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302. Her sexual history — Part 09


♂?♀  Her faulty reasoning: She seeks a man’s empathy or sympathy about her ex. Whatever she gains will be lost as he ponders about or imagines her sex with ex.

♂?♀  Uncovering her sexual history is masculine due diligence. Men want to know, but least is best.

♂?♀  Knowledge is vital to his future interests. What should arouse his suspicions? How can he estimate her potential and confirm her faithfulness? How should he react when encountering men who have laid with her?

♂?♀  Feminine intuition tops full-disclosure. While not easy, women have the skills and expertise to hide who, what, when, where, why, and how of what he doesn’t already know.

♂?♀  Former relationships may be known to her man, but no mention should be made or details disclosed. It’s taboo.

♂?♀  Women should plan and develop non-disclosure tactics long before a relationship begins.

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156. Her sexual history—Part 06


♀ He measures his manly prowess by her sexual worth after his conquest. Much of her retention value hinges on it. He wonders roundabout and over time: Who else conquered this woman, if she is to be anything more than a sex target to me?

♀ Extreme privacy about her sexual past serves her best, but it’s tough to keep. Women talk to unload their guilt or blame their ex. But friends sometimes disclose what they shouldn’t. (Women feel more guilt than men when relationships fail. It helps confirm that women are better relationship experts and managers.)

♀ Her mate wants to know of her past, but she should let him wonder. Ex-husbands are known as partners, of course, but all details should be verboten.  Non-husband partners count against her, so she only makes it worse even acknowledging those relationships. Even platonic male friends and acquaintances can be suspect. (On this subject, his imagination can run wild at the slightest hint of suspicion.)

♀ After split up and explaining to relieve guilt, she seeks both sympathy and empathy for her mistakes and her ex’s inadequacies. Encouragement by others to make her feel better confirms her rightness. Friends easily assign blame to her ex. Future lovers might too if she tells a compelling story, but it’s hazardous to their relationship health.

 

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137. Sex and the fickle girl—Part III


Wives cheat on husband and expect him to respond as women do. It does not work. When he cheats, she wants to know. When she cheats, he wants to go. This difference steers women into trouble. 

Ώ Women should be but are not haunted by this question: Does a younger thing attract a man away from his wife, or does his wife lose her ability to hold him, or does she drive him away? Women automatically blame him or his new trophy. Wives are always innocent, victimized, and flooded with peer empathy and sympathy to restore emotional letdown or breakdown.

Ώ Conquered women lack the allure of attractive unconquered ones. She may be a good lay or good wife or both, but the attractive and unconquered still attract him. To hold a man’s devotion, a woman must compensate for his giving up freedoms. Instead, modern women view as unfair this inequality in Nature. Thus, they lose focus on their natural abilities to capture and hold onto one man.

Ώ Successful marriage requires relationship management expertise. Women qualify as experts, but men don’t. Men are more culprit than polished for that.  Masculinity steers men toward other conquests and away from one woman. It takes an expert’s best efforts to overcome his hormonal urges. Once again, life ain’t fair, but women need men more than the reverse.

Ώ If a man acts as though he will not honor a woman’s desire to withhold and delay his conquest, then she has not imposed her dominance sufficiently well to quiet his. She’ll do better to back off, take a slower approach, and make him invest himself more deliberately—or just put him back in the parade.

Ώ The female gender has made itself politically, morally, and socially entitled to masculine-style sexual freedom. It’s a major cause of so much trouble keeping a man’s devotion. When many women act sexually unattached, wives too easily become suspect in the eyes of their man. He knows what other men are after. Can he be sure she’s different from other women? Consequently, casual sexual practices of the sisterhood poison faithful marriages.

[More about the fickle girl appears at post 93 and 34.]

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67. Exes, dumpees, and left behinds—Section I


Girls and women repeatedly spend time as ex-girlfriend, ex-lover, ex-live in, ex-wife. Whether searching, shacking up, or married, women repeatedly bounce from one misery to another interrupted frequently with love that doesn’t last and often with a new child. First with a guy and then without, and then with a guy and then without, and then….

Males are just males. Mothers, girls, and wives turn them into promising boys and mature men that please or displease females.

Every man expects he will be great as a mate—by masculine standards, that is. They must be taught otherwise, if female expectations are met.

Sexual encounters do not improve men, because sex neither bonds nor changes them for female advantage. The actions and reactions of women withholding intercourse teach men to adopt female-friendly behaviors and try harder to please females.

When there’s a shortage of unmarried sex all across society, it shapes masculine thinking toward goodness and what women appreciate. Trying to qualify for sex by searching for a female’s weaknesses, a man coincidentally learns about her non-sexual strengths and qualities of value to him. His love needs that base, if it’s to endure beyond the fading of lust, infatuation, and romantic love.

The presence of unmarried sex all across modern society shapes masculine thinking against what women appreciate. The ease of bouncing blossom to blossom lures men away from spending very much effort on females and especially the baggage-laden interests of one. Also, male dominance intensifies.

Modern women don’t rise to the challenge of relationship management required to succeed as a couple. Instead, they act less feminine, more masculine, and objectify themselves for trading in the sexual marketplace.

When relationship mistakes and failures become evident, she dumps him before he dumps her.

She recycles to the dreaded ex side of life. Her lament: ♫Where oh when ♫is my next boyfriend? She sighs and sponges up the sympathy and encouragement of her girlfriends. But the next hook up restarts the cycle.   

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