747. RANDOM THOUGHTS — Group 10

• When women don’t appreciate and highlight manly courtesies, men grow indifferent to qualities that females like to see in men.
• If she doesn’t like herself very well, men over time have difficulty liking her.
• Her neatness captures his attention as prelude for displays of affection. Female sloppiness short-circuits the connection. 
• Raised without a father figure in their home, immodesty and immorality among girls should be excused out of ignorance. Mom’s lessons don’t impact clearly without girls seeing dad’s daily reactions, standards, and dictums.  
• The ultimate power of virginity lies with unconditionally forgiving masculine attempts to conquer it. It keeps men trying and enables her to screen more discreetly. Once the virgin yields, the power to resist new conquerors wanes but can be effectively restored with virtual virginity, by prioritizing thoughts above emotions.
• Modern day politics and feminist theory persuade females that males are undeserving of female respect. Consequently, men operate as if one woman will not maintain a home to his satisfaction, another will. Or, he can do it himself in the interim.

• Attention mothers of teenagers: A new study is out about bingeing both sex and drink in college coed dorms. Some details are at:

http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20091117/sc_livescience/nosurprisecoeddormsfuelsexanddrinking

746. Response to Viewer – Item 20

Her Highness Ladylike posed questions (bolded below) at post 23 about my beliefs regarding women pursuing careers.

My answers are based on the very different natures of men and women, and I ignore love, sex, Feminism, and other politics. Also, I admit this bias: Jobs and careers differ. A job to bring home some bacon is not the same as a career built upon significant investments of money, time, and education.

Do you believe that a woman should give up her career once she marries? I believe that men marry expecting no competition from outsiders. I also believe some men are selfish enough to think wife can bring home some bacon without his being offended by her independence, his outside competition for her time and effort, or both.

Should a woman who enjoys her career stay single? Not if she doesn’t want to. But I believe producing a successful and lasting marriage will be far more difficult than succeeding in her career. Plus, her job or career will rob her children, even if she has none.

Do you believe it is only appropriate for a married woman to pursue a career if she works from home? I believe that women are incomplete without children and that infants and toddlers denied mom-care 24/7 are denied the most unique and  priceless gift that God enables, Nature provides, and only mothers possess. I see her career as more anti-child than anti-marriage. I also believe that the greatest foundation for a child’s future is mom’s breast close at hand for many, many months—and not just for nursing. The second greatest foundation for children in modern America is home schooling, which carries further value and mom’s super influence into the tweens.

However, if a woman delights in work that isn’t limited to domesticity, surely she should be able to pursue it? She’s single and independent. Why not? If she chooses to marry, she will be expected to give up her independence two ways: First to depend on him. Second to keep her career independence from reversing, ruining, or cancelling the first. It takes more than pursuit.

I wish all careerists the very best. Life’s tough converting wishes into reality.

745. A Man’s Work is Never Done!

Women seek empathy, sympathy, compassion, understanding, and political advantage by expressing this apparently lifetime prison sentence: “A woman’s work is never done.” They cite double and triple duty in homecare, family care, childcare, employment or all of the above.

It’s the wrong approach to keep a man. It pushes husbands to focus on themselves in disregard for their wife. It invites his self-analysis and maybe a comeback about problems that seem far more monumental than hers ever could be. In short, she reaches for more equality—a female value. But he values fairness knowing that equality is impossible. He’s doing what he expects to do whether she appreciates it or not; he expects her to just do the same. They signed up for unequal conditions when they married heterosexually, don’t you know.

Moreover, her claim invades husband’s domain of expected dominance, the present. A husband resents and resists his wife’s infringements resolving today’s problems, because he foresees his major role to be producer, provider, protector, and problem solver—however underappreciated he may be.

Consequently, claiming her workload to be ‘never done’ energizes both sexes to act unnaturally. He’s expected to become more giver than taker, but it pushes her to be more taker than giver. Acting out of their nature elevates disputes to the irrational. Then, repeated claims of her unfinished workload challenge him to look elsewhere for relief.

The winning combination for wife is this: Claim that a man’s work is never done and let him rise to her expectations. The self-fulfilling prophecy works far better than blaming him for not helping enough.

744. Gender Differences Revisited — Group M

1. Men tend to navigate by directions, maps, and intuition. Women tend to navigate by landmarks.
2. Having to ask directions makes sense to a woman. Doing so confesses to a man’s insignificance.
3. Men tend to remember the past by events. Women tend to remember the past by emotions felt at the time.
4. Morality primarily serves women, because they need it much more than men.
5. If a woman fails to live within and uphold a self-imposed strong moral code, she can expect mistreatment by men. It’s not so for men.
6. Predominately men are takers and women givers. Marital strength lies with an imbalance accepted as fair but perceived as near enough to equal.
7. Promiscuity softens a woman’s hard-headedness and hardens her soft-heartedness. Promiscuity deadens a man’s respect for females.
8. Self-hatred in men causes rape and violence. In women it stimulates manipulation, self-destructive behavior, and loss of relationship expertise.

743. Her Affection Deficit Disorder

The female nature craves attention and affection at certain times, for specific reasons, and especially for confirming a woman’s self-love. His attentions add and his affection confirms worth to her, or so she feels.

·  Compared to four or five decades ago, female self-esteem is lower. Self-image is twisted from having bought into feminist issues that contradict the female nature. Consequently, females are hesitant, afraid, or ashamed to let their feminine nature shine through. It costs women, because the male’s Affection Delivery Disorder gets worse in the absence of femininity.

·  Females adopt the idea that they can do anything and everything that men can do. It’s okay and in many cases true. However, it contradicts their inherent female nature just enough that dodging femininity makes them phony to themselves. Thus weakened, their self-image does not prevent them from doing things contrary to their best and especially female-specific interests. With a shortage of self-respect and self-confidence, they rely more on emotional than rational thought, and men have an advantage and usually take it.

·  The popularity of unmarried sex causes males to lose unconditional respect for the female gender. Among teens it’s atrocious. Males, as competing hunter-conquerors, see females as dumb for not guarding their negotiable assets. But women need frequent and sometimes continual reaffirmation of their value to someone else to confirm their self-love. This drives females toward this paradox: For reaffirmation they provide sex. Having given it, men lose unconditional respect for the female gender. With less respect for the gender, the love of men weakens for individual females. With less pronounced femininity, a man’s A.D.D. gets worse.

·  When men show less respect, it reflects that women are somehow lacking something. This does two things: It further lowers female self-image, which weakens their sense of control of their lives. Lack of a sense of control then pushes women easily into desperation and toward depression.

In the end, the more intense her affection deficit, the more intense becomes his disorder for showing attention and delivering affection.

742. Nothing Tops This

A woman’s heart should be so hidden in Christ that a man should have to seek Him first to find her.

(Thanks to Her Highness Sharon at 719 for this gem. Credited to various people, the author has not been proven.)

741. Where Has All the Glamour Gone? Part B

Women have turned to the opposite of glamour, such as comfort, masculine behaviors, and feminist thought. They lose, so why do it?

·         To make the sexes look more alike? Well, dropping glamour from everyday life makes women abandon female standards of dress and grooming, and men gain the advantage when female standards weaken.

·         To act more like men? Well, women now dress and groom carelessly and sloppily and take up masculine eating habits and weight-gain proneness. They do the same raising their daughters. Do females benefit?

·         In response to the political agenda of Feminism? Well, it worked, and men have become more self-centered against females, the feminist agenda, and feminists’ most offensive strategy, political correctness. Plus, men have been bought off by free and easy access to sex with numerous females, so men don’t complain.

·         To take women out of the role of competing with each other for men? Well, it doesn’t. Women now steal each others’ man much more than when glamorous trends inspired women to focus on their own attractiveness for holding onto her man.

·         To shed the sex object image? Well, it works the opposite of intentions. Women now routinely appear unattractive for anything but sex.

·         To make men look for internal attractiveness and discover her whole person? Well, Nature doesn’t work that way. Men look for internal qualities when they need more persuasive arguments to convince a woman into their first sex together. If she’s not attractive on the outside, it makes him look for another woman. If men are too quick to look elsewhere, women yield sex more easily. If women do that, men are released quicker to look elsewhere, which brings on more and quicker yielding.

From lack of glamour that markedly separates men and women, female relationship misery expands as men are kept focused on sex everywhere. Sex objectification doesn’t ever die, and failure to dress it up with glamour just makes women cheaper and easier for men.

740. Where Has All the Glamour Gone? Part A

Why did the female gender throw out glamour as a theme for distinguishing women from men? Glamour adds an extra touch of class to a female’s presentation to both herself and others. Why have modern women given it up?

Encarta Dictionary shows three definitions of glamour:

1.     Exciting allure—an irresistible alluring quality that somebody or something possesses by virtue of seeming much more exciting, romantic, or fashionable than ordinary people or things.

2.     Expensive good looks—striking physical good looks or sexual impact, especially when it is enhanced with highly fashionable clothes or makeup.

3.     Spell—a magical spell or charm.

Wouldn’t women be blessed if they had any of those descriptions? Well, it doesn’t come naturally. The great wealth of American society enables and encourages it, but women have to exploit it.

Glamour adds great feminine value to women. When glamorous attractiveness makes her act and appear ladylike, men are pushed inescapably toward gentlemanly behavior. Not totally for getting sex either, but out of more respect for her. Ladylike appearance by itself quiets a man’s boldness for sex but lights his energy for finding out more about her.

Now, admittedly, I don’t do night life, so I don’t see what women look like going out at night. But, if daytime at work or shopping is any indication, they have no reason to blame men. Most women look common and stand out for nothing but sex targeting. Many invite hits and many don’t, but they all long for gentlemanly pursuit.

Whatever the reasons, it’s as if army riflemen were pushed into battle without ammunition. They would be ill-equipped to capture the enemy’s attention, hold him at a distance, and take control of whatever situations arise. Instead, their only option would be to readily lay down their arms.

Why do women do it? That’s tomorrow at #741.