780. Respectable Respect — Part B

This article continues yesterday’s about the impacts that respect has on the lives of females.

• Neatness, perhaps better than any other single thing, reflects outwardly a female’s self-respect. Her respect for neatness shows a drive to make everything come out right; it reflects intentions to do good. (Not to be confused with perfectionism, which flows from a shortage of self-respect.)
• Women broadcast their lack of self-respect by appearing in public sloppy, careless, uncombed, messy, and totally disrespectful of neatness. They have and exploit the freedom to do so. Men have and use their freedom to profile, stereotype, and disrespect them. 
• If a man’s love is founded on respect, and it is, why do women disrespect the male gender and do unrespectable things before they get to know men of interest? Do they expect their attitude of ingratitude to be reversible for one particular man?
• A girl refuses to respect conditions imposed by father on dating. She goes against his teaching and expectations. By so doing, she discloses that she hasn’t yet learned enough from dad about togetherness and protectiveness, how to contribute to a great family, or even sustain a good relationship. Her date also misses out on the lessons. (When girls don’t tame boys, they both grow into adolescent-minded adults.)
• Feminists killed unconditional respect for the opposite sex that so predominantly protects women and children. By doing so, the female gender lost its superior sense of dignity, self-respect, honor, and ability to govern cultural values. 
• You won’t like this, ladies, but you should exploit it rather than take offense: She has to earn his respect. He doesn’t have to earn hers. He expects the basics of her respect simply because he’s male, and females should respect his gender automatically. Admittedly, he measures by masculine standards; were he female, he would eagerly respect the male gender.
• Respect not shown returns respect unknown. Respect not earned will get you burned.

I close with the opener: Emerson said “The world turns on hope,” which speaks to what motivates people, what makes them run. However, respect determines how well the world turns, how effectively social intercourse satisfies those involved, which speaks to what people get out of life among other people.

108. Chaste courtship works—Part 3

NOTE: Thanks to Suzanne for triggering this post. She put a big smile on my face, and I love it when pretty women do that. Guy

Relationships start with attraction, infatuation, and lust; fold into passion and love; and level off as enduring mutual love. Or, so women hope.

The rules for success are many, but wrongs trump rules, Nature trumps Love, and men trump women that don’t know how to make men successful at husbanding and fathering.

For successful living with a man, women as the relationship expert need to overcome the innumerable devils in the details. For example:

• Men don’t take orders from women. It weakens his sense of significance. Women are much more effective conveying their expectations some other way, more indirectly.
• Women must qualify their man for marriage; condition him to accept her values, standards, and expectations; and expect never to change him after their first sex together.
• Man of the House, Head of the House, Home CEO, or whatever you call it, women indirectly govern the home unless she sided with the wrong man. It takes a long courtship to decide correctly.
• It’s her nest to build into a castle. But then, he expects comfort and convenience over her perfectionism, functionality over her style and fashion, and at least the appearance if not the actuality of him as boss. 
• Men respond to women eventually, but not immediately, directly, or openly. They need time and latitude to make his meeting her expectations look like something else—even his idea. Men can afford to be impatient, but their woman cannot. Patience is an immensely great female virtue for marriage.
• Men treat women as females teach them, mostly earlier in life. Mothers sometimes fail, girls stupidly don’t condition boys to respect females, and single women provide sex before they earn a man’s respect by not providing it. Hence, some men mistreat women.

People don’t mistreat those they respect. That’s why a long courtship helps qualify a man as having had a good upbringing and as having developed potential for treating her well.