I’ve undergone a change in my thinking. I’ve been touting that men want to marry a virtuous woman. Refreshing my thinking, I think that applied in old school. Modern men want to marry a fascinating woman. But only the name has changed, because virginity has been downgraded from virtue, which made all virtue unimportant to think about.
Virtuous and fascinating effectively mean the same thing to a man. He sees admirable qualities within a woman and each becomes a virtue to him although he doesn’t name it that way; she just is. As he perceives more qualities and learns to admire them, virtues accumulate. Her admirable qualities fire his imagination and confirm her likeability; he finds satisfaction with himself in her company.
Instead of him thinking of her in virtuous terms, he thinks of her as fascinating enough to devote himself to pleasing her regularly. It sets the hook for a trip to the altar. But he still has to perceive significant promise for her to improve his present life and help fulfill his ambitions and goals. All that before he hooks himself by proposing and then falls in line with what she and her mother plan for the wedding.
I was recently captivated by an old school movie I’d never seen. The producer must have caught the censors napping. It’s much unlike other flicks from 1953. Not dirty but virginity is discussed, and it seems mild by today’s standards.
Darling of a fictional heroine, never-famous Maggie McNamara is given a superlative role and plays it beautifully. Heavyweight casting against her. She’s up against William Holden and David Niven in The Moon is Blue.
Her directness works very well in the movie; it’s entertaining. But in real life, I don’t think women could get by with it. I don’t suggest her character as role model, but recommend the movie just to enjoy an unusual story told very well about a different kind of woman.
I couldn’t find it on Netflix but didn’t look elsewhere.
421. Husband may forgive, but he can’t forget. Feminists claim that women need no forgiveness for previous love and sex interests. But, to men, it’s neither love nor forgiveness that counts. It’s her screwing other men, bending to the will of his competitors, and who knows when she may do it again? 
422. Her sexual history is best kept secret. In any event, she should never disclose any detail. The first detail will ignite his curiosity for more, followed by his imagining the worst about everything she does not disclose. He will likely pump her for more info, or resentment will accumulate within his ever-active imagination. (Resentment can kill the likeability that is so critical to compatibility.) 
423. Females learn the most and best lessons by insisting on retaining virginity, both real and virtual. Keepers don’t dump a woman over that. If he won’t honor her wishes before conquest, he’ll do worse afterward. 
424. He strives to get her to yield sex. She seeks his acceptance of something more important. The battle of the sexes revolves around the subsequent battle of wits and wills. It takes a lengthy, likeable, and complimentary courtship to convert him to her way of thinking. 
425. She’s of high interest to him. Her insistence on remaining virgin-like injects and stirs uneasiness and uncertainty into his manly desire. It pressures him into the passenger seat of their relationship. He tries harder to earn the driver’s seat by proving himself worthy and acceptable for sex. If he still can’t earn acceptance into the driver’s seat by conquering her, he either hops out of the car or accepts whatever greater ‘price’ she expects. 
426. If she doesn’t yield and he dumps her anywhere along the courtship trail, she escapes with a higher sense of self-worth. He was not a keeper, and she found it out without losing the battle of wills. 
427. Her refusals to yield earn a man’s maximum respect. Men respect will power and hers tops his best will and effort. 
428. If he dumps her for not yielding, she earns the maximum self-respect regardless of what he says to the contrary. It’s also good practice for her. 
429. Mr. Good Enough’s love will be based on respect for her. The greater her self-respect, the greater her ability to sustain his respect. 
430. Her gentle but firm refusals to yield indirectly tame his masculine ego and condition his dominant nature to accept her as a power to be reckoned with. It brightens her future, polishes her self-image, enhances her self-interest, and promises more worthiness as his potential mate. Thus, women move closer to their dreams and goals by protecting their real and virtual virginity. 
411. Using sex to capture a boyfriend is easy. Sex infatuates boys, but it does not bond men. Thus, unmarried sex paves the road to ex-girlfriend, -lover, -live in, or -wife. 
412. Women have no greater direct influence on their own personal world than when they refuse to provide unmarried sex. Yielding weakens their influence and determination and it enhances the guys’ dominating spirits. 
413. Women have two major windows in which they can by design change their man: A long courtship before they first have sex and years later in marriage after Nature softens his heart. Both periods, however, require patience, indirectness, and feminine charm. 
414. Women reject a long and chaste courtship. They prefer the joys of sex—or to have a boyfriend. They bypass the opportunity to make sure he’s Mr. Good Enough with potential for Mr. Right after a couple of decades of marriage. Taking the road of sex instead of opportunity, she feels greater pressure to ‘fix his faults’ soon after they marry, It’s a sure-fire way to push him toward other arms. 
415. Women want to change their man after marriage but find that they can’t. The male nature resists her pressures to change, except as a woman delays his premarital conquest and stimulates him to more deliberately earn her. As he explores her for weaknesses that may lead them to bed, he uncovers and admires other qualities. Admired qualities become virtues, which morph into fascination that holds his interest in her. 
416. A long sex-free courtship resolves uncertainty about a man’s character and potential for successful marriage. Most men reveal their true character when facing a woman’s hard-headed and continuing delays for their first sex together. But, women are in charge of courtship only as long as it remains platonic (although men easily yield wedding prep control). 
417. A simple test of a man’s devotion: With his actions, he honors her interest ahead of his own. If, however, he continually pleases her at the expense of his manly dreams or obligations, she will lose respect for him and he will eventually become dumper or dumpee. 
418. Spill her guts and end up in ruts. Her status regarding virginity and details about her love life are personal and, if known to her man, will likely be used against her sometime, someplace, somehow when she least expects it. 
419. Knowing her sexual history, suspicion sprouts from her man’s imagination when future troubles plague their relationship. She may not even recognize it, because the questions and consequences arise in his mind. As Einstein said: Imagination is greater than knowledge. 
420. Husband may run into one of her former love interests. What to do? How to avoid? Will he know for sure? How was their sex? What does the other guy think about the woman he passed on to husband? Is she still interested in the ex? Competitors want to know such things. 
- Men appreciate female virtue and women appreciate masculine character as most promising for a good life together. Virginity ranks highest and near-virginity ranks next on the virtue scale. Personal responsibility ranks highest on the character scale.
- Men are the bricks of society and women are the mortar. Bricks don’t weep, but mortar often does. Socially conditioning boys to cry weakens them as adult bricks. The mortar hardens automatically to compensate, and confusion follows when relationship strains and stresses arrive.
- She does not love being a female, but she expects to keep one man around. Nature places heavy odds against it happening.
- Managers tell people HOW to do their job. Leaders tell people WHAT to do. When leaders can’t distinguish between their two roles and act accordingly, they generate poor morale.
- Women like men to open doors for them to enter first. A man’s good character shines brighter when he holds open doors and displays other courtesies for all females.
- Don’t be so quick to want rules about flirting and other male-female interactions. Rules bypass individual natures and turn people toward phoniness. Not good for making relationships last.
- Necessity is the mother of invention. Frustration is the father of both invention and all cuss words.
- When women don’t appreciate and highlight manly courtesies, men grow indifferent to qualities that females like to see in men.
- If she doesn’t like herself very well, men over time have difficulty liking her.
- Her neatness captures his attention as prelude for displays of affection. Female sloppiness short-circuits the connection.
- Raised without a father figure in their home, immodesty and immorality among girls should be excused out of ignorance. Mom’s lessons don’t impact clearly without girls seeing dad’s daily reactions, standards, and dictums.
- The ultimate power of virginity lies with unconditionally forgiving masculine attempts to conquer it. It keeps men trying and enables her to screen more discreetly. Once the virgin yields, the power to resist new conquerors wanes but can be effectively restored with virtual virginity, by prioritizing thoughts above emotions.
- Modern day politics and feminist theory persuade females that males are undeserving of female respect. Consequently, men operate as if one woman will not maintain a home to his satisfaction, another will. Or, he can do it himself in the interim.
Attention mothers of teenagers: A new study is out about bingeing both sex and drink in college coed dorms. Some details are at:
Ladies, watch this one closely: Relationships revolve around respect, and she’s in charge. She initiates and he responds. She has to show her respect and also earn his.
♦ Men don’t respect females as they respect men or as women hope to be respected.
♦ Men may take a liking to a woman on first encounter, but they don’t respect her automatically as she expects. He may acquiesce to her wishes, but it equates more to duty and hope than respect.
♦ Women have a huge advantage over men. As a respect-earner, nothing either gender has or does works better than females withholding unmarried sex.
♦ The longer she holds off for sex, the greater the respect she earns. The closer to virginity she appears, the more respectable she is to conqueror, serious suitor, and discouraged player.
♦ A man loves a woman, but she sees few signs that she’s respected. To his competitive nature, showing respect directly weakens his presentation of Self. He reacts more to his nature than to her expectations. It’s also why men must be taught to be gentlemanly, and why high quality females aka ladies must set the example.