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539. Dark Side of Feminism — Part 23


Radicals, revolutionaries, and activists declared war on men and gave birth to Feminism. Adverse effects and social debris still fall on every woman and impact every child. Outcomes include:

N  Over three decades women disallowed and disrespected masculine feedback about feminist theory and dogma. Now, modern women don’t know men, and what they do know is mostly wrong.

N  Husbands lose their sense of personal responsibility, because wives value their own independence so greatly that they become ungrateful for whatever their man does do.

N  Wives seek so much household equality they are unwilling to negotiate separate-but-equal and respect-over-love domain responsibilities. Who’s the final authority on what issues?

N  Personal, mutual, social, cultural, and traditional respect continues to disintegrate between and within the genders. (Hook ups without call up, shack up without marry up, split up without warning, marry up without responsibility, break up without loss of benefits.)

N  The cultural concept of separate but equal genders has been torn down by the politics of gender disparagement.

N  Wives declare husbands inadequate and worse. Unknowingly or unwittingly or both, they fulfill the Pygmalion prophecy and turn husbands into more of what wives don’t want. (See previous article 529—Non-judgmental? Ha!)

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377. ALL PAIN, NO GAIN — PART I


   Women discover the hard way that relationships don’t develop well or work smoothly. Most pass through something akin to the following sequence of major events. Entry, exit, pregnancy, and childbirth may come after any of several wayside stops:

THE FAST LANE TO PAIN

HOOK UP,

LINK UP,

KNOCK UP,

SHACK UP,

MARRY UP,

MUCK UP,

SPLIT UP,

PAY UP,

and

  END UP

 looking

 to

START UP

 again.

Women participate and rationalize trying again, but they don’t like it. They seek more faithful, reliable, and enduring love in order to remove uncertainties and stabilize marriage with emotional cement.

Permanently exiting this fast lane requires knowledge of who and what built it. Part II describes root causes in the next post, #378.

 

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298. Female malpractice — Part 9


  Relationship maintenance gone awry:  Blame or expect him to resolve whatever ails their two-way relationship. This doesn’t mean that he’s not due some blame, just that treating him as such is counterproductive.

  Nagging doesn’t get more offensive than that which tampers with his sense of sexual significance.

 Marital longevity shortens under pressure of sexually accessible women outside the home. The sisterhood’s sexual freedom thus devalues marriage.

  Women favor to live with a man rather than spend time choosing a great mate. One made less great, because he begrudges his predecessor(s).

  To satisfy their self-centeredness and exercise their will over others, women use conditional love to manipulate their man and raise their children. The effect torments everyone.

  The more that women practice masculine-style sexual freedom, the more dedicated becomes the sex-chasing lifestyle of men. Things domestic lose their allure.

  Trying to change a man sours his affection for whoever tries. Her pressure offends.

  After split up, she’s the only one qualified to tell her how wrong she may have been. But listening to others eases her pain.

[More about female malpractice appears in posts 278, 236, 221, 206, 189, 175, 164, and 150. Scroll down or search for the number with a dot and space following it.]

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228. Female Fortitude—46 through 50


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match the posts.

46. Some women dress erotically to capture a man and follow up with sloppy dress and grooming that turns his head toward other neat and erotically attired females. Other women know that sloppy appearance and inattentive personal grooming at home and in public spawns other women as potential trophies in their man’s eyes.

47. Dark Side Truth #3—Feminist thinking in the home inspires women to favor ingratitude for their man’s imperfections rather than gratefulness for his manliness and strengths. Eventually, a man tires of it, his respect wanes, alienation sets in, and disruption or departure follows.

49. First impressions motivate a man. Modest boobery signals she’s relatively unavailable but may be worth a chase. The man that finds her sufficiently attractive preps himself to spend a lot of time and effort with her. He figures it’s needed just to penetrate her resistance that’s reflected by her apparent modesty. Her modesty energizes his perceptiveness and imagination to her advantage. It also pressures him to learn to honor her expectations for him.

50.  Old school. When women denied sex without marriage, men didn’t take rejection personally. They blamed her hang ups, moral,  religious, or whatever. New school. As modern females provide sex with little or no commitment, males take rejection personally. Some males can’t recover one much less repeated refusals. It can spin boy or man toward awful revenge—think stalkers, school massacres, date rapists, serial rapists.

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 213, 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

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227. What daughters never hear—Section 4


Women control this sequence of events, but men invariably win:  hook up, link up, shack up, knock up, marry up, frighten up, muck up, ‘fess up, split up, pay up, and end up looking to start over.

Conquest releases the hunter-conqueror to look for a new target.

♀ He sees a recent conquest as girlfriend, occasional sleepover, duty slut, discard, or—if she played the pre-sex courtship to her advantage—perhaps a keeper. 

♀ Inspiring and energizing her man without de-motivating him is difficult. But a woman’s natural relationship expertise provides enough skills—if she also practices patience and indirectness.

♀ Only one way exists to find out if a man is really after a woman for herself. Withhold sex until he proves himself willing and worthy by honoring her ideals, standards, and expectations for giving up his freedom.

♀ Long-term marriage boils down to this: She chose him. She’s the relationship expert. Experts critically qualify someone trying to sell them something. Later, they make necessary adjustments to live with what they ‘purchased’.

♀ Promises and words of commitment fade easily under daily pressures. Acts of commitment reinforce feelings, promote permanency, and grow into devotion capable of surviving daily pressures.

[More that daughters never hear appear in posts 214, 200, and 183. Scroll down or search by the number with a dot and space following it.]

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213. Female Fortitude—41 through 45


These ‘fortitudinals’ provide special themes or summaries. Numbers match the posts.

41.      It’s not a pretty picture at the corner of Pain and Misery—hook up, link up, knock up, shack up, marry up, muck up, split up, pay up, and start up again.

42.      Men love to rescue women. Why don’t women get that?

43.      So many sex differences, but women have unlearned how to exploit them.

44.      Abstinence holds men off. Chastity keeps men interested. Virginity—real, virtual, or imagined—attracts the Marrying Man.

45.      Women seek affection and fear abandonment. Uncrossed legs before marriage short-circuit the former and strengthen the latter.  

[Previous fortitudinals appear in posts 203, 199, 186, 182, and 176.]

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176. Female Fortitude —1 through 10


1.     Feminism discourages manly adoration of women. Femininity inspires it.

2.     As women go, so goes society. Men do whatever is necessary to have frequent and convenient access to sex. If women insist on marriage, men marry.

3.     Both sexes have ADD.  Females have Affection Deficit Disorder. Males have Affection Delivery Disorder.

4.     Sex differences appear unfair when one sex strives to uplift itself at the expense of the other.

5.     Women are not ignorant of men, but what they know is often wrong.

6.     It’s the man’s game, but women go along to get along. They learn to hook up, link up, shack up, knock up, marry up, hurry up, frighten up, muck up, ‘fess up, split up, and pay up just as good as any man.

7.     He marries expecting her not to change, but she does. She marries expecting him to change, but he doesn’t.

8.     Women steal husbands and committed boyfriends and expect them to be faithful after rewarding them for infidelity.

9.     Earning and keeping a man’s devotion is more her job than his obligation. Women need a man more than the reverse.

10.            She kisses a frog. He becomes her prince. Then, she changes after they marry. She loses her servant’s heart and provides a queen-dominated hut.

These ‘fortitudinals’ provide themes or summarize posts. The paragraph numbers match the posts.  

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