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2750. Essentials of Successful Marriage — 03 Her Battle of the Sexes


At post 2749 I described the War of the Sexes as each woman individually and independently up against all men, competing to see who gets their way. They are blessed by nature to succeed in that arrangement. Men go where the women are, so it’s up to each woman to play her cards independently to her own advantage.

Perhaps contrary to popular thought, the Battle of the Sexes is not about male gender versus female gender, dominance vs. submissive, equality vs. fairness, husband vs. wife, responsibility vs. irresponsibility. It’s easy to believe those competitive connections to be normal. However, God didn’t design us, Nature and genetics don’t endow us, and hormones don’t energize us that way.*

The Battle of the Sexes is one on one, begins with first encounter, and she commands the battleground. One woman willing to yield her independence under the right conditions versus one man willing to suppress his dominant nature long enough to conquer her. She inherits the burden to convince him that she’s much more endearing to him personally and more valuable for his life than are his hopes of conquest.

Both are born to get their way with the other, eternal competition that only a relationship expert can manage well. He’s a conqueror seeking conquest without obligation. She’s a conqueror seeking marriage before conquest. It’s the only way she can be sure of what he is truly after, either sex or her.

With a lasso made of her beauty, mystery, modesty, monogamous spirit, and his desire to conquer, he places it around his neck. One woman cuts out that man from the herd; leads him into her corral; breaks him of bucking; and does it with vim, vigor, and vitality. Before he can get her into bed the first time, she coaches and persuades him to learn how it pleases him to be both tamed and harnessed with her as good woman. By committing to how she trains him, he finally achieves conquest and enjoys the frequent and convenient sex won by pulling her buggy through life together.

The Battle of the Sexes expands with them as a couple. They court until both are convinced they are made for each other. He makes his move with a proposal of marriage, if and when he’s convinced living with her will satisfy him more than the way he presently lives.

With all his warts and sins, she is more the challenge than he. Example: As soon as she blames him for being like all men, she hardens his resistence to her influence, which means she weakens her ability to win the battle of capturing him. It’s a contradiction she has to work out successfully in the corral of their life together, and she has more than enough ability. The time and way to start is the tough part. (Discussed more deeply in future articles.)

The Battle of the Sexes is continuous in time, daily in events, and one woman pitted against whatever man she currently faces in whatever role he fills—first encounter, friend, foe, husband, boyfriend, business associate, FWB, or whatever. It’s each woman’s personal battle, and she has no one but herself to win it. IOW, yes, it’s all up to her how well she does in both the war and her battles to get her way in life with one man.

She has to rely on herself alone. As soon as she seeks help through the aegis and protection of other women banding together or blaming all men for her man’s faults, the man she faces assumes the aura of dominance in her eyes, which weakens her position. She then takes the easy road, allows for the expected dominant pressures, and yields sex or other matters without a battle of wits. In the process, he more easily refuses to cooperate or help her win their one-on-one battle.

By disregarding dominance as having a role in her relationships, each individual female more easily cuts out one horse to put in her corral. The battle then is that one female tames one male to be civilized up to female expectations to facilitate the raising of children. Each individual woman does that to her man, and she leaves other men and women out of her life to do the same for themselves.

Tomorrow: His Battle of the Sexes

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* It appears that way because modern culture says we can’t live with the sexes being different. The political class for reasons hidden from the public for over half a century ridicule men and criticize male traits and behaviors. They blame men for female problems, which makes enemies of men, which makes women desperate to have a man, which encourages them to act more like men in order to have one of their own. IOW, if women can’t make men stand up to feminist exaggerations, copy their ambitions and lie down with them.

The professed political object centralizes power to weaken patriarchy, but the result is political makeover of America. Once, our Judeo-Christian culture was primarily female friendly. Nowadays, it’s male friendlier and getting more so.

 

 

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263. From feminine mystique to feminist mistakes—Part 4


The Cosby family and Ozzie and Harriett home exemplified on TV what our foremothers sought and achieved—albeit incompletely and imperfectly. These and similar shows are mocked today by feminists and political activists. Yet, real women before the 1960s were far happier and more successful than modern women when dealing with men.  

Womanhood split in the 1960s. Many women and young girls became radicalized and politicized by the sexual and cultural revolutions. They removed Womanhood from the driver’s seat of culture.

It cost women in many ways: They lost the unconditional respect of men for the female sex. They elevated unmarried sex and played to the manly game of irresponsibility for offspring. They devalued personal virtue and family integrity, and this led to family instability. They motivated men generally against marriage and spending a lifetime with the same woman.

Plus, one great unintended consequence: Women bashed men socially and attacked them legally and politically to tear down male dominance.

The effect: They restored male dominance to prominence. Men now put masculine interests for independence, toys, adventures, and trophies ahead of helping fulfill female hopes and dreams.

Men rather than women dominate cultural values today. It’s done primarily through the pop culture and compounds for the worse into each new generation.

Consequently, modern women and children lose more easily and dependably in this game we call life. Some women don’t know how, and others  won’t pay the price, to strengthen their family with a devoted husband and father.

[More on old school America appears in posts 238, 218, and 204 below. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following it.]

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233 — Dark Side of Feminism — Part 16


 

As women go, so goes society. Feminist propaganda over the past four decades was brash and captivating. Women couldn’t resist elevating themselves relative to men.

However, it left huge piles of social and domestic debris. This major political movement now approaches implosion from fatal compressions, such as:

·        Feminists pay no attention to what men say about the subject. Men are unqualified, the culprits, the enemy.

·        Men never bought in to Feminism. Their behavior changed to ensure frequent and convenient access to sex, but their nature didn’t change. (See posts titled ‘Sex Differences Do Matter’ in the CONTENTS page.)

·        Trying to conquer natural male dominance with politics and propaganda, feminists destroyed unconditional respect between the genders.   

·        Modern men possess undependable character traits, make less than ideal mates, and lather the female gender with disrespect—no calls after his conquest, early dumping, surprise abandonment, skipping childcare payments, infidelity, weak commitment, insincere devotion, abuse, violence.

·        Men are more alien than native for helping fulfill the hopes and dreams of women for their children and future.

·        The male gender focuses on sex and conquest. Individuals take out feminist-inspired discouragements, frustrations, and rejections on dates, lovers, mates, spouses, and even children.

·        Women passed to men dominance of cultural values. Masculine values and interests dominate the pop culture, which more clearly dominates the social scene and culture as newer generations take over.

For these and other reasons, Feminism fades as obsolete. Women will soon rise up with a wiser set of cultural values to inspire men to help fulfill female hopes and dreams. Hopefully, it will be feminine and exploit sex differences instead of politically and fractiously trying to level those differences. 

 

 

 

 

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209. Female dominance: Gone! — Part 5


Society is action. It’s what we do, and men dominate there.

Culture is values. It’s why we do what we do. Cultural values guide society, and women dominate! Thus, women determine the extent to which society is male- or female-centered.  

Women used to be dominant. Our foremothers built a female- and family-centered culture. Starting in the Sixties, however, younger generations yielded to men. Female-centered cultural values, such as marriage, monogamy, and morality were devalued in favor of greater sexual freedom—the ultimate male-centeredness.

Modern women participate and even enlarge male sexual freedom. This embellishes male dominance with more challenges and flexibility that tear at the heart of what used to be a family-centered culture.

Many willing females seek a boyfriend. This frees up men to please and keep or mistreat and dump each woman they conquer.

Women further enlarge male dominance by exercising female ‘rights’ for sexual freedom.

A primary mission of Feminism was to curtail male dominance and uplift the influence of women. It failed. Male dominance weakened in political, legal, and economic realms, but it worsened among couples.

Male dominance in social realms is reduced only by one thing: Cultural values that drastically curtail sexual freedom for males.

Female-centered customs energetically imposed by women shrink male dominance best. The key lies with this principle: Access to frequent and convenient sex comes only through the institution of marriage.

NOTE: See the last paragraph applied to individual women at posts 198, 181, 169, 158, 147, 136, 125, 96, 70, 51, 44, and 25.

[More on the loss of female dominance appears at posts 194, 173, 159, and 151.]

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116. The essence of being feminine


Femininity maximizes a woman’s value to herself as a person. It uplifts her self-worth, enlarges her self-image, and broadens her self-interest. Acting feminine teaches her to like herself as girl, female, woman, mother, grandmother.

Being feminine makes a woman very unique, which maximizes her value to men.  

 Women gravitate naturally to being feminine. Individuals live and learn how to exploit their femaleness so as to deal successfully with men. They also learn by sharing experiences.

The feminine concept refreshes and reinforces itself, as mothers impart to daughters the blessings of having a man and pitfalls of not being able to capture and hold one.

Whereas Feminism encourages girls to ignore motherly teachings about boys, Femininity encourages girls to listen and duplicate mother’s and even grandmother’s experience. This enables each generation to improve on its ability to tame and harness male dominance for fulfilling female dreams.

In the end, being conditioned by Femininity in three phases of life as boy, single, and married, men respect the opposite sex more than they respect their own gender. So do women.

The resulting cultural institution of unconditional respect provides the deepest foundation for a man’s conditional respect for one woman. From his respect, his love arises.

One woman summarizes the essence of being feminine. She refreshingly claims that it adds color to a man’s black and white world.*

* Thanks for the color-B&W analogy to an unknown woman cited in Keys to the Kingdom by Alison A. Armstrong, PAX Programs, Inc. Sherman Oaks, CA , p.151.

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115. The Essence of Feminism


Feminism is an ideology. It tells other people how to live according to politically inspired values, but it generates social illnesses. (I applaud the legal, political, and economic gains wrought by Feminism. Instead, I focus on the damaging social consequences inflicted on couples.)

 The feminist ideology wraps the female heart with meanness toward men. It breeds selfishness and self-centeredness, which puts mental ugliness into the mainstream of life. It makes women stand up inside and shake a fist at men. It pushes men to fight back with what often becomes abuse and violence.

Early feminists buried as trash the female-friendly concepts of the Lady and the Gentleman. They spiked tenderness into the hardened turf of politics, which sacrificed the female desire to be cherished by a man. They uplifted sexual freedom as equality with men that women deserved.

How did it happen that Feminism prostitutes the female nature and turns men away from family responsibility? Simple. The roots lie in politics with people that wanted to change the world to their image. They wanted to make a difference and strategized without input from men. 

Two world views separate those that did it from those that would not have done it—the political Left from the Right, the political females from the natural females, the feminists from the feminine.

“One view, the Anglo-American, holds that human ability to comprehend, adjudicate, and arrange the world around us is limited; that the only attainable goal is continuously to improve the conditions which enable individuals to achieve their personal best.”*

Those who hold this world view occupy the right side of the political spectrum. Their beliefs foster leadership by example rather than using politics to tell others how to live.

“The other view, predominantly Franco-Germanic, places human reason at the center of our existence, claiming that certain people are capable of comprehending, adjudicating, and arranging the world around us; and that such people are called upon to guide all others toward an increasingly perfect and just world in which all desires will have been either eliminated or satisfied.”*

The early feminists, and those that helped propagate their ideology, hold the latter world view. They empower themselves with feminist theory, dogma, and propaganda and adjudicate and arrange the world for the rest of us.

They thought themselves elitist enough and capable of changing how men treat women by telling women how to mistreat men.

As a result, modern women fish with bare breasts and net a man with sex. But, they can’t hold him. Thus, women pay the price of feminist elitism that substituted Feminism for Femininity.

* My thanks to Balint Vazsonyi for the two quotes. They’re from his book America’s 30 Years War, Who is Winning? (p.106) 

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113. Sex is iffy.


When fascination, infatuation, lust, respect, and love fade for a woman, men resort to character and nature. Women usually suffer consequences with roots in their first sex together.

The male mind set comes in all shapes and sizes. But, like women, they have their own set of expectations. Unfortunately for women, masculine expectations lean toward conquest more than relationship stability. That’s evident in the way men change after conquest of a woman.

If he won’t honor her values, standards, and expectations before conquest, he likely won’t afterward.

If he won’t make himself worthy of her before conquest, instead of her becoming worthy of him, he likely won’t afterward.

If he won’t romance her before they get into foreplay and intercourse, he likely won’t learn to do it for their future together. [See post #33, ‘Romance Gap’ is all about her.]

If he’s the buyer and she’s the seller before marriage, look out for the dump that’s likely coming.  

If she’s not the seller to his buyer role after marriage, she’s likely qualifying herself for abandonment.

If she expects his devotion, remember that it arises from what he does for her, not what she does for him.

If she yields to him, she should expect conqueror’s rights to kick in. First, he takes charge of their sexual agenda.

If she expects to be a big trophy for him: The harder to get, the bigger the trophy.

If she expects her feminist leanings, attitude, and political expectations to override his natural masculine behaviors, her value to him will diminish over time.

If after they marry she waters down her help, support, gratitude, and encouragement for who and what he is, she may also want to research where the local exes recovery group is meeting. 

 

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