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2059. Men are Never More Handsome….

At 2058 Her Highness Prettybeans said to me. “Men are never more handsome as when they continue in their tireless efforts to teach and encourage recovery among ladies. Thank you.” Thus, she gives me both a perfect payday and perfect opportunity to further explain men.

When a man does something he considers a responsibility or obligation, it may be nice but he doesn’t expect to be thanked. It’s his duty. It’s the flip side of an unearned gift. Moreover, in today’s world, thank you is as worn out in sincerity as “I apologize.” So men pay little attention to thank you. Unless of course it’s extended as part of a hug from a pretty woman, which makes what he hears even less relevant.

OTOH, surprisingly expressed indirect compliments work wonders. Even reading Prettybeans above, note that the sentence is flooded with meaning for me that makes “Thank you” virtually unnoticeable.

I propose you ladies learn to charm men in general by charming individuals of opportunity. Charm both known and unknown men with indirect compliments wrapped in female boldness that produces the feminine advantage that women long to have. The benefits come to women from the effects they have on the masculine mind.

My favorite indirect compliment is this: “Men are never more handsome than when they please a lady (for whatever they do).” Use it every time a man pleases you. Opens the door, seats you at table, lets you go ahead of him in a waiting line, husband does laundry or brings you flowers. It doesn’t matter. If a man pleases you, suggest that he just might be made more handsome for doing it. You like to be reminded that you’re pretty don’t you? Indirectness works best with men.

  • First, you have not hit on him. You merely used a surprisingly pleasant way of expressing gratefulness for manly conduct that pleases you as a woman. After the same man has heard it several times, the surprise may evaporate but the friendly reminder will only fade slightly if at all.
  • When you claim yourself as a lady a few times, you will benefit both yourself and set standards for men. Up to which men learn to step when convinced you are what you claim repeatedly.
  • The phrasing makes it sound routine for other men. Strangers read it that you are routinely pleased by other men and it generates uncommon friendliness. Men you know are encouraged to do more to stay ahead of their competitors and to keep you pleased with them.
  • Men love to be called handsome by women, but you didn’t call him that. You call him one of many. He has to infer that he’s included among the pleasers of women, which encourages more because of the success you surprise him with.
  • Although delivered directly, you pass an indirect compliment. He has to make it personal. If he’s handsome for pleasing you, then his male competitors are too. To compete better, he’s encouraged to please you and perhaps others as opportunities arise. He sees women as targets to uplift as unique and deserving of his ability to please. It’s a natural follow-on to his success among competitors. He only has to connect pleasing women to earning self-admiration to make him a better man in the eyes of females.

It works in writing, just as Prettybeans wrote to me above. But, ladies, if you want the full effect, do it this way. For example, a stranger speeds up to hold open the door for you to enter a public building. Halfway through or after the door closes, stop to gain his attention, smile sincerely, capture his eyeballs with yours, and BOLDLY say, “You know, (pause) men are never more handsome than when they please a lady.” And don’t say thank you. Just continue to smile and walk on with something like “Have a good day.”

He can’t just hear it either. His ears are not his primary sensor. Belief only comes when he sees your earnestness. Eye-to-eye displays feminine courage that men respect.

I understand you ladies can’t accept what I propose. It requires too much boldness among other sensibilities. Were I in your shoes, I probably wouldn’t think of such a thing. Remember, I’m pushing you no harder than showing an example. Primarily, I’m using it to explain the male mind. You have to figure out how to make men please you, as modern men don’t seem too eager except in pursuit of sex. Only women can train men to do the right thing as women see what is right. Most women think it’s right for them to be pleased and especially by men. That’s why I’m here to help.

I promise you this. Provided you do it boldly, smilingly, and with eyeballs locked with his when you say it, you will find significant pleasure in their reactions. You’ll recognize that you’ve charged them up with new pleasure and perhaps fascination in you. When a woman makes a man feel fantastic about himself, she assumes an aura of respectability that modern women lack.

What’s the effect on him? Think it through. You just convinced one man that ladies have standards up to which a man can easily find success, can find pleasure doing for others. To be more significant, to find more self-admiration, he only needs to please more women. How can that not be good? How can that not enhance the importance of a woman?

If you recall their natures, women are born to be good and men to do good. But women have to determine what is good for men to do. When men determine what is good, women find it mostly ‘ungood’ for them.

If women are ever to stop or even slow modern society’s slide from goodness toward evil, they must let men know that female standards not only exist but need to be honored. The way to gain honor is to encourage men to do good, specifically do what women expect. The simple “Men are never more handsome…” can jumpstart any woman’s contribution to pleasing men by pleasing herself to please men in ways that benefit Womanhood.




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643. Keepers for Keepers — Assortment 19

♦       Sex does not bond men. That’s why we have marriage vows to shift a man’s focus from crotch to conscience. [214]

♦       Long-term marriage boils down to this: She chose him. She’s the relationship expert. Experts choose carefully and make adjustments to live with what they buy in to. [227]

♦       Mature men devote themselves to what they perceive as a good woman, because most want to raise children.  [258]

♦       Typical adolescent-minded men think short term, dislike obligations, have little interest in children or raising them, always look for another ‘looker’, and promise commitment that has very short legs. [258]

♦       Religion and morality serve Womanhood. Spirituality tames masculine aggressiveness and imposes family responsibility. [279]

♦       If she yields to conquest, she may get dumped. However, he departs with definitely inflated ego. If she refuses first sex together, she may get dumped. However, he departs with deflated ego. [368]

♦       Feminism discourages male adoration of women. Femininity inspires it. [1]

♦       Intercourse stimulates a man’s conquering urge for the next score more than it obligates him to brighten a conquered woman’s future. [15]

♦       Males are just males. Mothers, girls, and wives turn them into promising boys and mature men that serve female interests. [67]


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533. Non-judgmental? Ha! Ha!

Women don’t know enough about the male nature, especially how the self-fulfilling prophecy impacts men. However respect is perceived, it breeds more of the same. (Why not? Soft-hearted mothers know intuitively to use SFP rearing their children.) Still, who teaches these three lessons?

1.     More respect shown to another, without their having to earn it, improves their respectful behavior; it also bounces back as enhanced respect for the originator. We quickly learn to like those that show us respect, and we wish not to disappoint them.

2.     Lack of respect both returns and spreads as less respect. Negative expressions are far more powerful, unforgettable, and contagious than positive reinforcements that compliment.

3.     Self-respect does much to govern one’s own behavior. Respect shown by others reinforces that which formed in childhood. The greater one’s self-respect, the more respect one has for and shows to others. So, mothers have a major role in breathing mutual respect into the social fabric. (The hand that rocks the cradle, etc.)

This two-part series opened and now closes with this thought: A man’s love is founded on unconditional respect of all females and conditional respect of individuals. The foremost thing he expects from his woman is respect demonstrated through actions as opposed to words. Her gratitude is next most important.

If Womanhood or individual women can’t or won’t show greater respect for the male gender and individual men, women can expect to be loved by men at some level of loyalty, dedication, and devotion below that which they expect or long for.


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264. From feminine mystique to feminist mistakes—Part 5

Allow me to personalize the male and female natures as Manhood and Womanhood. I wish to describe traditional America before the 1960s.

Womanhood capitalized on male dominance instead of tearing it down. She supported Manhood’s dominance of society (what people do), while she took over dominance of the culture (why people do it).

Womanhood’s goal: One reliable man to help fulfill her dreams for nesting, nurturing, and nestling with loved ones. She sought stable marriage and family. She convinced Manhood to provide the wherewithal and do the hard labor. In return, she rewarded his husbanding and fathering.

She gained status and added personal stature by making herself very different and highly unique. She capitalized on gender differences and exploited the female nature. Her character was shaped around feminine mystique, female modesty, moral standards, marriage, monogamy, manners, virginity, virtual virginity, soft-heartedness inside and hard-headedness outside of marriage,  and whatever else would distinguish her from Manhood.

She taught daughters to mature first, love next, leave sex to marriage, and uplift manliness and masculinity as the way to fulfill female hopes and dreams.

In the process she earned Manhood’s unconditional respect for the female sex. The benefits grew through the decades. Womanhood changed cultural values and the social and domestic environments in such ways that the genders respected the opposite sex more than their own (e.g., my generation).

Womanhood developed American life into a family game. She emphasized separate but equal genders with cooperative rather than competing roles. In her eyes, good character and virtuous actions overwhelmed looks, interests, and words.

For over a century, Manhood was preoccupied on the job with technological and economic advancements. He dominated workplace and society. Gradually adopting wifely-inspired and family-friendly values, however, Manhood gradually yielded dominance of home and culture.

Family dominance was a toss up, but mostly it had the appearance of husband as head, wife as neck, and children as no more than adult-hopefuls. Womanhood accepted and parlayed this truism: Perceptions are reality, and whatever appears to be, is.

Manhood bought into the lifelong married life sought by Womanhood. Family responsibility guided husbands in the workplace and society. With laws, wealth, and leadership, husbands shaped America to his wife’s vision of family-centeredness.

Mutual respect grew as husbands implemented feminine values in society. Husbands in the workplace made America more family friendly. The beginning of the end, however, arose in the 1960s.

[More on old school America appears in posts 263, 238, 218, and 204 below. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following it.]

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263. From feminine mystique to feminist mistakes—Part 4

The Cosby family and Ozzie and Harriett home exemplified on TV what our foremothers sought and achieved—albeit incompletely and imperfectly. These and similar shows are mocked today by feminists and political activists. Yet, real women before the 1960s were far happier and more successful than modern women when dealing with men.  

Womanhood split in the 1960s. Many women and young girls became radicalized and politicized by the sexual and cultural revolutions. They removed Womanhood from the driver’s seat of culture.

It cost women in many ways: They lost the unconditional respect of men for the female sex. They elevated unmarried sex and played to the manly game of irresponsibility for offspring. They devalued personal virtue and family integrity, and this led to family instability. They motivated men generally against marriage and spending a lifetime with the same woman.

Plus, one great unintended consequence: Women bashed men socially and attacked them legally and politically to tear down male dominance.

The effect: They restored male dominance to prominence. Men now put masculine interests for independence, toys, adventures, and trophies ahead of helping fulfill female hopes and dreams.

Men rather than women dominate cultural values today. It’s done primarily through the pop culture and compounds for the worse into each new generation.

Consequently, modern women and children lose more easily and dependably in this game we call life. Some women don’t know how, and others  won’t pay the price, to strengthen their family with a devoted husband and father.

[More on old school America appears in posts 238, 218, and 204 below. Scroll down or search by the number with dot and space following it.]

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165. Teen sex shapes adult life

It all starts and ends with teen sexual activity. That’s where individuals of both sexes partition their individual domains, develop their roles and mindsets about the opposite sex, and develop whatever dominating influence they will wield or lose in future relationships.

Hunks and popular boys learn they can dominate without special effort.

·         They attract the hotties and disdain the notties. This reinforces their natural preference for the attractive and the newly attractive that comes in view.

·         They get by with whatever they want to offer of themselves. Dominance succeeds with little effort. It’s a piece of cake, and such boys have a sweet tooth.

·         Relationships, girlish devotion, and sex come so easily that they don’t pay much attention to learning details about girls.

·         To get what they want, they please girls enough and let teen cultural values—largely determined by such boys—provide the rest.

·         These boys pass into adulthood with their minds made up about most things; they learn through success that little need exists to give in to females. Success breeds repetitive behavior.

Unpopular boys also learn there need be few limits to their domination of females.

·         They experience few if any relationships, so their ignorance grows.

·         They experience rejection or fearfulness, which induces uncertainty, bitterness, and even revenge.

·         Rejection and relationship failure reinforce a boy’s determination, and this strengthens his natural dominance in adult life.

Girls provide cheap sex.

·         They never compete with boys by withholding sex and thereby learn to earn masculine respect.

·         As women, they don’t know what else to do except survive as an ex until the next guy comes along.

·         Unless they undergo a personal renaissance, they never learn the lessons about males that virtual virginity teaches. (Other posts describe details about VirtVirgin.)

Virgins and virtual virgins learn new lessons with each boyfriend.

·         Competition to protect their virtue earns masculine respect, and the lessons for controlling male dominance sink in after a few boyfriends.

·         When they pass into womanhood, they have learned what they want from a man and how to get it. This includes being able to handle, negotiate, and accept what they can’t change about a man’s drive to dominate.

Consequently, teen sexual activity weakens female abilities two ways for living successfully with a man.

·         It enhances the intensity of adult male dominance.

·         It reduces female influence with men and a man.

Adult women don’t like this self-weakened status that they generated earlier in life. So, they fight back.

·         Adult men and women compete more openly and even radically instead of cooperating as couples.

·         Split ups become ever more prominent and popular as sexual freedom expands even into the youngest, pre-pubescent girls.

·         Worse is yet to come, as intensely male dominated households lose influence with daughters.


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