Her Highness Alice wrote: “Why the HELL should I dress to other people’s expectations? Ugh.” Her innocence inspired this article.
Alice, how much of your dress habits come from the teachings of your parents? Do you still live up to any of their expectations? If for no other reason, you cover your body in public to meet the expectations of others. Female modesty inspires you to do it, but I bet you always go beyond the minimum.
Try this: Dress way up or way down for some social function with friends, business associates, or whoever. How do they react? Do it regularly and you will be marginalized at least and dumped at worst, but you know that. So you dress as certain people expect you to appear provided you want to maintain your relationship with them. You reflect on them even if you don’t know it and whether you like it or not. You don’t have to fully meet their expectations, but their minimum exists and I bet you normally dress up to it.
Does fashion ever enter your decisions about dress, appearance, attractiveness? You dress to please yourself for some event and find another woman dressed exactly the same. If you dressed to please only yourself, why would her duplicate attire bother you? But, I bet it does, because the female nature knows that uniqueness means a lot in getting a woman’s world to swing her way.
You have a natural female need for self-importance. Does it inspire you to dress in particular ways when you’re joining up with friends or about to face others?
It’s a real twist of fate. People can’t be happy without being grateful. Gratefulness for things is usually not enough. It usually takes gratefulness for one or more people including Self to make a person truly happy. People expect you to try to be happy, which to them means grateful for yourself. If, however, you’re not inspired to dress up to please yourself, to make yourself grateful for yourself and thus meet the expectations of others, you’re not likely to find that their responsive behaviors make you grateful of them.
Your HELL comment expresses one arbitrary and seemingly angry reason for not doing something that improves the world in which you live. I’ve given several reasons to move outside of self-centeredness and into other-centeredness where females shine so much brighter than men. You don’t need to do it, but many viewers of this blog claim they see a brighter future by improving themselves, especially relative to men.
You doubtless heard this wisdom growing up: We become like those with whom we associate. Well, it includes attire.
Finally, I figure you missed or ignored the merit of this: “I dedicate this blog to females that groom and dress to be pretty instead of erotic, attractive instead of comfortable, and modest instead of convenient. Each one reminds how much more beautiful the world can be.” Or and more likely, you took exception to one or more of the adjectives: pretty, erotic, attractive, comfortable, modest, and convenient.
So, I shall express it another way: I dedicate this blog to females that groom and dress to feel better instead of just good about themselves, grateful instead of unappreciated about their attractiveness, and happier instead of forlorn about their femaleness. If you see that both dedications say the same thing, I’ve eased your innocence and fulfilled my purpose today.