seller, she’s in for a short relationship, probably just conquest.
  24. She floats an attitude that men are no good, and so why should she do anything special? Men always get the easy way out, why shouldn’t she?
  25. She wants more control, and so she dresses down to keep uninteresting men from hitting on her.
  26. She falsely believes that men and women are more alike than different in their natures, in their personal makeup, behavior, motivation, and interaction with the opposite sex.
  27. She dislikes herself so intensely that she seeks to pull those around her down to her level, and men pull the easiest because she doesn’t understand the male nature.

A lot of overlap exists in that list, but you get the idea. Men are no better than women make them, and the social suicide above makes worse whatever quality of men women face today.

That’s a lengthy menu of female poisons being injected into the social sphere. Not all women are guilty. Those prone to doing so have one thing in common. They don’t like themselves as a female, as girl or woman. They inflate their egos and help ensure their sanity by practicing the poisonous thoughts listed above.

They dislike themselves as the result of upbringing in families, predominantly those that believe feminist thought and propaganda that men are the enemies of women.

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2263. Compatibility Axioms #871-880


871. The hotter the man, the more victims he leaves in his trail. But don’t blame him. More women try to please him without his having interest in them. [292]

872. As we observe today, masculine looks are very important to women, which causes manly character to deteriorate from lack of feminine appreciation, which causes marriage to deteriorate from lack of strong, character-reinforced, masculine fidelity.

873. The more a woman rejects the hunk, the harder he tries to win her. When he convinces her that he’s as special as he thinks—that is, she goes along to get along—she primes herself to be dumped. [292]

874. If she hopes to marry for life, even the hottest or richest guy should not qualify as good enough for her until they finish the ceremony at the altar.

875. Women are the relationship experts. To men changing partners is far simpler, easier, and more inviting than so-called relationship maintenance. [292]

876. Regarding women, a man doesn’t like or want to deal with the unfamiliar. His reticence or hesitancy promotes the woman to the dominant role.

877. Couples succeed as a couple primarily through her efforts, or she chose the wrong man. [292]

878. Men obligate themselves broader and deeper when sex is not cheap. [292]

879. Even though previously married, virtual virginity success lies with her friendly feminine charm and persistent refusal to have unmarried sex. If he won’t honor her wishes or forces himself on her, he’ll be worse after conquest, during shack up, and even after marriage. [294]

880. His ‘conqueror’s rights’ emerge after their first sex together. It’s as natural as her succumbing to his charm or looks. [294]

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2146. Compatibility Axioms #661-670


  1. Virtual virginity is all about earning greater respect. A man’s enduring love—the kind of devotion that survives infatuation, lust, and romantic love that inevitably fade—is founded most deeply on respect that she earns and devotion that develops in his heart from the actions he takes to please her repeatedly, primarily if not all before conquest. [231]
  2. Nothing focuses a man’s mind so assertively on changing a woman’s mind than continued refusals for their first sex together. Continued refusals either earn his respect or departure, and that’s the only way she can find out what he’s after primarily—her or sex. [231]
  3. Trying harder and harder for conquest focuses his attentions on her. Looking for weaknesses, he uncovers her strengths, qualities, and virtues. Over time, it convinces him she is more worthy of his time, effort, and personal investment. Long courtships breed more of his investment opportunities for her to seal the connections. [231]
  4. His dominance will always be present or threatening, but greater mutual respect upgrades her opinions and enhances her influence. [231]
  5. When men have to make arrangements for their own meals, whatever woman pushes them to have to do it becomes more easily disposable. [232]
  6. Manly boredom and female attractiveness do not show up together. A man always enjoys looking at an attractive, pleasant looking female. When his woman looks sloppy and uncaring, boredom does set in and his interest goes elsewhere—perhaps to looking for something more attractive. [232]
  7. Men graciously live with the exaggeration that a man’s home is his castle. But it happens most reliably when his woman exploits her relationship expertise, showers him with gratitude, and recognizes him as head and her as neck of the family. Anything less is not a castle, and there’s a certain manly satisfaction looking for it somewhere else. [232]
  8. Men highly value feminine virtue, qualities they admire, because the promise of eventual conquest adds honor to his manly persona and significance. [232]
  9. Men intend to make themselves admirable (primarily to themselves) and their life significant (usually above all else). [232]
  10. Men love working or doing what they feel compelled to do. The most reliable men turn their life into loveable work both at home and on the job. (There’s an old saying, Show me a man that loves his job and I’ll show you a man that never has to go to work.) [232]

 

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2130. Male Bonding


Sir Eric’s clear and worthy questions at 2127 inspire this post.

Two conquerors face off. He seeks conquest; she seeks marriage. The female nature is willing to change to conquer. But the male nature resists, resents, and even retaliates against changing to please anyone else and especially a woman. (We observe it in toddlers.)

Bonding arises out of the male nature only when tied to something of significant interest. A prospective conquest is of prime significance. Males thus face an internal conflict. To conquer they have to change to please a woman if she won’t easily part with her favors.

Women love and partially bond before conquest, and sex finalizes the process for them. Bonding is not necessary for conquest but mutual bonding is for marriage. Thus, another conflict. Lifetime obligations don’t emerge unless the man changes sufficiently well that mutual bonding occurs.

A man will change provided he has the proper incentive. His self-interest to conquer makes him willing to pay that price. He will change over time to conquer a resisting woman. He will teach himself to please her in order to please himself and vice versa. It starts as desire to conquer but morphs away from sex to her when her fascination and promise for his future outshine his desire to conquer. His pleasing actions become new habits over time and reprogram his heart into believing she’s worth it.

All done in hope of convincing her into bed sooner rather than later. His conquering motivations provide the glue, his actions clamp two self-interests together in mutual bond. Thus, it appears that he changes to please a woman but he doesn’t. He changes to please himself, to facilitate conquering her. Both are beneficiaries of the process that works in two steps when women hold out for marriage.

1) Frustration being the father of invention, men denied first sex together find words of commitment. Further denials of sex bring out greater effort including his conscience to honor his words and thus deepen his commitment. Such commitment, however, doesn’t hold nearly as much adhesive as does the second part of the bonding process which happens over more time.

2) Devotion emerges out of his continued actions that please him for pleasing her, and those actions program his heart with emotions that bond. (The deeper his devotion becomes, however, the more it shifts her toward the alpha role in marriage, which invites her to do wrong things and thus makes it easier for her to screw up their marriage).

Thus, if change is a trap, he’s self-seduced by desire to conquer. By withholding sex, a woman provides the incentive that drives him to change and become capable of bonding well with her.

When her actions work contrary to his intentions, his frustration for first sex turns into the pursuit of sex only and less interest in her. Consequently, her job is to keep him in pursuit, which calls primarily for no sexual relations. Remove that incentive and a man’s bonding is far less likely to solidify into permanent obligation.

I realize the real world doesn’t work like that today. But, I describe the nature of men and women that closes the gap between her natural inheritance to be compatible with a mate and his natural resistance to mate up permanently with only one.

 

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2072. Compatibility Axioms #461-470


All that follows below is based on the natures of men and women as they are born. Women have to figure out what’s best for them given the lessons they have learned in life and the relationships they enter.

461. Privacy about her sexual past serves her best, but it’s tough to keep. Women talk to unload their guilt or blame their ex. Even friends sometimes disclose what they shouldn’t. [156]

462. Women feel more guilt than men when relationships fail. It’s one price they pay for being the better relationship experts and managers. Both to escape guilt and gain an edge in legal proceedings, women eject first to center the blame on their man.

463. Her mate wants to know of her sexual past, but she should let him wonder. Ex-husbands are known as partners, of course, but details should never be disclosed. Non-husband partners count against her, so she only makes it worse to even acknowledge those relationships. Even platonic male friends and acquaintances can be suspect. (On that particular subject, a man’s imagination can run wild at the slightest hint of suspicion about his woman’s sexual conduct.) [156]

464. After split up and explaining to relieve guilt, she seeks both sympathy and empathy for her mistakes and her ex’s inadequacies. Encouragement by others to make her feel better confirms her rightness. Friends easily assign blame to her ex. Future lovers might too if she tells a compelling story, but it’s hazardous to the health of new relationships. His empathy today can turn to his ammo in a dispute next year.[156]

465. Trust discourages suspicions but a man’s trust takes longer to develop than a woman’s. Hers is more unconditional and easily given. His is more conditional and must be earned and concluded in his imagination. [166]

466. Whatever New Man knows of her sexual history helps instigate suspicions that slow, stunt, or undermine the growth of his trust. Moreover, it affects his love, which is based on respect, which grows out of trust and vice versa in the hearts of men. [166]

467. Her New Man’s inquisitiveness about her exes is natural. Hearing details, he shifts into his masculine competitive mode. He subtly interrogates her with his curiosity and imagination. He inquires indirectly. Was or was not her ex or exes superior in sexual relations, manliness, attentiveness, likeability, dependability, or as producer, provider, protector, or problem solver for her? To himself he will proudly claim “not” for the other guys. Until, that is, he concludes otherwise from small details that she discloses or he uncovers. Without uncovering details to the contrary, his imagination judges by how difficult she is for him to conquer and easily concludes ‘not’ for the other guys. Late conquest adds directly to her value as keeper. [166]

468. A sexually active past doesn’t demean her for conquest. It demeans the potential for their subsequent relationship. It doesn’t mean he won’t marry her, but an imagined score card looks something like this: She loses respect-points for each of her exes and leaves a trail of doubt for New Man’s suspicions. The more easily she is conquered by New Man, the more respect-points she loses for predecessors, and the more snooping is invited of her past. Since a man’s love is founded on respect, especially for how she protects her most important asset, refusing to have first-sex with New Man restores respect-points to the score card. It’s why virtual virginity works. [166]

469. Looking for Mr. Good Enough, a woman suffers pressures that don’t help her. For example: (1) Being sexually active to keep up with her peers. (2) The lack of long range purpose and goals for her life, having forgotten or given up on her girlhood hopes and dreams. (3) Excessive eagerness to have boyfriend, live in, or husband. (4) Inexperience making sound judgments about HER long range future. Virtual virginity reverses such ‘enemy’ pressures. [169]

470. While her legs are crossed, a woman compares her thinking with her feelings, her wishes with the facts, her future with the promises she faces. Such clear-headedness brings far fewer mistakes. [169]

 

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2028. Female Blessings at Birth — 37-39


This is the thirteenth group and I’m grateful for your earlier responses.

I continue taking the list of female blessings for a test drive and your examination.

Please identify each item by its number and indicate true/false, as you see it. True means that a blessing is part of female nature that women inherit at birth. It resonates in your heart as truth, even though you may never have thought of it. Don’t let my explanations alter your vote. How does the item register in your heart?

False means that the item is missing completely from your heart, it’s something you learned during life, or you just don’t think women are born that way.

Where I explain or add, I could be wrong. Feel free to challenge me. I’m not trying to be right, just searching for truth about the qualities that women inherit at birth.

37. I have always sensed that men work and remain focused better when dealing with things in the present while I do better by focusing primarily on the future. [Guy adds: It’s her default condition, and it empowers her to minimize decision-making competition and conflict. Compatibility arises more naturally when she allows him to dominate present day decisions while inoffensively, indirectly, and diplomatically getting his buy-in to her thoughts and aims about their future. Present-day decisions will be repeated sometime when she has greater influence by having prepared for that eventuality. Her investment of buying into his decisions today breeds tomorrow’s return on her investment.]

38. I instinctively know that men seek to marry a good woman and I am good enough for what a man needs. [Guy adds: Women use their own interpretation of ‘good’ and, unfortunately, listen to other women about the details. Perhaps because men don’t think about it much less talk about it. Instead, operating independently men track down, test, follow, and marry an appealing accumulation of admirable female qualities existing in one woman. It’s best summarized that men marry a virtuous woman and what they admire they consider a virtue. The more virtues men find then the more fascinating and promising her prospects. Which brings to mind, what ‘venues’ do men explore for details of her likeability and qualities to admire? Female modesty, feminine mystique, monogamous spirit, friendliness toward masculine endeavors, uniqueness relative to men, uplifting spirit, caring heart, strong mindedness that eases up when dealing against him, determination to defend what’s morally right, willingness to depend on him, spirit to work for compatibility, character strength, encouraging personality. Most of those venues arise naturally out of women who follow their female nature (aka the values, beliefs, convictions, and expectations with which they are born).]

39. I instinctively know that a man seeks my weaknesses to help get me into bed—especially the first time with him. Something inside of me says to put it off, delay it, follow my instincts, steel my will against his charm. The more I succeed, the more I control my destiny. [Guy adds: To the extent she delays but he pursues, he unwittingly discovers her strengths and traits that he can admire. Each admirable quality becomes a virtue and men seek to marry a virtuous woman. The more virtues he uncovers then the more quickly she becomes fascinating, which makes her more desirable for more than sex, which encourages his devotion, which can then morph into the promise he sees in her for supporting his ambitions and missions in life, which sets the hook for his appearance at the altar. (Both marital success and failure have roots going back to their first sexual encounter together, the importance of which can’t be overstated.)]

Example for your response: “39-F ” works okay to reflect your opinion of false to that one item. Also, comments are welcome and desired, especially if you take exception to anything.

Thank you for your opinions.

 

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1941. Compatibility Axioms #271-280


271. After conquest the infatuated but less-than-fascinated man focuses on life with her as sex partner at the cheapest cost to him—girlfriend, lover, booty, live in, or wife if necessary. [114]
272. Even before a man starts a relationship, she’s his target for conquest. His appreciation, respect, and her value go up as he tries to overcome difficulty achieving his goal. Also, how he handles her objections and obstacles discloses if he’s truly into her, if he has the potential to become devoted to her.  [114]
273. The feminist ideology wraps the female heart with meanness toward men. It breeds selfishness and self-centeredness and injects female ugliness into relationships. It makes women stand up inside and figuratively shake a fist at men. It pushes men to fight back with what often become abuse, abandonment, and violence. [115]
274. Instead of relying on the feminine side of their nature, modern women fish with exposed breasts and net a man with sex. But they can’t hold him. In that way, women pay the price of politicized and socialized elitism. (For specific differences, see the series Dark Side of Feminism) [115]
275. Acting feminine maximizes a woman’s value to herself and men. By doing so, she uplifts her self-worth, enlarges her self-image, and broadens her self-interest. She likes herself as girl, female, woman, mother, grandmother, and girlfriend. Masculine men react the same but in manlier roles. [116]
276. Men respond to feminine women by becoming more responsible, which encourages women to become more feminine. [116]
277. Feminine behavior attracts men to rise above themselves and accept domestic and fatherly responsibility. A woman’s feminine spirit makes her appear vulnerable and challenges good men. One will admire himself with thoughts of taking care of her. [116]
278. Femininity encourages girls to listen and duplicate mother’s and even grandmother’s experience. This enables each generation to improve on its ability to tame and harness male dominance into fulfilling female hopes and dreams. [116]
279. If she makes it easy for him to know her, she makes it hard for him to keep her. Mystery captivates. Candidness victimizes her with whatever strengths of dominance he chooses to use. [117]
280. The greatest male candidate for marriage has unconditional respect for the opposite sex that exceeds respect for his own sex. The same applies to women candidates, but it’s easier to observe in women than men. [117]

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