WWNH GLOSSARY

This is how I use the following terms.

  • A.D.D. for females — Affection Deficit Disorder coined as response to men’s complaints about female emotional expectations that are too high.
  • A.D.D. for males — Affection Delivery Disorder coined as response to women’s complaints about too little affection from their mates.
  • Adultolescent aka adult-adolescent — Physical adult and mental adolescent; they don’t mature completely beyond their teen years and live by those values and expectations.
  • Commitment — Exchange of promises to be loyal to one another as a couple.
  • Cowgirl up — Taking responsibility for one’s own female happiness.
  • Culture — Why we all do what we do in society. That is, the accumulation of values, standards, and expectations that control behaviors all across society.
  • Desperate female — She’s willing to do whatever it takes to have a boyfriend. She’s too direct, IOW she initiates too much.
  • Devotion — Used to describe men who have decided they can’t do without a particular woman. Gotta have her, gotta have her, gotta have her. She is the ultimate in feminine desirability, personal likeability, and ability to bring forth his loyalty to her. The signs of devotion are his actions that please him for pleasing her.
  • Directness — Initiating interaction with another person.
  • Disrespect — Not appreciated as a person, man or woman, or for the various roles they fill in life. No interest in their opinions. They deserve to be ignored, challenged in front of others, made to look bad, or their opinions differ. Or, they can’t pleasantly reciprocate love or respect.
  • Hard-to-get — She won’t yield sex but she’s willing to associate otherwise.
  • Her conquest — They marry before they have sex together the first time.
  • His conquest — She yields sex to him before they marry.
  • Indirectness — Reacting to another person’s actions or words.
  • Instinct — Subconscious decision making based on what a person inherits at birth.
  • Intuition — Conscious decision-making based on personality, experience, and expectation of success.
  • Family rank structure — Husband as chairman, wife as CEO, mother as COO of the home, father as executive backup to mother, and then kids according to age. Each person is responsible and reports to the adult role shown immediately to the left of it for both support and performance of duty. (Business terms are used merely to clarify with familiar terms just how successful relationships function.)
  • Family functional roles — Head, neck, heart, and soul. Husband fills the first and last roles. Wife fills the two center roles. Each occupier of a role reports to the one to the left
  • Female nature — As God designs, Nature endows, and hormones energize females at birth and they are programmed through infant care until the conscious mind opens in the third year of life.
  • Femininity — The opposite of Feminism, and both terms are capitalized to stress it. Femininity summarizes the nature of female instinct, intuition, qualities, and relationship abilities that most closely and clearly attract men for permanent relationships. The practice of Femininity gives women a unique advantage unavailable to men and feminist-oriented women.
  • Feminism — The opposite of Femininity, and both terms are capitalized to stress it. As used in this blog, Feminism is divided into two parts. Included here are the social and domestic situations and interactions. Excluded from the blog are all the legal, political, and economic benefits and ramifications of female advancements and contemporary feminist thought.
  • Full disclosure — Holding nothing back—especially sexual history—while revealing one’s experience and disclosing their personality to a potential mate,.
  • Gender — Synonymous with sex to identify males and females.
  • Harmonize — Emotional attachment, mutual acceptance, and interpersonal agreement such that family members are grateful for family and each other. Their deeper feelings keep them compatible in spite of emotional disturbances.
  • Indirectness — Generating influence with hints, wishes, and planting of seeds followed by significant patience and mystery. Particularly suitable for the female nature and opposite of more direct masculine communication.
  • Infant, infancy — The stage of childhood before the conscious mind opens in the third year and children discover they too are persons.
  • Leadership — Influencing one’s mate to get one’s way. The male nature favors directness; the female nature favors indirectness.
  • Lessons learned — The changes made in the male and female natures by developing new habits and practices that accumulate as one goes through childhood and beyond.
  • Likeable/likeability —  The appeal and desire to be in the presence of someone as one’s mate.
  • Male nature — As God designs, Nature endows, and hormones energize males at birth and they are programmed through infant care until the conscious mind opens in the third year of life.
  • Manipulation — Disingenuousness that crowns a person’s motivational energy. Manipulation summarizes the skills and results of purposely tricking someone by using devious, deceitful, and disrespectful methods.
  • Man’s love — She’s so likeable that he pledges his loyalty to her whenever he detects that she finds him equally likeable and pledges her loyalty to him, which then prompts his loyalty to turn to her exclusively. Now, he loves her.
  • Marrying Man — A man not on the prowl for sex but seriously interested in finding the right woman to marry.
  • Nature — Purposely capitalized to distinguish it as the great instigator, driver, and governor of life on earth, IOW Mother Nature. It’s the macro that differs from the micro nature of the sexes and individuals.
  • Nurture — Repeated displays of appreciation and affection as one traditionally gives infants and older children who suffer hurts and inflictions they can’t handle. Try to make kids feel better about themselves by showering them with adult adoration.
  • Persona — One’s personality plus their roles in life and situations
  • Refuse sex — Decline on grounds that don’t make it personal to the guy; e.g., “My parents/religion/self-respect/moral standards do not allow it. I can’t go against myself.
  • Reject sex — Decline in a way that he takes it personal; e.g., he concludes that he’s not good enough.
  • Relationship — A man and woman being addressed as a couple with common interests.
  • Relationship expertise — It summarizes the group of gender-unique skills that enable females more successfully than men to promote, protect, and preserve relationships. Women are born with the potential for expertise; men are not and are hampered against easy learning.
  • Respect — A feeling or attitude of admiration and deference toward somebody or something; the state of being admired deferentially. To those dictionary words, I would add being appreciated and trusted; recognized as an authority on some or many subjects; looked up to as source of wisdom, guidance, dependence, help, responsibility, mental stimulation, and perhaps mental nourishment.
  • Self-admiration — What men need and pursue throughout life. It’s the prime motivator of males; it energizes their ambitions and leads to accomplishment and the satisfaction that follows.
  • Self-centeredness — The practice of putting one’s interests ahead of that of others. Like self-interest, it’s normal, natural, and universal.
  • Self-dedication — The ambitious pursuit of specific parts of one’s self-interest, e.g., she decides emphatically that she will not marry until after college. Or, she will remain chaste until marriage.
  • Self-development — The drive that permeates the spirit of children beginning as toddlers after their conscious mind opens in the third year of life. Boys favor doing things where they can accomplish and achieve and preferably independent of unwanted guidance. Girls seek to make themselves important and welcome guidance most of the time.
  • Self-esteem — How a person likes himself or herself—not as man or woman—but as a person. It’s hardwired as the result of infant care before the conscious mind opens in the third year of life. It remains unalterable for life. (Most references to self-esteem (it’s permanent) are more correctly labeled as self-image (it’s temporary and varies with daily events).
  • Selfish — Self-centeredness that imposes one’s interest ahead of that of others.
  • Self-gratitude — Unshakable belief that she’s a woman of great worth, strength, and potential. Self-love, with which women are born, fuels her ability to prove her importance to others, which compounds to enlarge her self-gratitude, which is an essential first step toward happiness.
  • Self-image — The picture one has of himself or herself as man or woman and their place and value in society. It governs a person’s life. To act contrary to one’s picture of who and what they are causes mental turmoil, aka cognitive dissonance, which forces or tortures them to match up better their heart and mind into a clearer and more reliable picture of self to live with and within. (If they can’t get that match up, cognitive dissonance causes their picture to deteriorate from shortage of self-gratitude and happiness for women and self-satisfaction and significance for men.)
  • Self-importance — It’s the prime motivator of females, what women need and chase the most. It energizes their ambitions to earn affirming feedback from those with whom they deal in and out of relationships. Self-importance is the reciprocal of her gratitude for others; IOW the more gratefulness she feels for others, the greater her sense of self-importance — and vice versa.
  • Self-interest — It’s the universal motivator, the totality of one’s interest in life. That is, the accumulation of internal and external pressures that motivate them to do whatever they do.
  • Selflike — It’s a subset of self-image that develops after the child’s conscious mind opens and they become aware in their third year that they are also a person.
  • Self-love — How a woman appreciates herself as a good person first and more than however she senses herself as a woman. They are born with self-love but the male equivalent is self-respect.
  • Selfrespect — How a man appreciates himself as a person of dignity, worth, and integrity. Men are born with self-respect as a person capable of doing good first and however he senses himself as a man second. The female equivalent is self-love.
  • Self-talk — The private conversations that a person has within himself or herself.
  • Self-worth — Regard and value one places on themselves as a person, man or woman, and mixed in with their roles in life. It’s their value in their surroundings, their world. It makes self-esteem seem—but not actually—to rise and fall. Changes in self-worth change one’s self-image, which governs their behaviors.
  • Sex/sexes — Synonymous with gender to identify men and women
  • Society — What we all do as we live. The result of the actions, words, and interactions of everyone in society.
  • Superteen — A child from age 18 to 21
  • Teen — From puberty until age 18
  • Toddler — The child after the conscious mind opens in the third year and until they enter first grade.
  • Tweens — Children between first grade and puberty
  • Virtual virginity — The practice of withholding sex until a male perceives a female’s quality as a person, admires her feminine virtue, and she earns sufficient respect that his love blossoms. Hopefully, it turns into sufficient promise of her as a mate and he seeks marriage.
  • Virtue — Qualities of a woman that a particular man admires; sexual matters are but a small part of the overall picture one man has for a highly preferred woman.
  • WADWMUFGAO — It is a major part of the universal motivator of self-interest and stands for ‘we all do what makes us feel good about ourselves’.

 

 

 

 

One response to “WWNH GLOSSARY

  1. Shermy

    YAY!!!!! Love it!

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