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773. The Blessings of Patriarchy — Chapter 2


·         Women are driven to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones. They need a brighter future for them and their children. By their very nature, however, nesting, nurturing, and nestling generate little wealth until kids become consumers and suppliers respond by creating more products aka wealth.

·         Women convert wealth into convenience to brighten their present day and security to brighten their future. It also helps ease the females’ ego-burden of male dominance. 

·         A woman can be employed outside the home and on the surface not need a man, but what happens in background? She still depends on men, because they remain in charge or they produce the preponderance of new wealth that uplifts society. Men dominate the workplace, and women seeking to climb career ladders copy masculine values and standards to succeed. So, male domination is unlikely to change.

·         Consequently, women need men to share existing wealth and keep creating it for sake of a growing economy that helps so much to fulfill female hopes and dreams.

Chapter 3 tomorrow introduces the Swap-meet.



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772. The Blessings of Patriarchy — Chapter 1

It’s a man’s view, but modern women need re-education about WHY they should mine the gold in patriarchy. I hope you stay for the whole show, uh, I mean epic. The chapters are Wealth, Women, Swap-meet, Men, and Rewards.


·        Men have the greater ability to create wealth; it’s embedded in their competitive nature. Women have the greater need for wealth; it’s embedded in both their need for a brighter future and primal fear of abandonment.

·        Wealth is anything of value to the owner, and creating more wealth stimulates the economy. The greater the wealth, the better off are the people and especially women and children.

·        Private ownership of wealth benefits everyone, provided it is distributed fairly—that is, everyone has equal opportunity to build, accrue, and own it. As we have it in America.

·        Natural male dominance makes men capable of denying, suppressing, and taking wealth from women. Consequently, females have to compensate to make men share for more than sex. We call it marriage.

Chapter 2 tomorrow describes the females’ interests.

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654. Quips from Mrs. Guy — #1

♦       Hot flashes yield to vitamin E, at least that’s the way it worked for me.

♦       Without ladies, we can have no gentlemen.

♦       Men use love to get sex. Women use sex to get love. The former blesses and the latter distresses females.  

♦       It took Guy 35 years to get me trained exactly as I want him.

♦       Gladness comes from giving, but mature women know that’s just plain living.

♦       Health is wealth.

♦       A favorite dessert makes even a preacher lay his bible down.

♦       It didn’t come to stay, it came to pass.

♦       When she gives it away, she doesn’t get it back.


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264. From feminine mystique to feminist mistakes—Part 5

Allow me to personalize the male and female natures as Manhood and Womanhood. I wish to describe traditional America before the 1960s.

Womanhood capitalized on male dominance instead of tearing it down. She supported Manhood’s dominance of society (what people do), while she took over dominance of the culture (why people do it).

Womanhood’s goal: One reliable man to help fulfill her dreams for nesting, nurturing, and nestling with loved ones. She sought stable marriage and family. She convinced Manhood to provide the wherewithal and do the hard labor. In return, she rewarded his husbanding and fathering.

She gained status and added personal stature by making herself very different and highly unique. She capitalized on gender differences and exploited the female nature. Her character was shaped around feminine mystique, female modesty, moral standards, marriage, monogamy, manners, virginity, virtual virginity, soft-heartedness inside and hard-headedness outside of marriage,  and whatever else would distinguish her from Manhood.

She taught daughters to mature first, love next, leave sex to marriage, and uplift manliness and masculinity as the way to fulfill female hopes and dreams.

In the process she earned Manhood’s unconditional respect for the female sex. The benefits grew through the decades. Womanhood changed cultural values and the social and domestic environments in such ways that the genders respected the opposite sex more than their own (e.g., my generation).

Womanhood developed American life into a family game. She emphasized separate but equal genders with cooperative rather than competing roles. In her eyes, good character and virtuous actions overwhelmed looks, interests, and words.

For over a century, Manhood was preoccupied on the job with technological and economic advancements. He dominated workplace and society. Gradually adopting wifely-inspired and family-friendly values, however, Manhood gradually yielded dominance of home and culture.

Family dominance was a toss up, but mostly it had the appearance of husband as head, wife as neck, and children as no more than adult-hopefuls. Womanhood accepted and parlayed this truism: Perceptions are reality, and whatever appears to be, is.

Manhood bought into the lifelong married life sought by Womanhood. Family responsibility guided husbands in the workplace and society. With laws, wealth, and leadership, husbands shaped America to his wife’s vision of family-centeredness.

Mutual respect grew as husbands implemented feminine values in society. Husbands in the workplace made America more family friendly. The beginning of the end, however, arose in the 1960s.

[More on old school America appears in posts 263, 238, 218, and 204 below. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following it.]

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256. Newlywed Bonding #6 — Blessings

Just the term ‘budgeting’ scares some people. Like other processes, however, it can be learned by experimenting and mastered through practice. Newlyweds have four strengths to guide them:

1.     Some income. (It’s usually not enough, so spending control can be critical to avoid great indebtedness just getting settled into marriage.)

2.     Mutual interest to have enough money for a good life together.

3.     Two different and talented minds operating with joint purpose to succeed in marriage. When those minds operate as one in financial matters, wealth grows.

4.     Mental flexibility. A spouse can suppress the urges for impulse buying, compulsive shopping, and instant gratification when they have something bigger to live up to—for example, rewards that flow out of budgeting rules designed to overwhelm such bad habits.

So, as newlywed couple, wherever you’re at, do the best you can with what you’ve got. Think control before spending instead of the reverse.

More follows in future posts.

[More about newlyweds appears at posts 256, 247, 242, 230 and 224. Scroll down or search by number with dot and space following it.]

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254. Newlywed Bonding #5 — Pain that heals

In our land of great wealth, many couples break up over financial troubles. Then, they do it again with someone else. Most just can’t learn what it takes to avoid financial instability and payday rape by creditors.

Some people avoid spending except when necessary. They rely on will power. They don’t succumb to impulses. They suppress whatever need they may have for immediate gratification. They build their lifestyle around necessities with few luxuries. Shopping has no allure. They value functionality over fashion, essentials over convenience, labor- and time-intensive over labor- and time-savers. The rest of us are different.

Here are some principles, beliefs, attitudes, convictions, and lessons that can help newlyweds step off on the right foot.

♂$♀  There will be never enough money until you have so much that ‘enough’ is never thought of.

♂$♀ Control of money will always be more important than amount available.

♂$♀  Control requires a decision process. We call it the pain that heals, or simply ‘budgeting’.

♂$♀  The budgeting process keeps a couple focused on improving their lives. With the force of self-imposed rules, it pushes them to do in the present, what they need for their future.

The list continues in forthcoming posts.

[More about newlyweds appears at posts 247, 242, 230 and 224. Scroll down or search by number with dot and space following it.]

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