Some natural principles govern development of the mind.
Involved adults ‘program’ the subconscious mind of each child. Successful programming flows primarily from nurturing in the weans and dominant leadership in the tweens. But both of these adult capabilities lose effectiveness after puberty embraces a child.
Coaching succeeds best with teens, if adequate wiring and programming were done earlier.
At puberty a child’s subconscious is crowded, partially filled, or empty. It’s works as if the subconscious mind were finite.
If filled to capacity with adult and mature values for self-guidance, teen peer influence will be minimized. When it’s not filled with values that endorse mature adult behavior, ‘leftover room’ will be filled with teen peer values.
Children well-prepared for adulthood aspire to reach it. Rather than claim the glories of post-puberty teen independence, they seek smooth passage through adolescence in order to reach adult goals beyond.
Consequently, those well prepared for adulthood pass mostly unscathed by troubled teens. They minimize rather than add to family problems.
On the flip side, some kids pass through puberty with minds empty or near-empty of mature adult values. They are the troubled teens.
More follows about the subconscious.
[More about the mind appears in posts 187, 178, and 177. Best viewed in that order too. Scroll down or search by a number with dot and space following it.]
What Women Never Hear 
Well, the truth of the matter is that its time that we as parents and as a nation start approaching how we communicate and raise our kids through the troubled teen years change. A group of ex-troubled teens http://teensupport.com are proving this now. They are working with teens and parents by teaching teens the power of choice and helping parents see that “how” they perceive their relationship with their teen must change. I agree with this and think parents need to use a different approach as the old ways are not working.