When fascination, infatuation, lust, respect, and love fade for a woman, men resort to character and nature. Women usually suffer consequences with roots in their first sex together.
The male mind set comes in all shapes and sizes. But, like women, they have their own set of expectations. Unfortunately for women, masculine expectations lean toward conquest more than relationship stability. That’s evident in the way men change after conquest of a woman.
If he won’t honor her values, standards, and expectations before conquest, he likely won’t afterward.
If he won’t make himself worthy of her before conquest, instead of her becoming worthy of him, he likely won’t afterward.
If he won’t romance her before they get into foreplay and intercourse, he likely won’t learn to do it for their future together. [See post #33, ‘Romance Gap’ is all about her.]
If he’s the buyer and she’s the seller before marriage, look out for the dump that’s likely coming.
If she’s not the seller to his buyer role after marriage, she’s likely qualifying herself for abandonment.
If she expects his devotion, remember that it arises from what he does for her, not what she does for him.
If she yields to him, she should expect conqueror’s rights to kick in. First, he takes charge of their sexual agenda.
If she expects to be a big trophy for him: The harder to get, the bigger the trophy.
If she expects her feminist leanings, attitude, and political expectations to override his natural masculine behaviors, her value to him will diminish over time.
If after they marry she waters down her help, support, gratitude, and encouragement for who and what he is, she may also want to research where the local exes recovery group is meeting.