2395. PROVERBS — Sex 04


  1. Men are born naturally self-convinced of their sexual ability to perform excellently. They’re difficult to change, and only highly respected women can.
  2. Men have two independent sexual urges. 1) To conquer sexually attractive females they think possible. 2) To have frequent and convenient access to sex.
  3. The hunter-conqueror’s primary sex urge motivates a man to conquer attractive women, who then become either keeper, booty, or disposable.
  4. Of men’s two sexual urges, to conquer for first-time sex is strongest. The second urge is the most promising for women to satisfy and overcome the first.
  5. Women have this natural understanding: To capture and keep a mate by satisfying his urge for frequent and convenient access. Lose the obligation and lose him.
  6. Lovemaking comes in three acts: foreplay, intercourse, and after-play. The first and last—if done ‘right’—satisfy women and the middle satisfies men.
  7. When women are not regularly fulfilled in both foreplay and after-play, they can’t convince themselves that intercourse makes their man a lover.
  8. Loving her means greater arousal than intercourse alone generates. Foreplay arouses her with an eager heart, after-play pleasingly confirms her importance.
  9. Women need intimacy; men don’t. After sex, sustained holding, cuddling, and affectionate whispers confirm her importance and worth to him.
  10. Except as one well-respected woman convinces him to ignore his urge to conquer other women, he’s free to move on after each target is conquered.

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2394. PROVERBS — Marriage 04


  1. Drop or compensate for impulse buying, compulsive shopping, and immediate gratification. It earns self-respect and shows respect for hubby.
  2. Men by nature have little or no interest in nesting, nurturing, or nestling. They have to be taught before puberty by females.
  3. Men by nature have little or no interest in intimate cuddling/snuggling after sex. They learn it from females and adapt best when pleasing her pleases him.
  4. Men escape being parented when they leave their childhood home. They won’t accept it by a wife and especially not in front of others.
  5. Men have multiple missions and work hard to accomplish goals; daily they work, rest, recover, and prepare for tomorrow’s battles with their dragons.
  6. Men marry to ‘own’ frequent and convenient access to sex. Except as his imagination determines otherwise, all vaginas are alike, so she has to be unique.
  7. New school moral relativism breeds abuse and violence of men against women and children. The evil impulses of mankind escape and evade control by individuals.
  8. Only repeated egregious actions by her man shatters her hopes and dreams and, consequently, love. Normally, she’s resilient to his flaws.
  9. Other then connected to sex, women expect to hear affection expressed in multiple ways and need it demonstrated on frequent occasions.
  10. Promiscuously experienced boys make poor mates. Their expectations revolve around sex, and it promotes that more than mate as person/woman/wife/mother.

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2393. PROVERBS — Sex 03


  1. Women have a primary motivation for sex, the expectation of significant intimacy. Meanwhile, men enter it seeking to confirm dominion of a female.
  2. A guy may take a woman to orgasm, but it’s not the same thing as great lovemaking. Lengthy arousal before and intimacy after intercourse trump orgasm for most women.
  3. About her sexual history, the smartest women neither complain nor explain. They disclose the absolute least possible, because men harshly judge such info.
  4. After conquest, the man takes ownership of their sexual agenda if he has lingering interest in keeping her available for more.
  5. After-play intimacy depends on a satisfying ritual of holding, hugging, snuggling, and confirming her importance with kisses and whispers.
  6. Arousal has different sources in foreplay, intercourse, and after-play. He’s in charge; he’s as good a lover as she enjoys sustained periods of arousal.
  7. Arousal is that exhilarating thrill of female sensuousness that arises and is sustained by continuous physical contact that if sustained can lead to orgasm.
  8. Female promiscuity poisons the social marketplace. The de-civilizing effect on males weakens cultural standards by females and de-domesticates males.
  9. Guys don’t think they need it, but there’s room for improvement if they become better informed of how the female body works and responds to a man’s stimulation.
  10. His unstoppable urge is penetration and mission accomplished. His climax will likely occur without regard for what she does. It’s his primal sex urge acted out.

 

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2392. PROVERBS — Sex Differences 04


  1. He competes as a matter of his nature. She senses that competing with him before marriage and cooperating afterward protect her interests that change.
  2. Women do not need a man, but they want help to be ready in difficult times. Men enjoy it when they can rescue a woman, but it isn’t the same.
  3. Women need a brighter future for them and theirs, and trusting husbands leave it for wives to anticipate, cooperate, plan, and coordinate.
  4. Women naturally act as if they need and can depend on a specific man, much more than the reverse. The compliment seduces him to favor her interest.
  5. Women want help when they need it in a world they can’t dominate, but men leave it for women to handle until women depend on their man.
  6. Women work to love. Men love to work. Else, neither makes a compatible mate.
  7. Women are born pretty. Men are born handy. Mates that perceive each other that way promote compatibility.
  8. She fears abandonment the most. He mostly fears insignificance. As wife fails to uphold husband’s sense of significance, she flirts with abandonment.
  9. She’s motivated to seek self-importance. He’s motivated to seek self-admiration. Acceptance and confirmation by one’s mate makes both more worthy.
  10. He wants independence both inside and outside a relationship. She wants togetherness both inside and outside whatever their ‘arrangement’.

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2391. PROVERBS — Singles 04


  1. Feminism and Femininity are mutually exclusive. The former attracts women; the latter attracts men. Trying to blend a couple tends to exclude compatibility.
  2. Feminism dilutes mutual respect and makes unconditional respect (e.g., chivalry) practically non-existent within a couple. It’s a compatibility toxin.
  3. Feminism makes women think more like men, especially ‘me before you’ and ‘me before us’. Thus, they lose their natural expertise for holding a man.
  4. Feminists claim female independence as a woman’s right. Men let them have it and welcome the watering down of family responsibility and accountability.
  5. Flower gifts to men indirectly inflict guilt that her money was wasted at his cause. But, if it pleases her….
  6. Girls and women who play hard-to-get know what they do. Those who don’t do it teach males to benefit by using their own hard-to-get model, e.g., players.
  7. Girls don’t condition boys to respect females and domesticity, but they either help along the process that moms start or men don’t have it.
  8. Hard-headed feminine gentleness born out of her soft-hearted nature beguiles males. It adds to both her mystique and influence, because she’s so unlike men.
  9. Former relationships may be known to her man, but no mention should EVER be made or details disclosed about ex-boyfriends or ex-husbands.
  10. He practically begs to know her sexual history. He uses it to expect her sexual fidelity with him and may use it against her in disputes. Non-disclosure works best.

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2390. PROVERBS — Marriage 03


  1. Ardent femininity by older women encourages youngsters to duplicate what they see and hear. Masculinized women confuse young girls.
  2. Boyhood freedom from womanly influence promotes greater male disregard for females. Female independence worsens it.
  3. By listening to mom and grannie, girls learn to improve on their ability to tame and harness male dominance into fulfilling female hopes and dreams.
  4. Experience with many easy-pushover girls teaches boys this: Females don’t deserve respect, token commitment works, and devotion is unnecessary.
  5. Four conditions characterize male love. She’s likeable to him. He’s loyal to her. He’s likeable to her. She’s loyal to him. Otherwise, love is too risky for him.
  6. Guilt powerfully motivates women but men not nearly as much. Laying guilt on a husband produces unintended consequences, usually bad for wife.
  7. He marries a trophy to start over, raise a new child with a mother young enough to provide most of the care, and seek easier acceptance of his dominance.
  8. Her power thrust in his face offends him into reaction and winning. However, her well-controlled internal strength is admired and considered a virtue.
  9. The wedding signified she was satisfied with him. He expects her not to change. If she shows dissatisfaction, it drives his thoughts to other options.
  10. If you can’t budget, you can’t plan effectively. You need only choose what keeps spending below income and makes savings a lifetime commitment.

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2389. Stay-at-home as Her Career


Her Highness Curlyblondy described her anguish with these questions: “I too am wondering if being a housewife is “enough.” … I know you say not to justify ourselves to others, but I must be able to do so to myself. What is a girl to think or do?”

DIAGNOSIS: You have a problem common to modern women. You value the opinions of others more than your own, and find that you’re not grateful for the marvelous creation that God, Nature, and hormones presented so the rest of us can enjoy your company and association when you’re being yourself instead of someone else.

SYMPTOMS: You listen to men and mentors and come up guilty. You compare what you feel compelled to do and come up short with others because they are employed differently but not necessarily better. Others presume to know your potential, and you give them credibility. What is or could be doing ‘your share’ —fair, equal, or lazy as TeeTee was told—and can it be measured or left to opinion? You believe men when they say they’d prefer housekeeping to employment, but the ounce of truth is too small to be believed. Why do you owe those things to anyone other than your mate?

MOTIVATION: We are all motivated by self-interest, which translates for women as need for self-importance and men as need for self-admiration. Your self-importance is earned as you find gratefulness in what you do and in the people with whom you associate. A man’s self-admiration flows out of the challenges he accepts and the self-satisfaction that flows out of his dutiful accomplishments.

PRESCRIPTION: Quit thinking with your mind and that of others and start listening to your heart. It will advise you how to integrate and handle the following and many other factors in your life. How will you harmonize these things?

  • What are your long-range hopes and dreams? They were probably formed just before puberty, so do you still want the same or something else? How do you modify them to fit current expectations? Where are you headed and not how will you get there?
  • As the relationship expert with a man, just how do you propose to keep yourself on track to fulfill your hopes and dreams as modified under his influence? By being someone else or by being yourself? The latter works much, much better.
  • Guesstimate your potential by how you intend to sacrifice your self-interest on behalf of your present, intended, or hopeful mate. Review what principles you live by, and those you expect to continue.

As stay-at-home housewife, how will you generate and harmonize a compatible marriage? Dream, plan, and promise yourself about where you are going and not how to get there. How will you:

  • Compete with him before marriage to discover just who and what he is? Then, how will you convert to be the cooperative spouse required to succeed after the altar?
  • Handle hubby’s want of independence with your want of having a mate to promote/provide/protect/produce on your behalf?
  • Satisfy your drive to nest, nurture, and nestle with loved ones with his need for a place to flop, eat, throw his things, and prepare to fight dragons tomorrow?
  • Find ways to brighten your future by coaching/encouraging his advancements and significance in society?
  • Learn to appreciate that his sense of satisfaction at accomplishing things—endorsed by your pride in him—is more vital than affection as you like to express it?
  • Provide husband with respect that promotes his importance in both his outside world and your life together in the home?
  • How will you match his need for functionality in his castle with your need for fashion or taste in your nest?
  • Balance giving him the privilege of ruling over your present-day affairs in return for his granting you the same privilege regarding future life together?
  • Keep from belittling him or his efforts that signify your disrespect for his significance (aka ego)?
  • Deal with him if and when he shows unacceptable respect for you as person, woman, wife, mother, lover, or friend?
  • Manage your own feelings such that husband knows he doesn’t rank second in his wife’s heart, and kids don’t think they rank second in mom’s heart.

You have to aim yourself toward what you want and not focus on what you don’t want. For example, let yourself be guided by this adage: He rules the roost but she rules the rooster. It sounds too simple, but it’s the long range effect. It happens when a couple works out and she harmonizes their compatibility issues into mutual respect, appreciation, and influence that solidifies mutual likeability and loyalty.

 

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