A man emailed me the following. I got his permission to share it with you ladies.
Trever said:
While I dont necessarily disagree with anything on your site, I think you take a lot of time to repeat the same basic points. If it means anything I’d like to share the number one concept I got from reading a couple hundred pages.
As a man, I need to stop whining about all the bad girls out there and start trying harder to find some of the good ones, rare as they may be.
Your site has helped a great deal in wording exactly what I wanted but didnt know how to describe. Perhaps in the future when I talk to women I can spend less time on sports, politics & weather instead focus more on how she feels about things, specifically society and how she see’s herself fitting in it. I learned a long time ago any girl who thinks she’s too cool for society is completely full of it and in addition to deluding herself, will also likely be trouble for me in the future. Now that I have a better idea of what I really need, it should be a little easier to go find it.
I doubt you care much, but for reference I was born in 79 and growing up in the 80’s I didnt know how close I was to the feminine backlash. The attacks women made against American men, and the backlash society as a whole made against the women who sought change. Since I grew up with these supposedly liberated women I had no idea there was anything else, certainly not something I could like more. But as the years went on I realized there was indeed something better and it was being squashed underneath a wave of stupidity and self-indulgence which was equally abused by both modern men and post-modern women. Am 31 now and as I look around at the females I realize they are not sexually liberated, sophisticated or enlightened. They are just foolish little girls acting like the worst kind of women, a bad combination all around. Especially so once they start having kids and/or getting married.
Since I didnt grow up with the 70’s feminist women I dont know if they were good, bad or just plain crazy, but I grew up with the young girls they had and after 30 years I can honestly say I am not impressed. And I darn sure dont want any of them to have a part of my life. My only issue now is trying to find women who have moved on to the new feminism. I am sure you get this question a lot, but are there places where a guy like me can go and have a better chance of meeting such women? I dont seem to recall too much advice specifically aimed at men in your articles. Not complaining since the whole theme of the site is about telling women truths they dont wish to hear. Obviously bars and clubs are out. I never heard of one happy couple meeting at a meat show. The places which would have been obvious choices years ago (library, book store) are mostly filled with moms and kids, not single young ladies.
Thanks so much for listening to my rant. A couple years ago it would have been more angry but now that I know how to deal with things better my rants are much more focused and acknowledge the potential for happiness.
Your new reader,
Trever
What Women Never Hear 
Trever makes a good point and raises a good question. Where do guy his age meet women? I am long out of the dating market, but work with younger women who are looking for good men. All I ever hear about is fix up meetings or bar meetings. Aside from the obvious church or the gym, where do people that age meet each other?
Your Highness Jen,
Welcome aboard. Always glad to have pretty women join us. Good questions too. I don’t have answers, but I offer alternatives for the typical female.
Men should find her. Dress up, make up, and perky up to make herself shine as femininity personified. Don’t follow the latest fashions but create her own neat but non-radical style.
Quit looking to meet someone. Her attitude gives her away. The more she copies male styles, latest female fashions, and circulates with the pop crowd, the less she appears as a potential permanent feature in a relationship. She may feel more comfortable, but men see the pop crowd only as sex targets. If she can’t change male minds about that, she can’t expect to capture much more than a sex partner.
Females that copy their female sisters appear ordinary. Men seek to marry an extraordinary woman.
Every waking hour she looks dressed up and equipped to fill all female roles with charming mystery as bachelorette, friend, wife, cook, mother, listener, lover, girlfriend, non-careerist, and others. She outshines other females in the simple things that attracts men for more than sex.
OTOH, when she goes out to attract men, she comes across easy, cheap, or desperate. It’s an attitude so readable by men who seek the opposite. Men want a woman that makes herself attractive for no one else but herself, which translates to mean all men and not just one. He’s on top when he captures the woman that other men want for more than just sex.
She’s full of self-respect and spends much time maximizing her attractiveness. She appears to withdraw from circulation and immediate involvement. When she does that, she appears as an unattainable target for serious rather than temp sex relationship. Unattainable means challenging to men, and a man’s unsatisfied conquering urge brings out his true character.
Men look for sex and easily commit in order to have frequent and convenient access. They devote themselves when a woman appears different, distinctively unavailable, defiant to his conquering urges, and he has to prove himself worthy of her. When she goes looking to meet men, he doesn’t see what leads to his devoting himself to one woman.
Guy
This may or may not be helpful for Trevor but our eldest son recently became engaged to a terrific girl on Christmas Eve. We are so delighted with her. Our son met her at their University but she is originally from Hong Kong. Yes, those Asian women tend to be very feminine. She also shares his Christian faith which is crucial. Our son is a strong young man with high ideals and a strong work ethic both of which were an important part of attracting his delightful wife-to-be.
I am a firm believer that you must be the right kind of person to attract the right kind of people; be they good friends or lifelong spouses.
Jill Farris
Trever,
No, the ‘meat’ markets (clubs, gyms) aren’t the best places to meet girls; although some of them are just along w/friends at times when they just want something to do. I know because I’ve been there. I do not nor have I ever frequented them, only went on occasion. It would infuriate some of the girls, however, because I stood out and received attention and they did not. I was dressed the way I wanted to dress (i.e., I was myself) and I never took on the way in which they dressed (i.e., I refuse to have cleavage popping out of my shirt, etc.).
That said, I met my guy at work and not at a club. Most women who are in the clubs are confused as to where to find a good man, and many are confused as to how to be a feminine woman. You may or may not want to hear it, but church is an excellent place to meet single women. I know it sounds like the same old thing; but even if the girl you are looking for isn’t in that particular church, you may meet someone who knows someone who is the girl for you. And in many churches, the youth organizations bring in college age or other young women to help with the children. Help out at Vacation Bible School, or a Sunday school class, etc.
This may also sound silly, but get involved in something like Little League…assistant coaching, for example. I have had single girlfriends who will tag along to a game with me (a mom) or others in their own family (to see a nephew play, for example). Many of those young women prefer this type of activity because it resembles the kind of family life they would like to have. As a matter of fact, I have always thought the world of one of my friend’s brothers because he is single and he coaches. He puts his heart into those kids. If he lived closer than 4 hours away, you can bet I’d be introducing my single girlfriends to him! He is pretty selective about who he dates, too; and lives in a small town. If he was coaching where I live, I guarantee he would have a large selection of young, feminine women to choose from. So it’s a thought. And it doesn’t have to be baseball.
Think of the values you want in a woman and then go to the kind of places they would go or get involved in the things you believe they would be involved in if it interests you, also (that’s a key point…don’t do it if it isn’t something that interests you, too!). Bookstore? Theatre? Soup kitchen?
Not all the younger women these days are in night clubs. My 23-yo daughter has never frequented those places. She’s actually quite beautiful, but has always found her comfort at home. So she attended college, worked and would fill her time in places like Barnes & Noble, coffee shops, etc. She actually met her guy because he called the wrong number and they started talking! Not the norm, but it worked for them. The boyfriend prior she met through an interview to sing w/their band, and they met over coffee (she decided joining a band to use her voice talent was not for her). He was and still is a dear friend to her (he’s a respectable, educated young man), they just decided they weren’t suited as more than friends.
Understand that not all young, beautiful, intelligent, feminine women are going to be loitering in the more common places. They don’t have to!
Hope I’ve helped, at least to some degree. 🙂
I second this. The young women who are using Sir Guy’s guidance or similar familial guidance in their own lives are active. They are encouraged to be. So they really only have time for the things that matter. I volunteer every month for something. I enjoy community events and the people who go and organized these events are good people. Start there. Volunteer your time and you’ll never be disappointed.
Lady Kaikou
I would definitely agree with Hush on volunteering in some sort of way like with scouting or little league etc., something of your interest and skill that you can help teach children or teens. It will give you something else to focus on besides meeting women, but then on the other hand, I believe that seeing a responsible, educated man already focused on helping children will be irresistible to those “real” women who come into contact…even if it came up in regular conversation with someone you meet entirely outside of the activity. All women would probably respect you, and view you with a certain amount of mystery, seeing how valuable you would be as a spouse. Also, interacting with kids is very rewarding and will probably end up teaching YOU more than you think.
I think volunteering at a local charity is a good place to find women with strong values.
I’d like to mention that this blog isn’t about hearing things that women don’t want to hear, at least not all women. Some of us drink up the truths here like a dying man craves water. We realize that the feminist lie hasn’t liberated anybody from anything, but has instead enslaved foolish women with divers lusts. There are true women out there, women worthy of the name “woman” but you need to diligently look for them. Good luck!
I agree. It is so reassuring to hear the truths that you have always had in your heart. It keeps you going.
Lady Kaikou
Dear Guy,
Please- repeat, repeat, repeat. Each point said many different ways will finally soak in and be asborbed. It takes all of that repetion to combat our tendencies toward ungratefuleness, resentment, etc. i.e. feminism. Remind us again and again of the beauty of womanhood and how to love and admire the men in our lives.
I’m glad Trever wrote this to Sir Guy.
One might think an answer-seeking lady would do well to consult a woman who stayed home and avoided careerism for most of their lives. However, some of those women may be driven by envy and resentment to the radical point of guiding answer-seeking ladies toward careerism far more intensely than any other inspirational force available at the time, including active careerists.
Your Highness Catherine,
I kind of wish Trevor were still lurking. Perhaps as soon as tomorrow I’ll provide tips for guys trying to find dates online.
Guy
🙂