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477. What Moms Never Hear—G: Attitude

Some of what follows may be familiar, but it helps to summarize what makes teens tick.

Like the rest of us, teens are of two minds. The subconscious works in background and governs and guides the conscious mind.

Teen behavior reflects the attitude hidden inside the subconscious. These factors describe much of what’s behind the attitude of typical girl or boy:

Self-esteem is how well the teen likes, loves, respects, and appreciates Self. It formed mostly in infancy and very soon thereafter. Later, it plays a major role in interacting, accepting, and appreciating other people.

Self-image is the teen’s mental and spiritual ‘picture’ of Self. It sets boundaries on behavior, which are usually observed. (If you think you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you’re right.) It forms after the conscious mind comes online, and then explodes in the tweens.

Self-interest is what the teen needs, wants, and/or values. It motivates and prompts action. It opens as guesswork after the conscious mind opens, then slowly progresses, but doesn’t refine itself until the teens or early adulthood.

Self-talk is what teens tell Self about Self. It’s a continual infusion that keeps self-image and self-interest up-to-date and self-esteem out of the dumps.

Self-fulfilling prophecy has two facets that induce subtle change into the subconscious. The impacts are much the same as that of self-talk:

       SFP is the phenomenon of how teens tend to become what others expect. As mother warned, more ‘like those with whom you associate’.

       SFP also works when teens predict or believe something will happen and then quite unconsciously go about making it come true. This includes living up to their own particular expectations, such as with goal setting and accomplishment.

The teen’s subconscious leaks and sometimes broadcasts the resident attitude that these ingredients produce. Attitude helps to figure out what makes a teen tick.

Future posts provide greater details, and Babyhood follows.


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