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2344. RANDOM THOUGHTS—Group 100


A threat to a constitutional freedom actually denies that freedom, because political elitists will take advantage to advance their freedom-denying agenda. Thus, denial of one freedom is root for denial of all.

The female nature makes women want to smile. They seek a reason if none is evident. If a woman CAN’T automatically smile in a friendly manner at each of the people she knows, then she lacks self-respect as their equal. She judges who they are before she smiles. If a woman WON’T warmly smile at meeting other people without judging who they are, it means she lacks self-respect as their equal. Regardless of who’s superior or inferior in her thoughts, friendly smiles emanate naturally from self-respect known to be equal to that of others. She’s made that way; self-respect arises out of her natural foundation of self-love.

The subject is anti-political correctness. People resent being told how they must act. They find ways to resist the expectations of people who evidently don’t respect them in the first place.

A predominant majority of people accept and eventually find reasons to conform to laws and social norms when they are free to choose. They satisfy themselves in concert with others whom they trust to be like minded, because of mutual trust to live together amiably and mutual respect to live by their conscience. Think of all the drivers you trust and respect on the road. Unfortunately, cultural norms now shift away from trusting individual to do what’s best for themselves. Whether chicken or egg, political elitists are convinced they know what’s best for you and me, which enables them to tell us all how we should act and feel. Political correctness is the sidewalk version used by those with little or no relationship polish or charm.

A friend asked me to confirm that the absence of love leads to alcoholism. Yes, for women that are not satisfied with the love they receive in childhood. The same cause and effect works for men but regarding respect rather than love. (Incidentally, I know nothing about alcoholism as a disease. I consider addiction to be alcoholism, dependence to cause craving, and habit to be precursor and I speak only to the root causes that motivate people to drink excessively in the first place.)

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1469. Guy’s Golden Nuggets—Response to Ettisen


Post 1442 asked for readers’ advice on clarifying pointers for sustaining lifetime marriage. I responded to two: Marianne (1466) and Sharon (1467 and 1468). It’s Ettisen’s turn now.

Ettisen spotlighted golden nugget #5 which states: Out of fear of losing, men won’t and don’t compete with their woman. When pushed into it, husbands exercise their male dominance beyond what the wife finds acceptable. So, what she gets is what she provoked (e.g., by getting in his face).

She stated: “I am now practicing no. 5. It’s not easy because I once set my life to revolve around hubby. I am trying to build my own life now but it was almost like an obsession. Anyhow it’s so much better than begging him for attention and affection. I also believe [it] helps my self-respect to grow when I am not sniffing at his feet.”

Ettisen also spotlighted golden nugget #10 which states: Ignorant wives keep trying to inflict guilt on husband in hopes he will react as women do. But he doesn’t react that way. The door to his guilt locker is locked from the inside, and he intends to keep it that way.

She further states: “Number 10 helps me to understand why he refuses to apologize after striking me. I admit I did get under his skin (no 5) so in his own reasoning I deserved it.”

I summarize her to mean this: She got tired of trying to win his attention and affection, of being a doormat. She assertively or aggressively stood up for herself, competed rather than begged, laid guilt on him, and eventually “got under his skin.” He responded by striking her. (I presume just a slap.) In other words, she tried to restore her self-respect and he physically objected to her challenging his dominant expectations and getting in his face.  

We have two issues to deal with. He struck her and respect is missing from their relationship. Respect will be addressed in the next post, #1470.

I don’t alibi for men striking women, even a slap, but I offer this philosophical thought to figure our way out of Ettisen’s dilemma. Goodness is the absence of evil, which means that ‘bad’ is part of human goodness and falls short of being evil. (God made us good but we all sin; some but not all become evil because they lack faith in God’s confirmation of their human goodness.)

So, unless evil otherwise appears in a man’s heart, just slapping his woman is only bad and presumably an extension of male dominance. (Fist punching, multiple strikes, or body damage, especially without contrition, would likely indicate an evil heart.)

Although out of bounds in Western cultures, a slap is usually a natural reaction to a man being surprised, excessively challenged, or mentally threatened.

It’s strictly a relationship thing for the relationship expert to resolve. Ettisen changed her behavior and found a previously undiscovered boundary in his persona as her mate. She may be able to reverse it, but his unwillingness to apologize is a red flag to be waved in tomorrow’s post about respect.

I recognize that many readers will scream “abuse” at the first slap. It’s fashionable, politically correct, and sufficient to get legal authorities involved, but it makes a permanent enemy out of her mate. Not saying some men don’t deserve it. I’m claiming that women have far more options available to reconcile troubled relationships than by involving legal authorities. By exploiting those options, women learn far more valuable lessons for harmonizing their relationships than when they invite others into the home. Women already hear everything about abuse.

The most vital of those options, respect, will be detailed in tomorrow’s post 1470.

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137. Sex and the fickle girl—Part III


Wives cheat on husband and expect him to respond as women do. It does not work. When he cheats, she wants to know. When she cheats, he wants to go. This difference steers women into trouble. 

Ώ Women should be but are not haunted by this question: Does a younger thing attract a man away from his wife, or does his wife lose her ability to hold him, or does she drive him away? Women automatically blame him or his new trophy. Wives are always innocent, victimized, and flooded with peer empathy and sympathy to restore emotional letdown or breakdown.

Ώ Conquered women lack the allure of attractive unconquered ones. She may be a good lay or good wife or both, but the attractive and unconquered still attract him. To hold a man’s devotion, a woman must compensate for his giving up freedoms. Instead, modern women view as unfair this inequality in Nature. Thus, they lose focus on their natural abilities to capture and hold onto one man.

Ώ Successful marriage requires relationship management expertise. Women qualify as experts, but men don’t. Men are more culprit than polished for that.  Masculinity steers men toward other conquests and away from one woman. It takes an expert’s best efforts to overcome his hormonal urges. Once again, life ain’t fair, but women need men more than the reverse.

Ώ If a man acts as though he will not honor a woman’s desire to withhold and delay his conquest, then she has not imposed her dominance sufficiently well to quiet his. She’ll do better to back off, take a slower approach, and make him invest himself more deliberately—or just put him back in the parade.

Ώ The female gender has made itself politically, morally, and socially entitled to masculine-style sexual freedom. It’s a major cause of so much trouble keeping a man’s devotion. When many women act sexually unattached, wives too easily become suspect in the eyes of their man. He knows what other men are after. Can he be sure she’s different from other women? Consequently, casual sexual practices of the sisterhood poison faithful marriages.

[More about the fickle girl appears at post 93 and 34.]

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66. Hard-hearted Hannah


A woman easily kills her relationship when she exhibits female weaknesses that harden her heart for cooperation and soften her head into competing with her man. Weaknesses follow:

♥ Facetiousness prompted by fear of being wrong.

♥ Hatefulness prompted by dislike of herself.

♥ Selfishness never untaught to her in childhood.

♥ Busyness pursuing her personal rather than their agenda.

♥ Fussiness inspired by desire for perfection.

♥ Bitchiness that flows from envy, jealousy, and similar emotions related to others.

♥ Fearsome brought on by mistakes that she thinks might be repeated endlessly. 

Quarrelsomeness that emerges from her desire to drive their bus.

♥ Untidiness, the nesting merits of which she was never taught in childhood.

♥  Loneliness imagined when he’s not alongside her.

♥ Lonesomeness caused by husband’s absence at work.

♥ Moodiness that flows from inability to control events to her satisfaction.

♥ Carelessness prompted by weak sense of responsibility.

♥ Sloppiness that reflects badly on husband to his friends and competitors.

♥ Phoniness energized by fear of her true character being found out.

♥ Political correctness brought on by sense of being victimized.

♥ Unfaithfulness that boils in oil her man’s sense of significance.

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45. No Sex without Marriage


America’s traditional female strategy of No Sex without Marriage has been laughed, politicized, and propagandized out of existence, much to the benefit and delight of all males after puberty. Adopting masculine-style sexual freedom that stretches into porn and raunch, women claim rights that are more political than natural or sensible.

Having the right to do it doesn’t mean it’s right to do it. What’s right politically weakens civil and threatens domestic life. Too much casual and easy sex outside the home poisons relationships, damages home life, shatters families, and infects children with poor examples that worsen the next generation.   

Women engaged in promoting their newfound sexual freedom ignore or cannot recognize the poisonous effects on men. Unfortunately, the majority of women soft-headedly follow suit.

Women talk only to women about their sexual freedom. Men are left out, except the feminized ones that join in as political correctioneers. Women and now girls compensate males with open legs, and so men and boys eagerly go along for the ride. So many trophies, so little time.

Men pride themselves in not changing to please others, and they especially reject changing to meet a woman’s expectations. One window remains open, however. A man will respond favorably to a woman’s expectations and pressures for him to change prior to his conquest of her—but his willingness stops afterward.

Our foremothers used No Sex without Marriage to change our forefathers’ values, thinking, and habits to be both acceptable to marry and more valuable as husband and father. They shaped their marital future by conveying in a sex-free courtship just what they expected as wife and mother. They didn’t push our forefathers to change, they drew their man toward change with charm and indirectness. Our forefathers adopted the female-friendly values and standards expected of them.

After marriage she did not have to change him. But that’s all changed now.

Modern women abandoned No Sex without Marriage. Consequently, their window to change a man to meet female expectations and standards closes after a date or few. That’s not enough time.

As a result, modern wives try to change husband to meet female expectations. The more a man resists, the more his woman pushes. The greater his resistance, the greater her frustration. Her mothering and nurturing nature arise, and before long she treats him as a child or as insignificant.

The process injects interpersonal toxins that make women outside the home more alluring to him and tend to make her disposable in a few years if not sooner.

Our foremothers worked to perfect a workable strategy for keeping a man. Modern women adopt a right that drives men toward other women.

Women fear abandonment and seek affection. With uncrossed legs before marriage they strengthen the chance of the former and weaken chances for the latter.

 

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